Advice for wedding night and honeymoon?

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Hey everyone this is my first post I copied it from one of my questions on Reddit.
Me and my fiance have talked about sex a lot and have a pretty big list of things we want to try

Both myself (22f) and my fiance (25m) saved ourself for marriage. We are getting married in two weeks and we're super excited to finally have sex. We've talked about it quite a bit and we both know it probably won't be amazing the first few times. We still have a bunch of questions though and would like some advice

1. My boyfriend is a lot bigger than me (he's 5'11and I'm 5'1" on a good day) he also seems to have a really large penis ( like thick and long, sorrybif that's tmi) are there any positions we should try to make that easier in me?

2. I know some girls can't get it in the first time they have sex, is there anyway we can limit this? We have some lube and plan on lots of foreplay

3. Do you guys have any foreplay tips?

4. How do you guys handle the mess? Towels? Just change sheets?

5. What do most of you do after you both orgasm? Cuddle? Go again? Shower?

6. How many times could a young and fairly horny couple like us have sex in a day? 3-4 or like 10+ is there any way to have more?

I know that's a lot but thanks for taking time to answer them

undefined-intentions · Accepted Answer

First of all: remember that your wedding night comes right after a freaking WEDDING. Weddings, while being the best day in the world, are also EXHAUSTING. So keep in mind that you MAY be very tired and that you won't get as much done as you're planning but that's OKAY, that's just because you spent a brickload of mental energy going through the process of marrying.

1. I agree with whoever said that a position with you on top would probably be a good idea.

2. You're on the right track here. You want lube, and you want time. If he's very big you don't want to go straight to penetration. Start with something smaller, like a finger, then two fingers. And do a lot of foreplay, that's definitely a good idea.

3. Mostly variants of kissing and touching. Massages are nice, kissing each other all over is very good. Masturbating together, if you're comfortable with that. Eating wedding cake off each other's naked bodies. Mutual oral sex (I'd recommend going one at a time instead of jumping straight to a 69). Basically just touch and grope and pinch and kiss and lick and suck and bite each other until you're both too horny to go another second. Don't worry too much - as long as you both want it there's not really much you can do wrong here.

4. I'd probably say don't worry about it, you can change those sheets tomorrow. 😊

5. Mostly cuddle, but if both of you want to go again, go again. There's no right or wrong here.

5. What do most of you do after you both orgasm? Cuddle? Go again? Shower?

6. As many as you want!

Good luck, and congratulations!

Massageman · Accepted Answer

Overall - Don't expect miracles the first time out, or the second, or the third. It will take time to work things out. Stick with it - such a hard task, but I think you can handle it ;- )

1. Whatever is comfortable. If you are not, maybe try cowgirl so you can control things?

2. You're covered on that point. Maybe have some ice-cube play? Maybe use a benzocaine (numbing) cream to slow him down a bit?

3. Sensitive areas- nipples, genitals, anus, perineum (that little plateau just behind the vagina or scrotum. Bring a couple of soft ropes and a blindfold. Sensory/movement deprivation heightens the remaining senses, AND the imagination. The BRAIN is the most important "sex organ".

4. What mess? You don't swallow? just kidding - bring a couple of towels from home.

5. I usually collapse, but I'm around 70. 30 minutes later, I'll pee. I like to cuddle - just ask my hooker.

6. A gal can have orgasm after orgasm with minimal interruption. A guy has to go through a "refractory period" where his plumbing gets a chance to "reboot", so to speak. But , just don;t overdo things in the beginning until you find a good "cruising speed".

No problem - glad to help. Check out my earlier post on a "Basic Massage Protocol". And bring lots of grapeseed oil. Have fun, kids.

loves2learn · Accepted Answer

Hey there! Congrats! I am happy for you!
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Here are my answers.
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Hey everyone this is my first post I copied it from one of my questions on Reddit.
Me and my fiance have talked about sex a lot and have a pretty big list of things we want to try

1. My boyfriend is a lot bigger than me (he's 5'11and I'm 5'1" on a good day) he also seems to have a really large penis ( like thick and long, sorrybif that's tmi) are there any positions we should try to make that easier in me? - my husband is 6’0 and I am 5’2. Totally doable. :) I recommend starting with missionary and take it slow. Use lots of lube and have him finger you first. It did hurt the first several tomes with my husband, but stopped hurting after a month.

2. I know some girls can't get it in the first time they have sex, is there anyway we can limit this? We have some lube and plan on lots of foreplay - these are good plans!

3. Do you guys have any foreplay tips? - let me pm you on this.

4. How do you guys handle the mess? Towels? Just change sheets? - just change the sheets. Not a big deal.

5. What do most of you do after you both orgasm? Cuddle? Go again? Shower? - hubs and I went again and tried with me on top. These days I usually pee qnd we cuddle.

6. How many times could a young and fairly horny couple like us have sex in a day? 3-4 or like 10+ is there any way to have more? I’d say 5 easily. Not 10+.

KatherineJ · Accepted Answer

Yeah, I think you need to not have any expectations for your wedding night. If you are anything like we were, you’ll be too tired to do anything other than cuddle and fall asleep. Don’t put any pressure on yourselves as far as what you want, or how you want it. Just let the moment happen when you are both rested.

nachosaresexy · Answer

So many questions! 🤪 If you give me a follow I can message you to give you my opinion & advice from a male point of view.

Paige90 · Answer

Have you seen each other naked? Have you done anything (handjob, blowjob, etc)?

Darth_Fidelis · Answer

I wish I could pm this but I can’t

I’d say that, in terms of what you two plan on doing together on the wedding night, you should really discuss that with each other. If you already did that, I’d say experimenting with each other without outside advice is your best bet. You shouldn’t need a bunch of sex tips right now because there’ll be a good chance you’ll both be excited with each other to even remember any tips people may have given you regarding that (or you’ll be too exhausted from the wedding day to really do much, unfortunately). Ask around after you’ve exhausted all of the ideas you two have come up with. I say this because if you start doing other peoples’ ideas, then you’ll be denied the full extent of the joy and excitement that comes from your OWN exploration of each other.

Iron_Man · Answer

Just do what comes natural and enjoy the honeymoon

Wiredone · Answer

There is no right way or wrong way to have sex. You just have to do what feels right for both of you. Don't be nervous or uptight. Let the passion build up inside both of you. Enjoy each other's bodies. Just have him be gentle with you.

LOGESHKUMAR · Answer

You could try missionary or doggy position You could have as your wish as your first night.. First time guys would cum you should adjust that..

Anonymous · Answer

I assume your fiance was the one who pursued you or hit on you, asked you out

Anonymous · Answer

Missionary and cowgirl, plus have him let you ride him standing

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