Does head-pushing mean you're bad at giving head?

I'll be honest here and admit that I'm a bit of a late-bloomer, having only lost my virginity back in December and having my first kiss like three months before that, so this might just be me overthinking things as a newbie. My apologies if it is, I just figured I'd give it a shot.

I've noticed that whenever I give him head, he always ends up grabbing my head at some point. It seems like it's sometimes to push it deeper, while at others, he'll more-so hold my head there when I manage to take it deeper myself. I'm not too great at doing the later since I have a bad gag reflex, so he very well might be doing it to try to help me out, I'm not sure.

He does seem to like it more rough and dominant on his part too, so I don't know if that might play into it a bit. Like he does tend to seem more turned-on when he makes me gag on it but that might just be wishful thinking on my part.

I've heard that if a guy pushes your head when you're giving a bj, it usually means that you're not doing it well. Now I've always felt like my performance was never good, especially since he has a lot more experience than I do, but he insists that I'm "a natural" and that I give great head. I feel like he's just saying that to make me feel better though. Again, I might just be insecure and reading too much into it.

Just looking for more input on this.
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  • "I've heard that if a guy pushes your head when you're giving a bj, it usually means that you're not doing it well."

    No, not at all. A lot of guys do this now because they've seen it in porn, and there's also a huge trend for guys to fall into the dom role, and girls to be submissive and subordinate to whatever the guy wants.

    To be completely fair, it could also be that he's really into the moment, it feels great, and he's trying to feel even more. But harder, faster, deeper, does not actually feel best. So keep that in mind. Young guys don't know. They don't do subtlety much.

    There's one technical reason, in addition or instead, that the guy does this. He's looking for more pressure. Pressure feels good, and even as the mouth is the most precise in being able to wrap around the guy and create varying degrees of tension, some girls do too much head bobbing and not enough other stuff. So he could be wanting it to feel tighter.

    But honestly, odds are, he's just trying to dominate and control the situation.

    If you don't like it, and find it's too bossy or aggressive, tell him no. It's as simple as that. You are giving him pleasure, it's your show, your gift to give, and he should appreciate however you choose to give it. I mean it.

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  • Head pushing can also be a porn thing they have seen. It is pretty common in that kind of material for him to control her head or thrust into her mouth. It is kind of a power domination thing so he may be emulating that. If you aren'y okay with it communication is vital that you don't.

    Have you made him climax while giving him head. If so then I think you are fine.

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  • When getting a bj, it feels real good, and there is a tendency to want to direct her head to make sure it keeps feeling good. It's a little like thrusting deeper, when in her. However, the guy needs to be considerate, and appreciate her sucking. One big way to show his appreciation, is to not push her head down on him, and to let her give the bj in a manner that is comfortable to her. When she has my cock in her mouth, she is doing me the favor, and I need to not let the good feelings take over so much, that I'm disrespectful to her, by pushing her head down. And no, just because he pushed your head down, does not mean that you aren't giving an excellent bj.

  • Firstly I have no experience but I hear others.
    Simple answer is no. Like you said it's sometimes just to get him deeper in your mouth and he seems like a dom so it gives him control.
    Does he like it and cum from it? Yeah so he likes your mouth!
    Her just likes being dominant, maybe try hanging your head off the bed and letting him take control 1 time, great results!
    But I'm sure you give great head lol

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  • I wouldn’t say so. I’ve had guys push my head while blowing them but didn’t mean I was bad, my assumption is they found it hot from seeing it in porn and probably fantasized trying it with a girl in real life. I wouldn’t think too much into it you know just be yourself and please him the best you can and we’re all unique in our own ways.

  • No some guys just do that

  • It's not that's it bad per se, they just usually want you to go deeper

  • No, it means your boyfriend has watched too much porn. Tell him to lay back and relax if he wants you to continue giving head. Or ask if you can tie his hands to the bed. He'll probably go for that.

    If you really want to, you can learn to suppress your gag reflex with practice.

  • I don't know might mean he is getting excited. Communication is helpful

  • No...

  • no it doesn't

  • No, probably just something he likes

  • I don't think it means that. If he likes it deep I think vaginal sex is better suited for that

  • It means that the guy is really horny and wants to fuck your mouth and throat. Good work