Should I tell an Online friend I like him, even though the chances of us meeting is low?

[Anonymous]

TL:DR: Good friendship and sexual relationship with online guy. Can't meet because of the virus and long distance. Should I tell him I like him? Known him for 6 months.

I just broke up from a long term relationship which started out as online friends so I'm quite familiar with it. I know what I'm doing. Met this guy (Lee) online whilst my previous relationship was falling apart. Treated him like a good pal and played games with him occasionally. Did not see him romantically.

After a while, we would watch YouTube and movies together. Sometimes those videos had topics on sex, and since I was a very sexual person I liked talking about it (without him getting too personal with me). Even though it was adult topics, he was very respectful of my boundaries, not asking too much.

At this point Lee and I were texting or voice chatting almost everday.(now we video call) After 5 months of talking to each other, I started to really like his personality.

One day I'm not sure how it started (probably by me) but we watched porn together online and masturbate while we were muted. As we continued to do it more (almost everday) , we slowly unmuted and showed each other as we did it, mostly him showing me.

In my mind I feel like we hit it off really well, both sexually and personality wise. Lee and I are very honest and upfront with each other. We even talk about meeting, cuddling and spending time together in real life all the time. Problem is, because of covid and the distance between us; 4600miles, I don't know when it's even possible to meet, maybe in a few years if we even talk.

Should I just tell him I like him for real as a partner? (we say it to each other jokingly.) Because I feel it's not like we're going to be an item even if I tell him. And I feel establishing a romantic relationship online before meeting is quite risky. Meeting first and then considering the LD is probably better.

Our relationship is honestly weird because we aren't even a couple but we do what couples do.

[SueShe]

What are your expectations?

You don't mention if he has a girlfriend or if he has a physical relation with another girl/boy on the side.

Perhaps he is just keeping you warm as a side girl, just in case.

I personally would not pursue this issue because the chance to meet and to develop anything else but just a temporary physical attraction is quite remote.

You being sexual as you state will not be satisfied with seeing him once every 3 or 4 months. Furthermore, traveling over 4,000 miles does not come cheap and the financial aspect to get there and back several times a year will also impact on your decision.

If I was in your shoes, I would just stop the entire exercise as it brings strictly nothing but frustration.

[Asker]

We are both unattached. I honestly don't find it frustrating if it doesn't go anywhere. It happnes. I'm just delibrating if it's worth telling him I'm interested.

[SueShe]

How do you handle rejection? You can tell him but you have to take this option into consideration. He may just have seen you as a sexual partner but nothing more. If you have no problem with possible rejection, then by all means, go ahead and confess.

[Asker]

I'm not worried I'm going to be rejected. It's more of the question if it's even worth telling because I'm not sure we can even do anything about it even if I tell him. Personally, I wouldn't know what he thinks of me as but I was the one who initiated it, so it wouldn't bug me if he honestly tells me that the sole purpose of talking to me was to masturbate together. I can put it bluntly and say yes, we use each other to satisfy our sexual needs by doing that. And I wouldn't even consider us being sexual partners since everything is online.

[SueShe]

Since you are ready for the rejection and that it does not bother you too much, then you can tell him of course. You will never know if you don't try. Perhaps something nice will emerge from that online relation. Good luck.

[RealMarek]

How about telling him that you are attracted to him and feel you would make a good couple, and want to meet in person to make sure. Covid won’t disrupt travel forever.

[Asker]

We do have plans to meet if we still talk when the situation gets better, hopefully if our jobs don't tie us down too much. However, it's probably going to take at least 1 or 2 years from what I see for it to be safe to travel, even with masks.

[RealMarek]

I hope it works out well for you both.

[Caliguy88]

Sure. Nothing wrong with a little online crush. I’d want to be told.

[Iron_Man]

Yes give it your best

[Wise4myage]

I don't see why not, so go for it.

[In_Trance]

why bother