Is it bad to propose at 18 ?

Question

If she is perfect and the one and has everything that makes you laugh, happy and more importantly completes you and be with you in the hard time. Is it okay to make that step or keep the relationship deep and the way it is?

Answer 1

Guffrus | 1.8K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

I dont think i really knew who i was until i was about 25 so it might be premature, however that said I strongly believe that one of the reasons that dating is so difficult as you get older is because by then you are far more likely to have developed rigid ideas about things and that can be a big problem when they dont fit with another persons rigid ideas.

By growing together you will likely talk about things together and form ideas together and in this way avoid those problems.

There is of course the risk however that your views, wants / needs, direction in life, time tables etc do not match and it could all come undo a few years down the road, this seems to happen quite often these days.

I suggest you make sure that you at least cover the major issues which i would suggest are something like: sex, children, animals, life goals, religion, politics (be careful with this one, people often say quite wrongly that they have no interest in politics while failing to grasp the simple fact that there is politics in everything and having political views doesn't mean you enjoy listening to psychopaths tell lies on tv)

Answer 2

exitseven | 2.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

You have to take a lot of things into account. You need to be sure that you are fully formed. Most are not when they are 18. A lot of people are completely different and have different ideas and outlooks once they are in their 20's. If you are still in college, how will your outlook change one you are out in the world?
Remember, getting married is supposed to be a once in a lifetime event. You do not have to be in a hurry.

UnicornU

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So true! Thank you so much
exitseven

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Thanks for the MHO

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UnicornU

So true! Thank you so much

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exitseven

Thanks for the MHO

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BakedBeanieBabie

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I still think it's a bad idea because you grow and change SO MUCH as you grow from 18 into adulthood.

I'm not the same person I was at 18. Anyone who fell in love with me at 18 wouldn't even know who the fuck I was in my twenties. There is no reason to rush into marriage. You can make the promise (promises rings or whatever) but taking a legal plunge in your teenage years is so unnecessary.

UnicornU

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This sounds cool and very logical. I just think about it a lot sometimes that I want to take that crazy step and do it
BakedBeanieBabie

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The fact that you even describe it as crazy shows you're acting more on emotions and a likely romanticized idea that you're just perfect and everything will subsequently end perfectly.

Mate, life does not work like that. Just because you marry at 18 doesn't mean your husband will always find you perfect and everything will be a fairytale. I've known too many friends who marry too young or marry for the fairytale idea of marriage.

Most of them divorce or want to divorce.

There is no reason to just jump into something like that no matter how cute and fun it sounds.
BakedBeanieBabie

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Fun factoid: Had a mate that married her first love that she met at 16. He was her only boyfriend. 10 years later, their marriage had fallen apart, he had cheated and began abusing her despite being the lad who wrote her poetry and shit in their teen years. She had to divorce him after he developed a severe drug and alcohol problem.

I AM NOT SAYING this is your situation. My point is that just because something seems ideal and perfect right now doesn't mean it always will be, which is why rational people date for years, well into adulthood, live together and such before considering marriage.

Answer 6

UnicornU

This sounds cool and very logical. I just think about it a lot sometimes that I want to take that crazy step and do it

Answer 7

BakedBeanieBabie

The fact that you even describe it as crazy shows you're acting more on emotions and a likely romanticized idea that you're just perfect and everything will subsequently end perfectly.

Mate, life does not work like that. Just because you marry at 18 doesn't mean your husband will always find you perfect and everything will be a fairytale. I've known too many friends who marry too young or marry for the fairytale idea of marriage.

Most of them divorce or want to divorce.

There is no reason to just jump into something like that no matter how cute and fun it sounds.

Answer 8

BakedBeanieBabie

Fun factoid: Had a mate that married her first love that she met at 16. He was her only boyfriend. 10 years later, their marriage had fallen apart, he had cheated and began abusing her despite being the lad who wrote her poetry and shit in their teen years. She had to divorce him after he developed a severe drug and alcohol problem.

I AM NOT SAYING this is your situation. My point is that just because something seems ideal and perfect right now doesn't mean it always will be, which is why rational people date for years, well into adulthood, live together and such before considering marriage.

