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How to talk my girl into giving me a blowjob?

I've been seeing this girl for a while. We had sex on the first date and kept it going from there.
So far she has never agreed to give me a blowjob and always playfully say maybe another time.
Worth mentioning that I do go down on her in case you think I want what I'm not willing to give.
Also, I need some actual advice telling me to forget about it is not gonna help in this situation I tried, but vanilla sex gets boring easily and I don't want things to end because we couldn't keep it interesting.
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  • If she keeps telling you maybe later you should tell her maybe later is today. If she never did it before just tell her that you want to try it and if she doesn't like it she doesn;t have to continue. If she tries it and thinks it is gross you might have to accept that it ain't happening.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Sounds like she doesn't like doing them. You've already had sex, so it's not like it's "new", so to say "another time", to me suggests she's not into it. But if I'm wrong, then ask her why the delay? Or if your birthday is coming up, tell her what you'd REALLY like! lol

    • My birthday isn't until the end of the year unfortunately... and I figured it's not something she particularly likes but I still believe it's due to bad previous experience if she gave it a shot with me I'm sure I can make it a better memory. Problem is she wont2

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  • Send her this to read. She'll get the very obvious hint.
    Or you could read it together for fun.
    The Better Blowjob: A How-to Guide [Part 1]

    • Wow I read through that and it's actually amazing that you put all that time in writing this full guide. An intersting thing you mentioned is giving a woman a bad experience that makes her less likely to want to do it. I think this girl has had exactly that, it's clear she associates a BJ with something bad and doesn't wanna be put there again but me I keep it shaved and extra clean whenever we meet. We're always safe and I do go rough sometimes but I'm never forceful just make sure she cums (multiple times) so it's hard to think of something that can tempt her into trying it

    • Hmm sounds like you're doing everything right. It might be a bit too much to get it out of her, exactly why she's not interested or comfortable with it. Have you told her how much you love it - how amazing it makes you feel. Try being really descriptive and enthusiastic (without being only graphic.) And make sure that she doesn't think that you will think any less of her for doing it. Maybe have a shower together? I wonder if it comes down to her ideas about guys' hygiene, or her image (she doesn't want to be seen as trashy.) You can force a girl. Maybe she's a bit young and just hasn't come to terms with it yet, psychologically. That's about all I've got for you. You sound like a decent guy and are not doing anything wrong here. Maybe it just is what it is. Maybe your ideas of "a while" is not long enough for her. And she's not your girlfriend, so maybe she just needs more time to feel comfortable with you, your relationship, and her sexuality.

    • Well we're about a box and a half of condoms in so I don't think we're still in the ealry stages. As far as age goes she's actually a year older than me and had 6 past relationships (i only had 2 friends with benefits) The shower does sound like a good idea and we talked about it but neither one of us has a shower big enough for 2 unfortunately. I would never force her obviously but I'm pretty tenacious when I want something so I won't stop trying to get her to do it either but thanks for the help I do feel more motivated now

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  • Have a heart to heart with her about why she doesn’t want to. Tell her why it’s important to you.

    • But is it a fair request to make? To be honest she's the third girl I ever slept with and the first two went down there on their own I even used to stop them myself just so I can keep enough strength to go all the way. I don't wanna come off as unreasonable or make her think that she either takes it or we're done. I do enjoy the other things we do and I have respect for her so how firm can I be with my request?

    • From my perspective it’s not unreasonable at all. I suck dick every day and I’ve been with my husband for 20 years.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Tell her to just stop being boring. And don't go down if she doesn't. Sucking is sooo common

    • She actually beat me to that one. When I asked for head and she said no I was about to go down on her when she said I don't have to do it if I don't want to. But I did it anyway because I don't do things and expect things in return. Going down on her is something I enjoy but I still want a blowjob

    • Don't ask for it again. Don't go down either. Also a day will come that she is horny and wants Sex. That day refuse and tell her you not in the mood

  • Ugh. If she hasn’t displayed an interest or willingness by now, she never will. And if she eventually does, I’m pretty sure she isn t going to be any good at it and you will be able to detect her disinterest in it.
    I only like head from girls that relish my dog.

  • I want to help but I don't know how. Because in my case I actually wanted to try blowjobs

    • Well she once mentioned that she doesn't like the gag reflex but I don't think she was being honest. I did mention she can take it as deep as she wants I won't push her but still she changed the subject. Maybe you can tell me what the experience was like, give me some perspective on what I can do to make her want to.

  • Tell her that you’d like her to blow you !

    • I already have she keeps dodging it and it gets awkward too since she wants to say no but instead choses to talk about something else or just kiss me or anything other than getting down there

    • Do you eat her? If so , stop until she decides to take care of you too!

  • You ask nicely and if she says non you take no for an answer.

    • I already tried but it's not gonna work in the long run. If the answer will always be no I'll find myself outsourcing the job and when I find a new willing parter I'll also have to end things here because I'm not someone who "cheats". But I'm trying for things not to come to that because I do enjoy this girl's company I just know deep down that boring sex will get even more boring later

  • She simply doesn’t want to.
    leave her alone

    • No offense but this is exactly the reply I mentioned won't do me any good. I'm not forcing her into anything telling me to "leave her alone" makes it sound she's not chosing to be with me. She is. All I wanna know is what's the propper way or communicating that I want something sexual without being a creep or giving her no other choice

    • He doesn't want to give you oral sex. Stop trying and don't be a creep.

  • just ask. if she says no, move on

  • I had this once and ended up going to another girl for blowjobs (and sex), and then I just ended up with the other girl.

    • If it comes down to that for me I might end up doing the same. I mean I have no interest in seeing two girls at once if I end up finding someone this would be relationship will be over before it even picked up.

    • If they can call the shots on everything based on what they want or don't want then so can we.

    • Well I've always been the shot caller in my own life. I can proudly say I never let a girl tell me what to do or get me to do something I don't wanna do. I have done what girls wanted before but only because she and I wanted the same thing but trust me I've been single for so long that I am not afraid of ending up alone and would chose solitude a thousand times before abuse

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