Do I have daddy issues?

[Anonymous]

So I'm a virgin, and whenever I think about being with a old man like 40s 50s or 60s it turns me on so much. I'm 24, and I've always been attracted to older men but haven't told anyone but my mom. Lol I know out of all people. I'm close to her. I have tinder and put my age range from 40 to 65. Like I don't even wanna date men my age.

I just get so turned on.. I don't wanna look at them as a "fetish", like guys my age don't do anything to me. Why? What's going on? And yes before you ask my dad left me when I was 9, but I don't think that has anything to do with it? I have a rocky relationship with my dad and only see him like 3 times a year. I'm honestly hurt still and I don't know.

[flowersintokyo]

I read somewhere that it's normal to be attracted to people who have characteristics of our parents, even physical characteristics!
If you are attracted to older men, even if it's because of daddy issues, don't be concerned because based on what you wrote it's only physical attraction, you didn't mention being attracted to any sort of abusive behaviour.
Maybe you are physically attracted to older men not because of your dad, but because a different older male was your father figure, an uncle for example, who you subconsciously look for in a partner (which again isn't a bad thing)

You should only be concerned if you catch yourself fantasising about a relationship with an older male that shows signs of abuse (controlling behaviour, him raising his voice when he is angry or getting physical in an argument.) In that case speak to a therapist about your childhood and she will help you better than me. For as long as it's just attraction to his looks, even if it's because of "daddy issues", it's nothing to be concerned about 😊

[Asker]

You are so helpful, thank you.

[kyleelyn199723]

Could be daddy issues since your father isn’t present. Not the biggest issue in the world, just be careful. Some older men are not the best people out there even though they are more “wise”

[Asker]

Thank you. You are absolutely beautiful by the way, your hair is gorgeous.

[kyleelyn199723]

Thank you ☺️☺️☺️

[Lenolye]

Don't worry about it so much. You are not alone. It's more common of an interest than you may realize.
Even if there are unresolved issues with your father it's still perfectly fine to have a certain attraction.

As long as you feel happy in the end then nothing else really matters does it?

[ChrisMaster69]

It’s fairly common.

Its better when the girl has the interest and does the looking.

it can get weird when it’s the guy doing the looking, if he is, then in a year or two you may fined yourself dumped for younger model.

just be safe..

[Asker]

Oh no I hope I don't get dumped

[ChrisMaster69]

It’s the thing where a guy looks for younger. He is specifically targeting age, which is a red flag. Whereas when you do it, it’s more of a blanker coverage

[Asker]

Ohhhh I see!

[ChrisMaster69]

It’s fine and as an older guy I appreciate it

[ChrisMaster69]

@ Pretty Pink Anon thank you most appreciated

[abc3643]

You are normal - this is a VERY COMMON fetish that women have, so don't be bothered. However, on Tinder, be honest with your age - don't worry, there are men in the 40s-60s age range who will be interested in you.

[Asker]

Oh I am honest. I was surprised about how many men like younger women.

[abc3643]

When you get quite a bit older, you will like younger men too. Trust me on this.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j4qtuGmyZoI

[Avicenna]

It sounds like the attraction in physical rather than emotional, so I don't see any evidence of daddy issues in your case. Some women just are more attracted to older men.

[Stevefiveo]

Date whoever you want. Don't worry about what people say.

[FireFox001]

Why would that be a daddy issue? Some girls do like older guys. That's that.

[machismo69]

That's perfect, just as I like younger women/girls.