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My boyfriend (25) hasn't made me cum yet?

We've been together for almost 2 years, the sex is good but I've never orgasmed. What should I do?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Can you cum by yourself?

    Has he tried other ways? Oral? Fingering?

    Have you given him guidance? Do you tell him "faster" or "harder" or "right there" to help get what you need?

    Does he seem like he CARES about your pleasure (I know some guys don't, but many do but just have no idea what to do)? I realize the media and society portrays men as being expected to know how to please a woman the moment their first pube sprouts, but in reality, it's something that has to be learned and practiced, and that means women have a role in that process too.

    If he doesn't care about your pleasure, then you should reconsider your relationship. But if he's just clueless or in need of help, HELP HIM.

    Also, understand that each woman is different. I've been with 50 or so women, and while there are a few things that nearly all women like, even those things need to be fine-tuned for the woman or they're much less effective. And, wow, are there a lot of exceptions and special requests and "add-ons" that many women need - but the next woman might hate or just be indifferent to.

    You need to teach him not just how to please a woman generally, but how to please YOU specifically. Help him help you.

  • Are you open enough to talk about this type of thing?

    when you masturbate are you able to cum from fingers alone or do you need something to penetrate as well?

    let him watch you masturbate, show him where, how much pressure, take it slowly just small bits at a time.

    do you have any positions sex feels better in?

    try using these

    does it feel better when you are controlling the sex or him?

    look at using toys in foreplay

    make your foreplay a major part of sex, try to orgasm at least once during foreplay

    That should make it easier during pen sex to have another.

    during sex don’t be worried about playing with yourself at same time.

    it’s case of opening discussing it
    trying it via mutual masturbation and exploring
    showing each other what excites you
    Take it slow don’t just chase orgasms
    him learning to make love to your pussy with his mouth, tongue, fingers, teeth and toys is important.

    • @ pretty pink Anon thank you most appreciated

Most Helpful Girls

  • Depends. How long does he last? What positions do you do together? What are you doing during sex?
    I’ve never met a woman that I couldn’t make orgasm. The secret isn’t to just have sex but to do things that she loves. Every woman is different. So I have to figure out what it is that makes her orgasm. Sometimes it’s just eating her Pusey while fingering her or sucking her nipples while she rides me or fingering her ass while I fuck her or fingering her clit while she sits on my lap. So really we need to know more. If you’d prefer to PM me for privacy please feel free to do so.

    • @breanna_nonbinary sounds good.

  • First of all can you orgasm at all through masturbating? If not he's unlikely to give you an orgasm. If you can then show him your technique then let him try to replicate it.

    • @purplepoppy Yes I do, and I've been helping him find my clit lol. He's gotten better tho...

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Are you able to make yourself climax? If so, how. Make sure you include lots of foreplay before sex and oral sex. Keep lubricant handy just in case.

  • What have you tried besides intercourse? Oral? Manual? A vibrator? I was with a woman who rarely climaxed from intercourse. Not a problem, I just got her off in another way. Best sex ever.

    • He's tried to flick me off but he can't really find "the spot" most of the time, it kinda kills the mood but I've been helping him. Other than that he tried oral once a year ago, but wouldn't do it again unless I was completely shaved (I am shaved but I have a landing strip goin on). I'll def try my vibrator tho. But every time I'm close to climaxing, he finishes and would have to wait for a second round. I think I definitely have to communicate my needs to him, since I usually hold back.

    • Ho wouldn't do it again? It doesn't sound like you are the problem. It sounds like you have an inconsiderate lover.

    • @slatyb He's a very loving guy, and he's come a long way. We literally didn't have sex until a year ago because I came out of an abusive relationship and was still warming up to him. We're just taking things slowly.

  • Play with yourself while he watches and take his hand and show him how you like it. Men are visual learners show and tell is best

  • Use your fingers while or a bullet 😉 too!

  • Either ask him to go down on you or come over here and let me give you 3 or 4 orgasms orally.

  • Teach him what makes you cum! And, make sure he knows that sex is like a Chinese dinner for two! It's not over `til you BOTH get your cookies!!

  • Not everyone can orgasm from penetration, work in some oral. Rub yourself while he fucks you. Bring in some vibrators. Do whatever you can to get off. Most importantly talk to him about how important it is for you to also climax

  • I would say take a weekend away where you just make yourself cum on him or with him a ton so that you can show him. And literally teach him how.

  • Have you talked to him about this? If you have and nothings changed, they why stay?

  • make him go down on you

  • Tell him. Also, if he was a caring lover, he would have asked the first or second time, not waited two frickin years. Very selfish.

  • Have sex with me instead.

  • have you told him how to? Shown him?

  • My condolences

  • Tell him. . .

  • you need more foreplay. it'll also help if you're more relaxed

  • Tell him to go down on u

  • How can sex be good without an orgasm

    • Cause it feels good even before you cum?

    • @hotboy_booblover Yeah I came close one time, but he finishes pretty quickly.

    • Oh.. I think she should practice holding...

  • time to change the man.

  • A lot of women can’t or don’t orgasm from sex. Porn makes it seem like we do but in all actuality it is very normal. There are many reasons you might not have one. Blood flow, hormones, sexual hang ups, stress, not enough forplay. Try different positions. Honestly this is totally something that can vary so much person to person. But it is also very very normal

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