Can people be immune to someone whom they previously were sexually or romantically attracted to?

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Can people be immune to someone whom they were previously sexually or romantically attracted to? Meaning someone that they had "feelings" for before?

It goes for all genders, but I'm going to give just one example, otherwise it'll get too long.

I just wondered. Sometimes good women meet guys that behaved certain ways when they were trying to pursue them, but when they found someone new, they stopped talking to the previous women.

Let's say a guy admittedly said that he was sexually attracted to a woman, also said that she was deserving (whatever that's supposed to mean, maybe a little emotional feeling) and the woman was NOT sexually or romantically attracted to him, but did consider him a good friend because of other conversations and advice they had.

Would this guy be immune, or able to resist the sight of this woman, even though he stopped calling her and texting her, but talk occasionally in person?

I believe that it would be empowering knowing that a woman can still give a guy painful boners although she does not feel a thing for him. Maybe a little hurt that she mistakenly thought they were friends, but she'll get over it, while this guy would have boners whenever he sees her (in unavoidable situations, not for social situations).

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I'm asking if people can resist someone that was irresistible to them in the past? Someone whom a person was sexually and/or emotionally attracted to.

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Slartybartfast Explorer
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Girl I had a crush on all through highschool dated this tattoo covers creepy player type.

I totally lost interest, in fact the idea of kissing her after that guy makes me sick a little.
The funny part is I met her a few years later at a club and she asked me why I never asked her out. When. I told her it was because she went with this guy she didn't seem to understand I didn't want an STI.
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Jamie05rhs Master
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Yes; absolutely!

Once I get over someone, I'm over them for good. They basically become genderless to me. They're just another human.
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- Asker
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  I'm talking about when the other person didn't go anything, but it's you who just found someone else new to be attracted to. If the person did something which repelled you, then sure, you may become unattracted to the person, but I'm referring to when you were the one who just wanted something new and change sexual interests in people at speed of changing clothes.
- Jamie05rhs
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  You specifically said, "and the woman was NOT sexually or romantically attracted to him". That is what you wrote.
- Asker
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  Yes, but I asked if you were the one who was sexually and/or emotionally attracted to a woman (while she only considered you as a friend) and you found another female to be sexually and/or emotionally attracted to, not that the first woman did anything, it was only because you changed sexual interests at the speed of changing clothes, can you be immune to the first woman as soon as you start talking to the other female and stopped talking to the first?
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- Asker
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  Meaning if the woman did something which repelled you, yes it's reasonable to just stopped being attracted to her, but if she didn't do anything, it was you who were the one that was shopping for women, would you be able to resist the first woman just like that once you start talking to another female?
- Jamie05rhs
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  You're not listening. She DID do something! She very explicitly rejected me! She said "no; I am not interested in dating you.". How much clearer can it get? The only reason I'm talking to the second woman is because the first woman is Not Interested! Get it?
- Asker
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  No, she didn't reject you. You considered you a good friend, even though you wanted her only for sexual purpose. Would you still get boners like you used to when you see her, once you found the second female to talk to? I'm asking if you could just become immune to the first woman as easy as snapping fingers? Meanwhile she is frustrated that she just lost a friend for no reason, because apparently some guys don't want to keep female friends and only talk to women if he can get in their pants. I'm not saying that he's looking for committed relationships with the women that he talks to, many could be for sex purposes as previously verbalized sexual attraction and fantasy by such man.
- Asker
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  Correcting: She* considered you a good friend
- Jamie05rhs
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  "No, she didn't reject you.". Yes, she absolutely did. "even though you wanted her only for sexual purpose.". That's not true at all. I wanted a relationship, not sex. "Would you still get boners like you used to when you see her, once you found the second female to talk to?". I didn't get boners for her. I don't get boners for girls that I know. I consider that to be inappropriate. "I'm asking if you could just become immune to the first woman as easy as snapping fingers?". No, it's not quite that easy. It's difficult, actually. But it's just something that has to be done. If something isn't happening -- if there's no chance at all -- you have to move on. It happens to all of us. It's just a natural part of life that you have to deal with. "Meanwhile she is frustrated that she just lost a friend for no reason, because apparently some guys don't want to keep female friends and only talk to women if he can get in their pants.". No, she didn't lose a friend. I'm still here. I didn't go anywhere. "I'm not saying that he's looking for committed relationships with the women that he talks to, many could be for sex purposes as previously verbalized sexual attraction and fantasy by such man.". Well, that's not me.
- Asker
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  I'm referring to a guy who has admitted that he was sexually attracted to a woman, as I clearly stated in my descriptions of background situation, maybe slightly emotionally attracted but who knows? Can people, or he, just be immune to such woman when he starts talking to another female and ignoring the first woman, because he probably only talks to and texts women when he can get something from them.
- Jamie05rhs
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  Just because you're sexually attracted to someone doesn't mean you'll get boners. Boners are kind of optional (for men, anyway. Maybe teen boys can't control it that much; I don't know.)
- Asker
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  In my question, I'm asking about a situation, not about you. It's a hypothetical situation, if you were such guy, would you just not react to the first woman after you start talking to another female, or what do you believe or think people would do, would they just become immune to someone they were attracted to? Yes, when 2 people don't work out, they move on, but it doesn't equate to them being able to accomplish such tasks easily. A person might not like going to school, but he/she has to go, in order to get into their dream career, so he/she does. A person might not like the recent breakup that he/she went through. He might be angry, she might cry, they might have reminiscence of their past, but they have to go through the breakup, so they did, but it doesn't mean that it's easy. Are they immune to each other 1 week after breakup? She still aches in her heart whether she sees him. He still wants to embrace her like they used to. In 2 weeks are they immune to each other? Maybe she found out that she deserves better, so doesn't hurt as much, but he still craves for her closeness.
- Jamie05rhs
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  Okay. I was just responding based on my personal experience. (It's not just a hypothetical for me.) "would you just not react you the first woman...". What do you mean by "not react," exactly? Of course. I didn't say it was easy. It's just something you have to do. "1 week? ...2 weeks?". That all depends on the depth and length of the relationship.". But if there never was a relationship at all, then I can move on pretty much immediately. In fact, I will sometimes even move on before I know the answer. Time should not be wasted waiting for other people to make up their minds.
- Jamie05rhs
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  Thanks for the MHO.
- Asker
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  When I said "react" I was referring to whatever previous reactions you would have towards the first woman. For example, if you would get boners whenever you see Woman A, were sexually attracted to her, with or without emotional attraction. Once you start talking to Woman B, would you just not get boner when you see Woman A again?
- Jamie05rhs
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  Well, again, I never got boners for her at all. Did I have emotional feelings? Yes. Was I also sexually attracted to her once in a while? Yes. On your question of whether I could be attracted to Woman A again after starting to talk to Woman B... the answer is: "It depends.". There is a brief window of time in which a reversal is possible. But for the that to take place, it is going to take Effort on the part of Woman A. As far as I'm concerned, she's dead to me (and I'm dead to her.). So if she wants me, she's going to have to convince me otherwise. ... But she'd better hurry up and say something quickly before Woman B claims me for herself.

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boggboss Master
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Yes people can get to a point where they dislike or disgust with a person can overpower sexual needs or wants
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just_a_potato Yoda
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I don't know. But I broke up 3 weeks ago, if I contacted my ex in anyway today I would probably fall into his arms again not thinking about how bad of an idea it is
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- Jamie05rhs
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  I'm sorry to hear that. :(
- just_a_potato
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  @Jamie05rhs its I'm thank you 💜
- Jamie05rhs
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  You're welcome. 💛