I CAN'T TELL if guys are good-looking or not. I'm not sure if this is an American thing. Can you tell when both guys and girls are good-looking?

[Rab1901]

I'm curious. I'm a straight male by the way. I have heard several straight American guys say they can't tell when guys are good looking. I know that many girls find this to sound fishy and not genuine, but I promise we are not making this up.

From what I can tell, most straight girls can tell when other girls are good-looking, and I know guys who can tell as well but there definitely are some guys who can't.

I don't know if it's because I just don't care/haven't paid attention or if I'm just really really straight. I have heard people say we are all kinda bisexual but I feel pretty damn straight.

If you have a possible explanation as to why some can't tell and some can, please leave a comment!

[loves2learn]

You aren’t very observant or don’t care. I’m an American female and I can appreciate another attractive female. Even compliment her on looking nice. But I’m not sexually attracted to women.

[Jammaa]

Woops I misclicked F while scrolling through the answers. I meant to choose C

[ceraunophile]

Men who say that they can't tell when other men are good looking, are usually insecure about their sexual orientation or they're just generally insecure. Confident men do make comments when a guy is good-looking.

Both sexes are able to acknowledge when a person of their own sex is attractive or good-looking. But men are also too pressured by society to appear "masculine", so a lot of them avoid making such comments on other men. Straight men who are really confident about their sexuality and themselves, do not give a sh*t

[Rab1901]

This is exactly what I mean with girls thinking we are not being genuine... This is an unnecessary attack towards people who think like me. A guy's reality is nothing like a girl's. My sister also thinks it could be due to the pressure by society, and maybe it is from all the conditioning throughout the early years of my childhood but at this moment in time I sincerely can't tell and don't remember if I ever could. There are many guys like myself who don't even know that they themselves are good looking since we are not constantly fed compliments like girls are. Meanwhile girls who are average looking think they're hot shit. For me personally, girls have mostly only complimented after I started flirting with them. I became a good flirt later in life but some of the most gorgeous girls (bartenders, models, cheerleaders, actresses, etc) have told me I'm good looking and I've even kissed them and more. And I'm not sure if it's because I'm actually good looking or if it's due to my personality. Again, it's not insecurity since I'm sure most guys would rather have the ability to flirt with girls than to just look good. But at this time, I am pretty convinced that I do look good but again, it's not because I can tell when I look in the mirror. It's because I have been told this a lot after I've flirted.