There are very few things people lie about more than their “body count” I’ve always found that whatever a guy says his “count” is… Cut that number in half! With women, on the other hand… Double it! As far as why anyone gives a shit? Insecurity! No one wants to make love to someone, say “was that good for you baby” and hear “ehhh, it was okay! I mean, I’d say about sixteen people were just overall better than you, eight gave me more orgasms, six gave me much stronger orgasms, five did basically the same things you did, just better, and I think they were all bigger/tighter than you, but you did fine sweetie, honestly…it was really nice, I enjoyed it.” Sex is the great equalizer when it comes to insecurity! Nobody wants to hear that theirs was the worst oral they ever had! In fact, if you want to ensure that this person never goes down on you again, ever? Just tell ‘em all the ways your ex did it better! We all want to FEEL like we satisfy our partners better than anyone else. When in truth the only person who truly knows exactly how I like it, is ME! Same is true for you guys! We want to pleasure our partners unlike anyone else, and the more your “count” the less likely that is to be true. Bottom line: None of us have any right to judge our sexual partners past, if we were willing to overlook it BEFORE we had sex w/ them! Yesterday, you would have climbed Mount Everest to get into their pants. Now you have, suddenly the amt of people who’ve climbed it before you is important… No! If you accepted them before without knowing, then you have NO right to ask now! If it was THAT important, you should have asked that question BEFORE you jumped into bed with them! Everyone has a right to ask (but not get an answer), BEFORE you do the nasty. But once you have… if it didn't matter before, it shouldn't matter now, and the only reason it does, is because YOU are insecure about your own abilities. So how about we just stop asking?
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Ugh. Because they want to JUDGE. They want a lady who’s had 0-3 partners despite the fact they’ve had hundreds. They 100% subscribe to men who’ve had a lot of sexual partners are highly desired and women are only desirable with a small number of sexual partners. (BARF).
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It’s the worst question out there. No one knows how to answer it. If I say too many will he think I’m a slut? If I say too few will he think I’m inexperienced. WHAT THE FUCK DOES HE REALLY WANT? And should I lie.
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Puh-leeeese stop asking this question guys, for the love of Pete.
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I don't know either because so many people lie it's impossible to believe those telling the truth.
As I said to a recent date "I've had sex with 3 men before we met". Apparently having sex with three guys while you're waiting for a date to arrive isn't cool.
it's never enough for some people i guess smh
I think it's because they want to make sure you don't have STDs/STIs. There's probably a few other things too. But I think it's also because of how people were taught about sex in their household.
Besides all the other asinine questions this is also a classic. Who cares that was then, this is now. That's so degrading ahh let me pull out my score card , I mean seriously 😳!!
That's a great question and I agree with you, guys care a lot about this. I think they ask because they want to judge you whether is a high count, a low one or if you have no count at all.
It's sad, people shouldn't be concerned about this s***!
Competition I guess. Want to feel cooler thsn others so wants to know and compare himself.
Because people mainly Americans simply do not have a clue how sex works, and want to see any excuse to shame someone.
It would be laughable if people were not actually serious and actually shame someone for having sex more than once, or in some case simply having sex.
it is to say the least utterly pathetic, it will and likely does lead to people just saying oh 1 person like ever.
which unless you know them personally you would never being able to tell.
also body count is the number of dead bodies.
Also don’t ask people, it’s their history and I bet it gets fucking hypocritical.
picture the scene, a Blue Anon Virgin, he has a body count of 0 and will only ever go with a girl of a body count of 0.
he meets a girl who ticks every box, she can suck a grapefruit through a hose pipe, she can crack nuts with her pelvic floor exercises, the rest of her is perfect.
however she has had the audacity of having sex twice. Oh bugger a body count of 2… well does he stick by his guns or say you know what this body count thing is bollox, I actually want a relationship, marry and have kids…
it’s history, who cares, does it really change the person you spent 6 months getting to know and actually have attraction to?
