Guys, would you care if your girlfriend disliked you watching porn?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t have an issue with my boyfriend watching it discreetly. I don’t want to know about it. I’ve seen girls who discover their boyfriend’s watch porn and notice the girls are more attractive than them. What else is the girl supposed to think? I’d feel I’m not attractive enough if he watches better looking women. Why do men have a hard time grasping the girl’s perspective? I’m not saying stop watching it, but try to understand where she’s coming from.

[NamerOfStars]

Of course- if I'm dating her, I LIKE her, at least a little. Why wouldn't I care what she thought? That doesn't mean I'm going to stop using it, but I'm willing to make some compromises to make things work. But she'll need to see it from my point of view, as well.

Consider the dildo. It's available in an enormous range of sizes, customizable to a ludicrous degree, and bigger (potentially) and harder than any penis could ever hope to be. Nor does it lose that hardness, or refuse to harden. Some of them have vibratory motors that do things penises couldn't hope to match. Would it surprise you to learn that their ubiquity makes many men feel insecure? Probably not. But if your boyfriend told you that yours did, you'd probably have to stifle a laugh. Because you're cruel and don't care about his feelings? No- because you understand that a hunk of plastic could never replace him, even in purely sexual matters. It may stimulate you in ways that his penis can't, but you don't even THINK of it in the same terms as you'd think of a human being.

Porn is no different. Yes, those are other women, and yes, they may be prettier than you. But he's using the display as a masturbatory aid, not as a substitute for you.

[Anonymous]

No anxiety when one masturbates (other than the risk of getting caught if that is an issue in the relationship). Often anxiety is a big part of what comes from partner sex: anxiety about how I smell, how my body will perform, will my body perform, does my partner like me, my body, how my body reacts etc. For many people, unfortunately, relationship sex is filled with so much anxiety that it is not enjoyable
A person is tired and masturbation doesn't require the same level of effort, both mentally and physically to perform
It is not painful. For both men and women, relationship sex can be physically painful and the inability to resolve the pain or effectively discuss it with their partner leads to the desiring relationship sex less or avoiding it
A person is bored
A person is bored with their relationship and wants to play out a fantasy in their head
A person is stressed
Because they like it
They don't have to worry about getting rejected by their partner
Their partner is sick, has their period or just doesn't want it when the partner does
They want to do it quick or don't have the time required for relationship sex
Their partner is traveling or away from their partner
It's convenient, like in the shower in the morning or evening
It is their best attempt to remain faithful to the marriage because they are really unhappy and don't have anyway to resolve marital conflict outside the bedroom
They do not desire the kind of sex they will have with their partner
It's fun
They want to indulge in a fantasy that they are: too afraid, embarrassed or fear rejection from their partner to share with them
They just want an orgasm and they know how best to get there in the fastest way possible
To learn more about their own body and what they like and how to reach orgasm

[Opinion Owner]

From experience men can have performance anxiety when it comes to sex but not when they masturbate. Doesn't always mean they're not attracted to you. Women read erotic books and use their sex toys and it don't bother us (LOL)

[MTC29]

When I was a young man your age, porn wasn't available outside of adult theaters, or VHS tapes. The tape players were out of any realistic price ranges (priced higher than a TV) and the tapes cost over a days pay. Regardless, porn is all make believe.

Don't put too much stock into it, but at the same time make sure that his sexuality remains firmly grounded in reality-- unless of course you're eager to jump into bed with him and another girl and go down on her.

[ArrowheadSW]

A lady who I used to work with told me she found her husband jacking off to porn late at night after she had gone to bed. (She always wondered why her husband always had a lot of computer work at night having to do with his job... LOL...) She didn't think that it was "that" big of a deal but she wonders now how into it he was if he had to fake doing computer work at night for his job.

[JackSmy]

I have never been serious with any woman that didn't love her own 'porn' and masturbate to that!
We always share our likes, as part of getting to know each other, and have better sex!! She knows I LOVE cheerleaders, so she dresses up, as a cheerleader, for my birthday!
I know she likes a certain movie, and lasagna, and a very specific Merlot, wine. I get that wine, and make the PERFECT Lasagna, and we just cuddle, watching that movie, on her birthday!
Porn videos aren't the problem, it is people judging, hating, and not understanding how these videos enhance relationships!

[FakeNiceGuy]

Pfff.. Lol.. So what.. Who cares what you think.

[FakeNiceGuy]

Leave them and leave them the fuck alone. There.. Easy... Bye bye to you..

[spartan55]

So guys have to grasp your perspective... what about ours?

[Leavesbound]

if I had a girlfriend I wouldn't need porn.

[MikeTheBartender]

I have not watched porn now for almost four years. I stopped in 2017, but I didn't stop for moral reasons it was quite the opposite. I had read a lot of stuff about men's brains being rewired from porn and it affecting their real sex in real life as in your case. So I stopped it to see what would happen, not only did I have more sex and the sex got better, but I swear about three months in my orgasms became longer! As long as I am sexually active I will continue to not watch porn, maybe when I'm an old guy and chicks don't want me anymore I'll go back to it. Tell your boyfriend maybe he could take a few days off from it and see if sex with you is better. But if you are out of town by all means he will watch it so he doesn't call Janice or Sheila from the office.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would have no problem if I had a girlfriend, who preferred me not to watch porn, after all, she would be more important in my life unless she wanted to watch porn just us two

[Friendlybro79]

This is an oversimplification on what i guess to the avg reason to your question. For the same reason you don't get the guys perspective.

[loveslongnails]

I don't care and she doesn't ask.