Answer 9

Apple1996 | 6.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

It's not bad if the couple wants marriage. I got married at 19 and it was the best decision I've ever made.

Answer 10

nudeNhorny | 11K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

I think 18 is too young, stay together for few more years, as you get older you can make such decision better, I mean at least 21, and during this time you can make your relationship stronger.

UnicornU

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We’ve been always together since childhood.
nudeNhorny

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That's very beautiful really, the type of relationship that definitely worth the propose in the end, I'd still do when 21 though, I mean if we are already together for that long, couple of more years wouldn't change the fact that we would get married in the end.
UnicornU

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Yeah. She’s so perfect for me. After being in too many relationships i can know that fact now
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nudeNhorny

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I'm happy for you, hope she has the exact same feelings for you, hope you two get married real soon

Answer 11

UnicornU

We’ve been always together since childhood.

Answer 12

nudeNhorny

That's very beautiful really, the type of relationship that definitely worth the propose in the end, I'd still do when 21 though, I mean if we are already together for that long, couple of more years wouldn't change the fact that we would get married in the end.

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UnicornU

Yeah. She’s so perfect for me. After being in too many relationships i can know that fact now

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nudeNhorny

I'm happy for you, hope she has the exact same feelings for you, hope you two get married real soon

Answer 15

Luckycharms12 | 1.6K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

Well id leave it till mid 20z at least but everyone different

UnicornU

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Like 25?
Luckycharms12

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Well yes. but you do what ever you feel is best for you.
UnicornU

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Thank you
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Luckycharms12

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No problem and best of luck with whatever you choose to do

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UnicornU

Like 25?

Answer 17

Luckycharms12

Well yes. but you do what ever you feel is best for you.

Answer 18

UnicornU

Thank you

Answer 19

Luckycharms12

No problem and best of luck with whatever you choose to do

Answer 20

DesiringSupport

Xper 1

I think its perfectly acceptable if you know they are the one! :) :)

Would you mind answering some of the questions I've posted?
I need a friend, and someone supportive :)

Answer 21

abc3643 | 5.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

My mom got MARRIED at 18.

UnicornU

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Was it easy?
abc3643

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Was what easy?
UnicornU

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Being married at 18 and taking care of a family?
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abc3643

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She got married at 18 and I came along 11 months later. We were living in my paternal grandparent's home. While my mom was home with me, my father and grandparents went to work, but my great grandmother was also there. We moved away to our own home in suburban LI when I was 2.5. Lots of neighbors to help.

My parents were married for 41 years until my father died at age 63y and a little over a month.
UnicornU

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Thats a inspiring story and i’m sorry about your dad. Hope that he's in a better place now
abc3643

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Well, at least he won't be heading to New Jersey anytime soon.

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UnicornU

Was it easy?

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abc3643

Was what easy?

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UnicornU

Being married at 18 and taking care of a family?

Answer 25

abc3643

She got married at 18 and I came along 11 months later. We were living in my paternal grandparent's home. While my mom was home with me, my father and grandparents went to work, but my great grandmother was also there. We moved away to our own home in suburban LI when I was 2.5. Lots of neighbors to help.

My parents were married for 41 years until my father died at age 63y and a little over a month.

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UnicornU

Thats a inspiring story and i’m sorry about your dad. Hope that he's in a better place now

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abc3643

Well, at least he won't be heading to New Jersey anytime soon.

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pleasestopthis | 1.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

I think people at 18 are too young and not mature enough to make such a big decision

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TallAnon | 3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

Bad is an odd word, but at 18 you're still changing a lot, so it might be early.

Answer 30

WhiteWolf69 | 337 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

Yes. I would think that if she is my perfect other half and lines up with everything we're both want.

Answer 31

AhmetMiraç | 356 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

I think 18 is a young age for marriage. It should be a little bigger. like 25

Answer 32

Anonymous

Another reminder of how I resent and am bitter towards teen couples and early 20s couples

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slatyb | 7.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

About seven years too young.

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Gwenhwyfar | 3.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

It’s fine 😊

Answer 35

EaterPeter | 1.4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Explorer

Too young.

EaterPeter

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Thanks for like!

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EaterPeter

Thanks for like!

Answer 37

Seppel | 3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 7

Yes I think so

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