Is it true when my new boyfriend says he can't cum with a condom on?

We been having sex but he wants to be bare. I'm 18 so I don't know and never heard this before. he's 19 and says he hates condoms and can't cum. So do I let him? I want to make him happy/
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  • You are still very young and have a future in front of you. Do not jeopardize your future because of someone else.

    Yes, it is harder but not impossible. Me and my boyfriend are both 22 years old and always use a condom and he always came with a condom on. We both want to dosex without a condom but it is too risky. Remember these are just a few minutes, which can effect the rest of your life.

    If you want to, and only if you want to, try going on birth control. That way you are still being protected even without a condom. Me and my boyfriend are recently talking about whether I should start the pill. But only start it if you want to. If he leave you because of that then honey it is not a loss. You would be getting rid of trash.

    However, if he loves you and respects you, he will understand where you are coming from. It all depends on what you want in life. But remember, having sex without a condom, can get you pregnant, even if you are low. Also all the diseases you can get so get that checked as well before!

    Hope this helps and please always stay true to yourself. Never do something you are not comfortable with just for the sake of others. You are more important then that.

    Plus, you re still having sex, so thats hella good! Enjoy this safe sex for now and as you get older you can have all the sex without a condom with him! Right now you re still young and still have a lot of things to do before getting pregnant!

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  • I don't like condoms, but I've never experienced that a guy couldn't cum. So I guess the guy just wants to cum inside you only.

    • it's rare but it can happen

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  • Possibly. Probably not, though. There are different condom types and styles; if he's been sticking to thicker, heavier ones, he might not be getting the stimulation he needs. Material can be an issue, too; I'm told that lambskin transmits feeling better than latex, but it's less effective at preventing the spread of disease. Do your research, and work with him to find a solution that works for you both. If pregnancy's your big concern, and you can't find a condom you can both agree on, remember that oral and digital are still options.

    Some of the other answers you've been given here are downright antagonistic; I can't help but wonder how a person winds up with so little respect for themselves and their sex. Your relationship isn't solely about you; it's a PARTNERSHIP. Bear that in mind.

  • Well, some guys do feel uncomfortable with condoms, usually a case with men who are not very experienced. But still it is not safe to have sex without condoms, one little mistake and you could get pregnant. Their is a small possibility that he is just lying to have raw sex with you. In any case, don't risk it and don't have sex without condoms at all. If he forces you to have sex without condoms, inform the authorities or someone of superior position.

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  • I have a very difficult time reaching orgasm wearing a latex condom. So called "natural" or "lambskin" condoms are much more comfortable. Although effective contraceptives, natural condoms are not recommended as protection against AIDs. Nevertheless, you set the rules.

  • If he can't cum with a prophylactic, its because subconsciously his BODY seeks to impregnate you...
    atavistically its what empowers his arousal and subconscious desire~

    Wanna kill the mood? At those moments ask him candidly:
    "So you're telling me you WANT to get me pregnant and you'll support YOUR child?"
    Watch the obfuscation and sudden back peddling!

  • He is talking bollox and just trying to con you.

    yes they can make it hard to reach orgasm but at that age it’s utter crap. if he is having problems then he needs to get his problem checked out.

    also has he had a sexual health test?

    are you on birth control and have you been tested also?

    do you trust him not to fuck around and give you say HIV or Hep?

  • It's called manipulation it's called do not be played the fool because if you get pregnant he's gone can you have a baby in your stomach that you're going to raise on your own do not listen to any of his bullshit and if he really loved you he would understand everything I just said and he would wear a condom

  • HE IS LYING!!! He doesn't want to wear one, because some whine, and pretend it reduces sensations! Not that much, and BULLSHIT LIES!
    Let him have sex with you, without a condom, and when you get pregnant, I GUARANTEE he will insist it isn't his, and run away like a DOUCHE BAG LOSER!!
    It's your body, and what are you going to do, when you get pregnant and he dumps you?

  • This is a tough one.
    First you must not get pregnant or catch STI's.
    But he needs to cum. Some guys aren't sensitive and can't feel you enough to stimulate him with condom.
    So there will have to a tradeoff.
    Get tested with him for any STI.
    Then get on the pill or IUD to prevent pregnancy.
    There is also oral/handjob satisfaction.

  • He can get over it. Tell him to masturbate while wearing a condom. Are you on contraception? Are you SURE he’s clean and not having sex with anyone else? Then you could safely have sex without a condom.

  • He just wants to take it off...

  • Maybe tougher to ejaculate with a condom, depending on how thick the rubber is.

  • It's unlikely. Not unheard of, but very unlikely.

  • He's lying. Always use a condom or some other form or birth control unless you want to risk pregnancy (and don't let him talk you into the pullout method. That is the LEAST effective way of preventing pregnancy. Half a dozen kids in my family were the result of a pull-out oops)

  • If he is well endowed the standard condom size might be too tight for him. He should be measured to make sure he gets a proper fit.

  • Nope

  • He's full of sh! t.
    He can cum just fine.
    He's lying so he can get as much pleasure out of you and put the responsibility of birth control on your head.
    He'll dump you as soon as you get pregnant.
    Learn the lesson before the lesson kicks your butt

  • yeah it is true. i mean i don't feel anything with a condom on. can't even tell that i'm in.

  • I've found some brands a bit tight which can indeed prevent orgasm.

    So far my favorite is trojan bareskin.

    • Ok I will tell him

    • 👍 happy banging 😁

  • Utter bullshit. Some brands are a little uncomfortable, but in the end a man should be able to cum just fine. Tell him to either put on the rubber or get used to using his hand.

  • Wow, you're gullible.

    Yeah, it might be true. But if it is, you know what that means, right? If he fucks you without a condom then he's GOING to cum.
    Hello, motherhood!

  • He's full of crap, either say no or at least make sure you're on birth control.

  • Yeah. It’s hard.

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