I did something really impulsive and now I don't know what I should do?

[Anonymous]

I'm a lesbian, I need to metion that.
A few weeks ago, I was with my friend Ana (she knows I am a lesbian) at school and we were going to our class and well, I noticed that she wasn't with me anymore, so I looked behind and I saw her talking to another two girls. I walked up to them and just stood there until my friend finished taking, when she did, those two girls noticed I'm there and said hi. One of that girl looked into my eyes and smiled at me, and my heart just...
But I brushed it of and just walked away to my class. Since then, everywhere I am I look for that girl, and when I see her I am so relieved for some reason, I liked watching her, but at that time i couldn't bring myself to talk to her. I know her name and that she is a little older than me, because my friend told me when i asked.

ANYWAY SO YESTERDAY AT SCHOOL I was going to the bathroom so I could change because I had gym class or P. E or how americans call it and I saw her in the hallway and I just screamed: "(Her name), you are beautiful, I like you! I really like you!" and then just walked away, I was with my friend Ana again and I think she was with like 5 friends so I was a total jerk for screaming that in front of her friends, she might be straight and thinks that I am a total freak and I can't argue.

The thing is... she doesn't look straight- I'm dumb for saying that! It's not like: "I cAn FeEL wHeN A WoMaN iS gAy" and I know what I did was wrong. I should've just told her that I want to talk to her in private and then tell her how I feel, but I didn't and I'm sorry for that.

And I am not afraid of her, I want to get her phone number and call her and you know... I wanna see her... but it's harder to talk to her than before and she is always, always with her friends and I- How should I approach her? How should I- And you know- It's not like I can afford I relationship right now- I have an important exam next year and she has one this year... But I really want this girl-

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Seriously, I was grinning the whole time I read this because I had a very similar awkward experience approaching the woman who would eventually become my wife too.

It was just like the movies, I saw her at work and it was like soft filters and sparkles and the world slowed around me and all I could see was her. It truly was one of those love at first sight kinds of things.

I am usually very flirty and great with words, but when it came to her I got super tongue tied. I approached her and all I could get out was "is it OK if I write about you?" Internally, I was screaming at myself for how cringe it sounded and the look on her face didn't make it any easier.

Luckily for me, she was a good sport and eventually let me off the hook by saying yes. So I went back and I worked my a** off on writing the best poem I could write about her.

Yours is one of those stories that either will be a fun story the two of you will tell others or it will be one of an embarrassing moment that was still really cute. Either way, it was awesome you were able to get your feelings known. 🥰

I hope it works out for you two!

[Asker]

I just saw this comment- That is so sweet- Thank you so much for sharing this lovely story and giving me courage! You are a really cool person!

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Aww np hun. I expect a followup to say how it goes once you get a definitive answer from her. Can't leave me hanging like this lmao

[Asker]

So. I am late, but she is straight, sorry "super straight". I am happy for her tho, she has red painted nails and wears t-shirts with flowers and has nice looking jeans and yes, she is beautiful and deserves a good guy who can make her happy. If you want to hear how it went... I saw her, my heart jumped and my stomach hurt like hell and I stopped and turned and then turned again and I remembered that I need to be confident if I want to win her heart (just no). I wasn't, at all. I was super awkward and I asked her:"You are Theo, aren't you?", I don't even remember if I told her my name, she shaked my hand tho- then i told her that I am the girl who screamed... you know what in the hallway. I told her again that I like her, she said thanks, then I asked her if she is straight, maybe i should've asked if she is bi instead but my brain was just not working and she told me: "I'm super straight" then she was distracted by her classmates, I didn't want to push it anymore and i just said bye and went to the bathroom because I felt like crying for doing such an embarrassing thing and because it wasn't enough for me to like her, if i don't stand a chance, cause you know... i am not a boy. Anyway, Ana comforted me, she gave me a hug, she told me that I still have time to meet new people and that is true. She wasn't the love of my love and what i felt for her wasn't love. Thank you so much for your support.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Oof, I'm so sorry hun. Not the ending either of us were looking for on this one. I am so proud of you for being bold and directly speaking with her about it. It means you know you can do it next time regardless of how this one turned out.

