The masturbation may to a certain level let you ‘relearn’ your body, sort of a mental reset (there is other bits as well).
I know you said not to mention it, however you need to talk to a specialist rape counsellor or abuse survivor. You can unfortunately only go so far on your own, you do need help, it’s about regaining who you are.
You currently link penetration sex (and possibly orgasm) with your rape, that is part of what you need to break, this is where a counsellor comes in better rather than some guy from the UK or other GaG peeps.
Yes you could use masturbation to understand where you can get pleasure, I would also suggest using literature rather than simply watching porn.
yes you will cry, even scream, it’s natural and it’s part of your emotional response to it all.
What you need to look for on Google is Mindful Masturbation.
https://www.royalberkshire.nhs.uk/patient-information-leaflets/sexual%20health%20psychosexual%20therapy%20mindfulness%20self%20touch
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look maybe get a support dog i know pets help reduce anxiety but honestly you sound kinda fucked up over that😥honestly most people can't fix themself without help even if it is just a tiny bit of help basically only thing i can say is get a dog and (get professional help but you dont want that advice) so maybe learn selfdefence or something similar that helps you feel strong and in control
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Hey love. Masturbating is only going to help you relieve some sexual tension. What would really help you is to learn to trust again. To enjoy sex and begin to overshadow bad memories with new positive memories. It isn’t easy but not impossible. I’ve helped several women in your position overcome their anxieties and begin to heal their scars.
But whatever you decide to do just remember that time doesn’t heal all wounds, it just makes it hurt less often.
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It's not weird, you are trying to reconnect with your sexuality and body after it was forcefully taken from you. It's actually a good idea, from what I remember of my psychology class. if you can find a therapist, they could guide you further on other coping mechanism that might be less triggering. You deserve to enjoy to your body and sexuality.
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2 11You say that you have been silent for years and years, can't enjoy touching yourself, never had a boyfriend, and you obviously are still deeply troubled. It really is time for you to find a psychologist who specializes in such things and work you problems out. You are probably a wonderful woman, but you are losing some of the best years of your life in despair. And you may never feel good about yourself. Let an expert help you! You deserve to feel good about yourself!
0 0 0 0Possibly. You need to feel comfortable with yourself and you need to regain your sense of control over your sexuality and body.
0 1 0 0It never helped me get over mine. I still did it because it was sometimes just something I thought I was supposed to do or got rid of some stress. Never actually an experience I enjoyed. You're attempting to take back that oart of your sexuality. For me that didn't happen till I met my boyfriend. Prior to him anything sex related I couldn't do. I'd freak or vomit even at the idea. Sometimes it takes someone or something you care so much for to help you overcome that
0 0 0 0I can't even imagine what you have gone through. You have had this invisible wound for years and have never talked about it. I hope that posting it on this site gives you some peace.
I guess you have to get comfortable with your feelings again. You associate your sexuality with an extremely unpleasant experience. Hopefully you can get past this.
don;t know if you have dated anyone but it may help to discuss it with a potential partner, somebody you can trust.0 0 0 0Actually, find someone who loves you
0 0 0 0So, I know a lot about this via career of my long time ex. Rape and extreme sexual history usually lead to extreme behaviors one way or the other. For example, kids that have grownup being raped usually want no sex or a ton. Each person is different but they gravitate to the extremes. Does not mean that’s for sure though.
0 0 0 0Do Meditation, care yourself , love your family , dont stop working , work is the main drug which can help to forget everything , choose a boyfriend and then marry.
0 0 0 0Masturbation is supposed to be enjoyable. It's not something you should force yourself to do. If you need to take a break to recover from the trauma, do so. Maybe get counselling when you feel ready.
0 0 0 0Love yourself always. And remember, nothing is your fault. :)
0 0 0 0You need to love yourself. You are not at fault here. Your body is yours and yours alone to do what you desire with. Do not let this scumbag get in your head. You are better than him. In closing, Move forward; and love yourself.
0 0 0 0Wow. Be strong...
0 0 0 0never heard playing with yourself helps rape victims. But what evr will work for you , that's a hard road to over come.
0 0 0 0It would help you to make differentiation between sex and rape.
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