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What do guys think about when they're trying not to cum?

i noticed that my boyfriend more often than not keeps his eyes closed during sex (so do i, but when i see his eyes closed, he looks like he's really concentrating on something lol) especially when im riding him. So i asked, 'do u keep ur eyes closed when i ride it cause ur trying not to cum?' and he said 'didn't know u noticed that lmao, its subconscious but mostly cause I'm thinking of other things to last longer' so anyway. I'm just curious now. What kinds of things do you guys think about when ur trying not to cum? And why keep ur eyes closed?
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  • Next time you having sex making love fucking whatever do an experiment with yourself and your partner intention to everything that you feel. And then pay attention to the moment you getting ready to come that buildup it's all the sudden second door that opens and you can feel their energy and he can feel your energy try to look deep into his eyes see if you can communicate without saying one word so pay attention to the whole thing and actually pay attention to your feeling everything that you were feeling and what your partner might be feeling when do you actually connect with your partner if you connect for the very beginning then you can control that coming feeling if you don't really connect until you're ready to come then it's hard to control but if you can connect the moment you touch from foreplay on you can control it all but you do it first pay attention to the Philly all the way through and then the next time after you have sex again you can tell him about it and have him do the same thing and that's when it's going to get very beautiful high is going to last a long time

Most Helpful Guy

  • Well, I always try to use Benzocaine,( numbing lubricant) on the head of my penis during fucking, and it helps to keep me from shooting before I want to. Even so, sometimes I do get the feeling of semen starting to build, and I have to slow down, and think of anything other than my penis thrusting in and out of her vagina. It is difficult to think of anything ELSE, but I try to not look at my penis in her, (usually fucking from the rear) and just try to look away and try to not focus on the feeling of the friction on my penis.
    Looking away, slowing the pumping, or stop pumping for a few seconds, tends to help me.
    Short answer, closing the eyes, is not looking at you or your body, and not really thinking about something else, just trying to disconnect for a few seconds.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Baseball lol. More than one guy has told me this. Then I tease him by telling him how how thick and hard his bat feels thrusting inside me and how good it’s gonna feel to hit that ball and just let it release into my wet center. I’m a little imp lol.

    • Thanks 😊

    • Yikes! *turns red reading that* ;)

    • @Still-alive sometimes I can be deliberately erotic 😊

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  • about nature and music, sometimes movies i like (but not the actress or sex scenes).
    it has to be something you like, just not in sexual way

  • 1. I think about Nixon.

    2. Guys are visual creatures and him seeing your naked body bouncing up and down won't help him to last longer.

    • So funny

    • @Screenwriter lmao true

    • I just started following you and I'd love for you to start following me.

  • My mates gran

  • Anything else.
    Eyes closed because we are visually stimulated and he's trying to minimize the stimulation to last longer.

  • my to do list for tomorrow 😂 works enough to keep me in the game with out making my dick soft lol

  • Almost anything other than how amazing his penis feels inside his partner's vagina. It can be a real challenge because the sensation is so so good.

  • Trying not to cum!

  • I used to think about cowboy movies.

  • The least sexy stuff on the planet. Federal Rules of Civil Procedure, dead baby tigers, that sort of thing.

    • Federal Rules of Procedure!! That is the best!!

  • Math... I'll do problems in my head.

  • Susan Boyle, lol.

    • Lmfao nice

    • Thanks, lol.

    • I get it... but that's kinda mean.

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  • Hmmm i guess id be thinking of something non sexual like what my day tomorrow would look like or something lol

  • My household chores that need to be done.

  • I've done that. I would think of sports, a movie i saw, school work anything that will make me less horny. Lol

  • Usually if we're super turned on by you, keeping our eyes closed means we don't have to look at something that is turning us on more.

    • True lol

  • Well I’m not one to cum quick and if I was him, I’d try to make u cum and then I’d cum. Hehe

  • I don't have a particular thing I think about, but I focus on controlling the stimulation on the head of my dick. That seems to be the key for me to go for a long time.

  • Cause if I look, I'm not going to last long at all. Want to make sure she's happy first

    • Why won't u last long if u look

  • They keep their eyes closed to stop visual stimulation.. if you’re attractive to them.. they try not to look so they won’t cum.. as far as what men think about.. sometimes it’s something like.. I don't know a parent or grandparent, death, a shark.. lol.. I don't know. It can be a bad practice though because sometimes the reverse happens and the thing you think about eventually becomes sexually triggering in your mind from being fucked while you think about it.. so, be careful gents..

  • used to try that when i was younger. Now i just go with it and try to pace myself. Just practice my breathing and slow down when i feel it building up too much. After a while it's more fun to feel the torture of being on the edge and knowing I can control it more without having to ruin it by thinking of nonsexual things

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