Men from mars women from venus?

[Anonymous]

Met a guy last night at a bar with whom I hooked up. He kept staring at my eyes during the whole time and kept saying “you’re perfect”. While cuddling he said “you’re so amazing, I’m glad I met you tonight”. He then said my eyes are beautiful and full of emotions. At some point I politely ask him to go home since I wanted to sleep. He then texted me via sms just to confirm my phone num is valid, I replied hey, this is my num indeed. Now, I’m not deluded this was a typical hook up (even better one night stand thing). No point to even text each other after that but since he texted me to get his number I replied. He can delete it, keep it just in case for another round or hook up some time or let it be.

While we were together, he mentioned seeing each other the coming days but his friend said men do this all the time with girls (show or pretend to have interest to get sex but women then get emotionally attached so that sort of sets the tone).

Now I agreed with him but don’t blame us cause we are wired to bond or connect with the guy after sex. It happened to me so many times and I figured the only way to enjoy casual sex is to let go of this limiting belief that there’ll be something more just because a guy got horny and said a bunch of nice things he didn’t mean.

We were both carried in the moment and he said few things like “I love you” but cmon, it’s up to us women to put our judgement and assess level of interest. I started believing guys got used to play this game to get laid even when it's obvious girl also wants to hook up.

Interesting questions: why men feel the need to overwhelm women with compliments and white lies even though they'd initiate and upfront ask for a hook up?

[Lionman95]

Because there is a saying where I come from: Whoever wants to fuck has to be friendly first. Guys are perfectly aware of the fact that girls like compliments, so they give them. Compliments, little surprises or acts of kindness are used to ease possible tensions. They lighten the atmosphere and are built a emotional connection for the moment.
Guys that are looking for casual sex know that they make it easier for girls to prepare psychologically for the physical act.
Because it worked on other women they try it with you, too.

[Asker]

I had a really good time with him, hope he had as well. He lives in another country so I knew this is a hook up and won't see him again. Truth is it I felt at ease. And post sex, we were still kissing and making out in bed. But as soon as booze exited the system, we both wanted to go on about our day. It was like reality hit me. My brain tells me to focus on the positive thing that I met a cute guy, hit it off, got laid and enjoyed it but my heart is frustrated because I know that this is what hook up arrangement means, running the risk of never seeing the person again, especially since he told me he was leaving in two days. Oh well, he has my number if he ever comes back for vacation again (he's originally from the country where I live but works abroad) and also his best friend became friends with us so we're definitely seeing his friend, in a way would be in the same social circle so I'll get to hear his news or from him from to time. If he meant it that he was glad we met, I meant it too. Even while knowing it has an expiry date, and it was less than 24 hrs.

[boggboss]

Because it increases the passion whilst having sex and people are known to say dumb shit when they have sex due to the feel good drug that your brain realises

[Iron_Man]

Wow another one night stand and another body count added to your resume

[In_Trance]

Tldr. He wanted to smash. That's all

[Asker]

Yes, that's cool. I enjoyed it also.

[Luckycharms12]

Lucky enough to get with girl want her feel amazing

[Asker]

Yes I get this. Even when you've already made up your mind you wouldn't want to see her again, right? It sorts of happen to me as well complementing guys after sex but when I chill down and think about it, I didn't actually mean it. I try not to do it often cause it creates a false sense of intimacy that confuses people when there isn't follow up but I can understand in the heat of the moment, and it's actually sweet.

[Luckycharms12]

Well some guys feel need to say it others mean what they say. And of course in heat of moment can say anything