I would like you guys to help me understand why i'm feeling like this?

[Anonymous]

I'm the type of person who always ignores my own emotions.

Lately, i started missing an ex that i broke up with years ago. Today i started to miss her and i started to feel the same greif i felt the first day after breaking up and i don't know why!

Even though that girl never really liked me and we didn't click but i really miss her, i liked how she spoke, took care of her, wore and even the way she got angry.

That girl had spacial place in my heart that no one ever got to reach even though she some how used me as a rebound (without realizing she was).

I liked her so much that even if she didn't have a pussy or she got a disease that made her unable to have sex, i would still have married her.
Her presence was enough for me.

[exitseven]

Life is weird like that. Sometimes an old relationship can seem like it was better than it actually was. Everybody looks back at one time or another and usually you only remember the good stuff. I have done this myself.
You just have to try and move on. It is a nice memory but you are living in the here and now and you owe it to yourself to make your life the best version you can.
I dated somebody for a few months an she dumped me very cruelly. She had a best friend that I liked very much. She made it clear that she wanted it to be more than a friendship. I was still angry about getting dumped and I took it out on her.
Years later I regretted not taking advantage of the situation.

[Iron_Man]

You are right in the middle of a pandemic it’s only natural to have these feelings

[Asker]

Where i live the pandemic hasn't caused us to retreat to our houses and nest lol Nothing ever closed here since the pandemic started.

[Iron_Man]

Well you’re very lucky

[Asker]

Thanks man

[Iron_Man]

You’re welcome

[Siren777]

You haven't truly healed from your past so now it's stuck on replay. The only way would be to make peace with what you're feeling and make a decision to move on for yourself and your mental health. When you're ready, start dating again and keep an open mind when it comes to people.

[loves2learn]

You need to let those emotions out, feel them, and move on.

[Asker]

Typical answer but thank you.

[loves2learn]

You’re welcome. It’s the healthiest thing to do.

[Avicenna]

You just haven't moved on yet. I'd advise meeting other women to forget about her.

[Anonymous]

It's called unconditional LOVE or maybe you're just lonely

[Asker]

What do you consider lonely, Maybe i am. I can asure you that if a 10/10 girl wants to date me i would say no, because honestly relationships aren't that important to me nor do i crave girls attention. As for the unconditional love, i think to have it you have to at least known a person for years and that i didn't happen between us. But i appreciate your time for writing this.

[Opinion Owner]

Lonely as in you don't have any girl you're talking to rn. Love has nothing to do with time. You can be with someone for many years and have zero feelings or you can know someone for few months and be crazy in love. QUALITY OVER QUANTITY

[Asker]

Maybe i feel like that towards her! And, Yes, i'm not talking to a girl right now because i haven't seen someone as interesting.

[Asker]

To be fair, she was my first girlfriend and i heard that first love affects a person like that.

[Opinion Owner]

That can be one reason. I do still sometimes dream about my first love but it's not because i want to date him now. It's because of the old me who wnated this to happen . So maybe you just want to see the WHAT IF in that relationship. You never know. Maybe hit her up and see if she's sinfle

[Asker]

Years have passed and she wanted us not be to in contact. I contacted her that would be inappropriate and clingy. It broke my heart not going to lie but i still have pride.

[Asker]

She didn't want us to be in contact (stay in touch)*

[Asker]

If i contacted her*

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think it will be clingy after many years. Just go find her social media and act like it was an accident

[Asker]

You don't understand, i was her rebound which means to some degree i didn't mean anything to her. When i asked this question, i didn't ask to find a reason or convince myself to contact her because i surpassed that phase and no one will ever understand how that relationship didn't make it easier on me to contact her after we broke up. All i mean, i asked this question to get this out of my chest anonymously because no one will ever understand not even her.

[Opinion Owner]

Ya i kinda get what you mean. It's just sad that she isn't knowing about these strong feelings you have

[Asker]

It's sad that i still feel those feelings.