Should I tell my friends with benefits I am pregnant, I’m engaged to someone else please help?

[Anonymous]

I knew this guy for years and we had an on and off sexual relationship plus we’re good friends but never really developed into more as he is a Muslim I am not and we just have conflicting ideologies. Yes I know he isn’t the best muslim
but he tries.

I was seeing this other guy for over a year where we had a somewhat Open relationship. We are both models and travel / party and have active social lives so although we love each other’s company and so on I wasn’t ready to commit. So yes I was being a hoe (please don’t judge) and saw 2 guys at the same time. Long story short the guy proposed to me and I said yes because i do have feelings for him and was ready to settle.
So I got engaged about 1 week ago. (About 10 after seeing friends with benefits)
I saw my friends with benefits about 20 days ago we had sex but I was drunk so I can’t remember if he pulled out or not, also I was on the pill BUT took 3 tests today and all came back positive after missing my period so I don’t know how the fuck that worked.

It has to be the friends with benefits. To make matters worse the last time I saw him I was drunk and made an ass of myself and we had an argument over something and he ended up blocking me.

I don’t know what to do? I’m leaning towards abortion because I’m not ready for a baby, do I tell the friends with benefits how do I get in contact with him?

do I tell him even if I’m leaning towards abortion please help

[Anonymous]

That’s a tough call. If you’re dead set on getting an abortion, I probably wouldn’t tell him anything. He won’t be able to stop you and what purpose would it serve other than hurting him? Sometimes sparing someone from knowing is the kindest gesture. Now if there is any chance at all that you may have this baby, then he needs to know right away so that he can provide support and be involved in the process. I’d think about it very carefully before making a final decision. If he has you blocked, can you go to his home or work and talk to him? What about calling him from someone else’s phone who he hasn’t blocked?

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice. The thing is i think there is still a little bit of undecided in me as in if I’m going to get ab abortion or not. This is such a stupid question I’m about to ask but I don’t understand how I got pregnant I’m on the pill and I’m 99% sure he didn’t even ejaculate in me?

[Asker]

I always told him to pull out just in case so I really want to ask him if he remembers doing so

[Opinion Owner]

Well…. the pill is only about 95% effective in the real world, so pregnancy is still possible for some unlucky people. Plus, if you were drunk, he very well may have decided to not pull out. Most guys resent having to do that.

[Anonymous]

so you're a piece of shit then. i hope your fiance finds out and dumps your ass because you'll deserve it

[Asker]

Do you understand that it was an open relationship before then he was both seeing other people and it wasn’t serious but we both decided we wanted to be together and as he comes from a catholic family we had to get engaged to come out publicly.

[Opinion Owner]

save the excuses you got what you had coming to you now deal with it like a grown up

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice you ignorant ass wipe

[Opinion Owner]

you're welcome

[Djaay]

Lmao...😆

[lucas262]

Don't. Kid has a right to live. Tell the guy your pregnant. You never know what can happen.

[Asker]

So I should tell the friends with benefits I am pregnant?

[Asker]

How should I go about telling him if he’s blocked me I don’t want to go to his house or work that’s too much. Should I get a friend to message him

[lucas262]

If it's his, that's you putting the ball in his court he has a decision to make then. There is always adoption. But abortion? It's not the quick fix people make it out to be people use it as a means of birth control, these kids would probably choose to live live they had a Voice

[Asker]

It’s definitely his it matches up with my cycle and so on plus I haven’t slept with my fiancé for over a month as he is waiting for marriage. Im in major shit. I don’t understand how I even got pregnant because I take the pill religiously and I’m pretty sure he pulled out?

[lucas262]

You have a fiance who waited for you, and you got pregnant from your side man. I'm not gonna say it you already know. If it was me. That would be the end of that relationship. And I'd not take care of another man's kids, and if I found out about an abortion oh man. Best thing I can say? Be upfront now other wise your building off of lies, tell them both, you gonna have go reap what you sow that's real life and it has consequences for our actions. If you thought you could do this and squeeze into a life with your new husband and lie that deeply from the start I don't know what to say. But don't lie and don't kill the kid, tell them and go from there. Prolly both would leave my only question is why? I mean I'm also a guy who waits I'd be devastated but I'd rather know upfront than be surprised.

[lucas262]

Your blocked, your gonna have to do the hard things in life, welcome to adulthood

[Asker]

I appreciate your advice but I don’t think you understand. Although the relationship between me and my now fiancé was rocky it was an open relay for a long time. Me and him are both models we both travel the country and can’t be together all the time so we both agreed to have an open relationship, see people on the side. It was only up until recently i decided to get my shit together no more partying drugs and so on so we both entered a commitment and he proposed to me probably from pressure from his family and so on. I really can’t keep the baby because I want to continue my modelling and I personally don’t feel ready yet BUT I don’t know if I should tell the friends with benefits even tho I’m gonna abort?

[lucas262]

Like I said I'd tell em both, I think it's selfish. Was a good talk wish y'all a happy wedding.

[Asker]

Thanks appreciate it

[es20490446e]

Have you considered reading the Quran?

[Asker]

No, how is that related to my question. Please give me some advice

[es20490446e]

Knowing what you now know, what had you done differently?

[Asker]

I don’t know make him wear a Condom, I was already on the pill so I’m pissed of that I still got pregnant. Should I tell him or not

[Asker]

And I’m pretty sure he pulled out before ejaculation so I don’t know how tf I got pregnant!

[es20490446e]

If you were the guy, would you prefer to know or not to know?

[Asker]

No but what is your opinion

[es20490446e]

No option is going to be comfortable from this point on. So choose the least painful: tell both of them.

[Asker]

Even if I plan on aborting? The friends with benefits/father has blocked me on social media how am I gonna get in contact with him?

[es20490446e]

You create a new account.

[Asker]

Should I just get a friend to message him and tell him I need to speak with him asap

[es20490446e]

"She liked to speak to you about something you really wanted to know about"

[Asker]

Okay I will get my friend to message him. Thanks for the advice

[es20490446e]

Thanks 👍