The guy I like has a FWB!

So a couple months ago I fancied someone else, but it was a very complicated situation At the right moment I happened to meet this guy who made me forget him! There is a strong connection between us, we have many things in common and we both enjoy every single time we meet . He has emotional baggage from a previous relationship which ended a year ago and told me he doesn't want to fall in love or be in a relationship. Yesterday we went out for a walk and he admitted to me that he cannot live without sex and for this reason he has a friends with benefits whom he meets around twice a month. My face went pale almost immediately and I almost fainted. He got really worried and asked if he had said something wrong. I blamed everything on my poor health and bad eating habits. Later on in the evening he texted me and asked me how I was feeling, and if I still wanted to talk to him. I texted him back and said that I was feeling better and of course I still wanted to be friends. He keeps treating me in a very sweet way, and he keeps wanting to meet me very often. I am wondering where this friendship is going. Regular friends don't meet this often. I am trying to block my feelings towards him and I'm feeling miserable. I'm a virgin, the kind of girl who wants to wait until marriage. I guess we have no future together. What do you think? Please help!
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  • I don't think his situation is all that bad. Guys like sex. He's having it with a steady partner, beats random hookups.

    The trouble is is he ready for a relationship? Is he going to be ready to open up to you? Or is he looking to add you to his roster of steady hookups? Who knows.

    If you want to avoid him I understand why. You have to admit his honesty is rather refreshing. That's a ballsy confession. And if you want to wait until marriage... he shouldn't give you trouble. You could have a relationship with this guy and I see no reason why he wouldn't respect your preferences sexually. He is getting laid so he should be able to hold out. As long as this girl he's getting sex from is the only one, they're regular and safe.

    Sounds like a potential positive. Since a guy who may not date you otherwise might have the patience for you. It doesn't preclude major romance. He could wait, if didn't mind him seeing this other girl. He can be emotionally monogamous while not being sexually monogamous.

    Maybe.

  • I'm always wary of the "I have a FWB it's nothing" crowd ever since a girlfriend got pregnant by way of her FWB and told me that it was mine...

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  • Well I see 3 things wrong here:

    1) Even if she is just a fwb, she probably has feelings for him. It will create a sticky situation, especially since she's willing to give him sex and you are not ready for that yet

    2) He said he "can't live without sex." What is he a sex addict? That was a lame excuse to justify why he's sleeping with another girl while he's hanging out with you. Red flag.

    3) He still has emotional baggage from a relationship that ended a YEAR ago so he doesn't want a relationship? That's crap. He has no baggage, he just simply wants to be free to screw whoever he wants, whenever he wants.

    I think he's made it pretty damn clear who he is, and what he does and doesn't want. You can continue to be friends with him if you want, but it will get tricky, because you have feelings for him that are more than friends. You will probably end up hurt in the end.

    • He was a total jerk, as I later found out. And I'm glad I never got to date him.

    • Glad you never got in too deep girl!

  • a friends with benefits doesn't mean girlfriend! guys make some girls friends with benefits because they see them as good enough to sleep with but not someone they want to date. the fact that you are bonding with this guy and spending time with him is a good thing. I would say don't stress too much about "where this is going". who knows where it will go. you never know, he might fall for you and want to end up being with you, or not lol. just don't compromise your morals for him and meet other guys, don't let him be the only guy you're talking too

  • Well if you want to stay virgin and want to have some kind of relationship with him, you have accept his sex with benefits thing. At least he is man enough to admit to you that he have one and some guys wouldn't do it. Or you just stop seeing him and dating someone else.

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