Also a guy will not notice if a girl has had 2 or 200, so it’s just utterly fucking pointless and just another shaming method.
yeah I have views on this 😂😂😂.
pretty much in agreement here. it does seem like a way to shame people
I just had another thought about this body count bollox, how does it work. Is it individual people or number of times? So if I date Tiffany at 13 and we get jiggy with with - that’s 1 I then date her friend - Charlotte at 14 and get jiggy with it, that’s 2. Now if I go back to Tiffany, do I count her again, or does she already count as I did her the year before? If she does count as 2, then how long is the gap between it being a none count to a count? I mean if it’s say 4 months, you could rack up a fair body count with your wife and not having sex over pregnancy etc, So is there actually a rule when it counts as 1 or not?
Your views are always refreshing because they are well backed up. 👏🏽
I think it's just because people are nosy and for others it's their kink knowing thag stuff maybe? And I know for relationships people want to know for some reason😂
true. it really isn't anyone's business.
It is none of anyones business
body counts sounds like so dumb thing i feel more stupid since i discovered it was a thing we live in a world of stupidity no joke. people should get people to do an std check instead of asking for their body counts. as long as the person doesn't have an std who gives a shit how many people they have slept with.
Absolute silliness and lack of knowledge of what makes a good partner, a good partner.
They either think that having had more partners means being better, which is not true depending on what you learn from each encounter, and most don't take anything from them if not the pleasure that they have been, realistically, seeking; or that their partners having had more experience puts them in a position of advantage, whereas the only experience that counts for anything is the one that you two are building as you live it.
Overall just ignorance and misconceptions brought forward by a rather insignificant modern society.
I'd say it's for the reasons you put here, plus the fact that they'll probably judge you based on the answer.
I do my best to be friendly and welcoming, but I won't answer people who asks me intimate questions about this, other sex related stuff or bodily functions.
Cuz they nosey and think everyone's business needs be found out by them.
definitely. this guy who answered says he won't date a woman with a high body count and i just pointed out if he never knew about it, he'd never even know.
True, and who wants to date someone that judgmental like his ass is perfect
They want to know about safety. The more partners you have had the more likely you are to contract a communicable disease.
They may also take it as an indicator of what type of relationships you have. Having 3 partners is a lifetime is a different type of person than 300.
And what if they assure you they were safe about all of that and provide proof that they never got anything?
I said "They" not "me" ;)
So they can see if you sleep around a lot or not
Meaning what? That they’ll cheat? Nope check my link and get back to me
No that doesn’t mean that they will cheat and what link
I think ones body count should be private
definitely i agree
correct
Because we have standards and don't want to be with someone who is all USED UP.
People with more body count have no concept of 'special someone', no self control and for them, orgasms are more important than love.
Basically they're not spiritually and mentally evolved. They're prone to being impulsive and get bored of one partner easily.
Got any evidence to back any of that up?
Personal experience and observations since years.
Cool i have a peer reviewed study that pretty much hampers your anecdotal evidence
link.springer.com/.../s10508-016-0814-3
Either to fantasize or to shame them
Pretty much lol
She hit the nail on the head.. it shouldn't matter cause it says nothing about the person someone could have 15 someone else have you as their first and feel like they want to explore more with different people.. so in a month that 1 went to 15 and the other person had 15 over 40 years.. the persons thoughts and actions determine if they are a hoe or not
Because for me it says about his beliefs, morals and values and if he doesn't have that it's BIG turn off for me i don't want a guy who is promiscuous
it doesn't really say much at all other than they are just different than your own. if thats the case then its ok, but the problem raises where you are judging the person or looking down on them for it.
I'm not looking down on him idc about his past but if doesn't change then I'mma leave bruh
Yes if they are exclusive to you, then they are exclusive period.
Tbh I’m not sure
well according to some guys its because they think you'll have std's or will likely cheat EVEN if they were safe about it, and had proof to show them. smh
Weird
totally. im still baffled lol
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