I dont think i really knew who i was until i was about 25 so it might be premature, however that said I strongly believe that one of the reasons that dating is so difficult as you get older is because by then you are far more likely to have developed rigid ideas about things and that can be a big problem when they dont fit with another persons rigid ideas.
By growing together you will likely talk about things together and form ideas together and in this way avoid those problems.
There is of course the risk however that your views, wants / needs, direction in life, time tables etc do not match and it could all come undo a few years down the road, this seems to happen quite often these days.
I suggest you make sure that you at least cover the major issues which i would suggest are something like: sex, children, animals, life goals, religion, politics (be careful with this one, people often say quite wrongly that they have no interest in politics while failing to grasp the simple fact that there is politics in everything and having political views doesn't mean you enjoy listening to psychopaths tell lies on tv)
You have to take a lot of things into account. You need to be sure that you are fully formed. Most are not when they are 18. A lot of people are completely different and have different ideas and outlooks once they are in their 20's. If you are still in college, how will your outlook change one you are out in the world?
Remember, getting married is supposed to be a once in a lifetime event. You do not have to be in a hurry.
I still think it's a bad idea because you grow and change SO MUCH as you grow from 18 into adulthood.
I'm not the same person I was at 18. Anyone who fell in love with me at 18 wouldn't even know who the fuck I was in my twenties. There is no reason to rush into marriage. You can make the promise (promises rings or whatever) but taking a legal plunge in your teenage years is so unnecessary.
The fact that you even describe it as crazy shows you're acting more on emotions and a likely romanticized idea that you're just perfect and everything will subsequently end perfectly.
Mate, life does not work like that. Just because you marry at 18 doesn't mean your husband will always find you perfect and everything will be a fairytale. I've known too many friends who marry too young or marry for the fairytale idea of marriage.
Most of them divorce or want to divorce.
There is no reason to just jump into something like that no matter how cute and fun it sounds.
Fun factoid: Had a mate that married her first love that she met at 16. He was her only boyfriend. 10 years later, their marriage had fallen apart, he had cheated and began abusing her despite being the lad who wrote her poetry and shit in their teen years. She had to divorce him after he developed a severe drug and alcohol problem.
I AM NOT SAYING this is your situation. My point is that just because something seems ideal and perfect right now doesn't mean it always will be, which is why rational people date for years, well into adulthood, live together and such before considering marriage.
It's not bad if the couple wants marriage. I got married at 19 and it was the best decision I've ever made.
I think 18 is too young, stay together for few more years, as you get older you can make such decision better, I mean at least 21, and during this time you can make your relationship stronger.
I think its perfectly acceptable if you know they are the one! :) :)
Would you mind answering some of the questions I've posted?
I need a friend, and someone supportive :)
Well id leave it till mid 20z at least but everyone different
My mom got MARRIED at 18.
I think people at 18 are too young and not mature enough to make such a big decision
Yes. I would think that if she is my perfect other half and lines up with everything we're both want.
I think 18 is a young age for marriage. It should be a little bigger. like 25
Another reminder of how I resent and am bitter towards teen couples and early 20s couples
Bad is an odd word, but at 18 you're still changing a lot, so it might be early.
About seven years too young.
It’s fine 😊
Too young.
Yes I think so
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