How to think of sex as a normal thing?
Hello, this is actually a really important topic for me so please be kind but don't just answer to answer. I have raised in a family where people think being sexually active is a normal and a healthy thing as long as you're ready for it and happy with it. However I believe that even though we weren't raised that way, with taboos about a specific topic like sex, we can still have taboos that we aren't even aware of. I believe that I'm not totally okay with having sex, I can't think of anything that comes to my mind about why. I started having sex for the first time in my life, almost 3 months ago with my boyfriend who I really trust and feel so comfortable with. I thought I'd be so much more stressed on our first day but it was quite the opposite even though the first experience was pretty funny and awkward. I heard that you need to clear your mind to have a good sex and be mindful at that moment. I can't remember a time where I was only thinking about sex while having sex. I don't even know how to describe it though. It's like my mind and my body are not aware that I'm having sex. I haven't experienced orgasm for once during sex but I heard that lot of woman don't experience orgasm during penetration.
Even though I don't think jumping into an another topic makes sense, I thought they may be connected. I believe that my pelvic floor is tight that's why I experience pain for like the first five minutes of sex but then everything turns back to normal, or I guess it does. Having problems like these are said that usually is because you're not comfortable with the idea of having sex and It's usually psychological. There's a thing called vaginismus but neither the internet nor I am could able to diagnose it in a proper way cause I'm not a doctor. However I'm 19 and I don't want to go to a gynecologist or at least I want to try to work things out by myself first to see sex as a normal thing that humans could experience without thinking about norms and taboos. THANK YOU!
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