[Asker]

thank you again, you are the best!

[Aassem]

What you did was great I don't think you should regret it, it's much better than just pulling her aside an talk to her without her expecting anything or knowing anything about you. Now she knows you and she possibly feels positively about you and even expect you to talk to her sometime like a normal talk to clarify what you did, now you gotta keep her noticing you and you should talk to her when you can and stay brave and awkward, that leaves stronger impressions, but don't over do it, for now just next time you gotta talk to her or something..

[Asker]

That is really cute- Thank you I'll try talking to her- I posted this question because 1. I wanted to vent my frustration and 2. I really don't know what to do and I could use help from anyone, a guy or a girl. Thank you for being so positive, you gave me a little confidence!

[Aassem]

What you need to do is pursue what you want. As simple as that! And you are welcome 😌

[RickDavis766]

It seems like she probably knows how you feel after you yelled it at her. 😅
The ball is kind of in her court now.
You should just ask Ana to get some information for you.
#1. Is that girl you like lesbian, bisexual or bicurious?
#2. Does she like you?

[Asker]

Why haven't I asked ana before?- I... you really opened my eyes, thank you! I'll definitely ask Ana if she is bi or a lesbian. And I really hope she does and if she doesn't I'll feel awkward for a while but I'll get over it. Thank you very much for your kind answer!

[RickDavis766]

No problem, good luck. 🙂

[TheSpaceGnome]

I dunno why you are thinking it was bad but all you did was admit how you felt.

The only person who stands to feel awkward doing it that boldly in that situation, is you.

And yet you did it anyway, Now you just gotta wait, either she likes you or doesn't, her reply is what should be private, if she wants to be as loud as you were it should be her choice.

[Asker]

I would be really funny if she screamed right back at me. I want to talk to her on Monday and tell her i'm sorry, and if she wants to give me her number or something- thank you for your answer

[TheSpaceGnome]

lol yeah it would be, and good luck!

[Wise4myage]

Its not hard to talk to her at all, you are just making it seem like it is. So fight through the nervous feelings and try to pick a time when you can approach her one on one.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

if you're les. why are you on a site called girlsaskguys

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Hi there! Local lesbian here also on this app. What does out sexual orientation have to do with asking guys questions?

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

cause it's about asking MEN things, not about women asking about women things that's the point

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Hey lookie there, I just asked a guy a question and he answered. Still a lesbian.. I think I might be using the site correctly 🤔 Pretty sure it is just a name though. Could you imagine branding it as "girls ask guys and also other girls while guys can also ask girls and also other guys in what amounts to an echo chamber of the same rehashed questions of sexuality and race"? If we weren't able to ask other women questions it wouldn't even be an option. 😊

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Are you that dumb?

[Ez-Bri-Z]

I don't think so. Are you always so literal? Like if you come to a 4 way stop do you just get permanently stuck because it the sign never tells you to go? I mean, if that's the case then I pity you, but if you actually do go because you use actual common sense then I think you might be able to figure out why people use this site outside of the title. 😉

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

i think you are that dumb The site is literally girls ask guys, what don't you get about that

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Aww hun, you really don't want to keep doing this. It's still early and I just want to enjoy my Saturday. Just gonna give you one more chance to try and not be dense and watch it with the insults.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

touche

[Asker]

@Ez-Bri-Z You are really cool- I wasn't even gonna answer this opinion. Thank you for answering and just- saying what needed to be said- and I'm sorry that i didn't answer myself but i didn't know how and what i should say. I feel so awkward right now, sorry.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

You have absolutely zero things to apologize for 😊 Don't feel awkward either. I write for a living and for fun so I always try to have the best things to say on hand. Melts here isn't bad, just a bad confused but I think we are all good now. We are all super awesome possum, so just smile 😃

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

god you two are fucking annoying and ill be blocking both

[jimmy2]

Well pull her aside for a minute tell her see if she gay and interested

[Asker]

That would be so awkward and weird- but you have a point, I should be straight forward and tell her what I feel. Thank you!