Should I tell my boyfriend that his friend’s harassing me?

I’m not sure if it’s my imagination or not but my boyfriend’s friend gives me dirty looks on my body and it started to annoy me. And yesterday he touched my hand instead of taking the cup from me and I was going to throw it on him and it’s not the first time. It could be because I am pregnant and stressed but I don’t FEEL comfortable around him anymore, feels like he’ll do something to me any time.
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  • would be better (because you said you're not sure) if you talk about this to your boyfriend without calling it harassment, but you should definitely bring this up, and explain what's going, because it's making you feel uncomfortable and it causes you more stress, so you don't have to put up with any of that, better safe than sorry.

    • But what should I call it if it’s not harassment?

    • you don't have to call it something right away... just mention what's happening, the looks and the touching and how's that affecting you, that's more important, how it makes you feel stressed and not comfortable at all.

    • @pinkhamster you should just be a little delicate just in case. Its his friend after all so he might get a little defensive at first.

Most Helpful Guy

  • well your boyfriend is young and impressionable.
    he probably sees this guy as a good friend. doesn't realize that the guy is a shitbag.

    friends dont do that to friends... so no he is a shitty guy.
    you boyfriend is clueless probably (and probably won't believe it)

    • How do you know that my boyfriend’s young? 😅 Also because of his type of work he isn’t always available to make many friends but doesn’t mean he will choose friend over the mother of his baby. I don’t want them to end their friendship or fight over me but we all should sit and talk it out because I am no longer safe around this guy

    • True- if he finds out he will be that pissed. But think about it, someone that shitty has no doubt has done some little shitty things here and there for years to him. This isn't the first time he has disrespected him. I bet there is some shit he has taken and never paid for. Cock blocked him out of a car deal or some other little selfish shit. This is a more than likely a pattern of selfishness that this guy has with your boyfriend and not just for you.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Did you call him out on it? Some guys tell each other things that you may not know that is causing him to overstep boundaries.

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  • Then tell your boyfriend that.

  • Tell your boyfriend.

    make sure you emphasise how much it’s disturbing you

    • Is it better to be direct about it?

    • Really if you are feeling this, way go with your feelings. And just tell you guy straight up, Don’t go in to specifics unless you have to but. Normally would say confront him, but you don’t do that when pregnant, that’s what partners are for

    • Okay thank you so much

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  • It sounds to me like you are being overly sensitive. So far all you have is "dirty looks" and what was probably an accidental touch.

    • And how many times do you think this accidental touch happened?😕

    • You only mentioned one time.

    • If I would mention every single thing that happened then this question will be longer than this

  • Yeah

  • Yes. Tell your boyfriend about it.

  • Yes!!!

  • Maybe you'll eventually have to tell boyfriend about it but, at least try to steer clear of this guy. Sounds like HE wants to get inside of you, too!

    • Well he can dream about it for sure if that’s his intention 😕

    • Yeah, nobody can stop you from dreaming!! Not yet, anyway!

  • I suggest telling your boyfriend how you feel including that it may be your imagination, just so he knows to keep a close eye on his friend.

  • Definitely

  • If you are uncomfortable being around your boyfriend's friend I would have a talk with your boyfriend. Tell him your feelings and stuff he has done. It might just be the pregnancy hormones but it's better to be safe than sorry. If he really loves you, which I'm sure he does, he will have a talk with his friend.

    • I agree with you

    • When you talk to your boyfriend, I wouldn't down right accuse his friend. Just explain what has been happening. How are you doing with your pregnancy? How many months are you now?

    • Okay. Thank you for mentioning that important thing. I’m doing okay, still I’m only 2 months and it’s going well

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  • Sounds like you’re overreacting, but I can’t know for sure. If I could see his body language I would know in a heartbeat.

    • How am I overreacting when this thing has been going on for a while now? 🙂

    • Well, I read about the hand thing I initially was like, Come on! But just Refer to what I said after. I can’t know for sure without physically being there and that’s not happening lol

  • How did he touch your hand? Are you sure it wasn’t an accident?

    • It wasn’t an accident because it’s not the first time. I don’t know to explain it but it’s like when I want to give you a cup of coffee and instead taking it you touch my hand in an intimate way while looking at me! I hope this was close to give the idea of what i’m trying to say

    • Ok how well do you or he know him? Had he had issues before with other people he dated? Or women generally?

    • I know him for a year now and he was always good. Just recently he broke up with his girlfriend for no reason and he started to spend more time at our home.

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  • Trust your instinct and tell your boyfriend

    • Yeah. Something about him scares me

    • can't trust someone who cannot respect a pregnant ladies personal space. I think he's hinted more than once. So dont waste any chance to speak up and stand up against this harassment or he might beat you to the punch and say you did it

  • If one of your friends was harassing your boyfriend would you want to know?

    • Yes, I would especially that we will have a baby between us

  • I'd tell him

  • Yes do. Your boyfriend will love how you only want him ;)

  • yes you shod

  • I'd stay away from him, if there's a more definitive sign or action then definitely tell your boyfriend

  • If a woman did this to a man then the man wouldn't care. Women in general need to grow up and realise that not everything is about them.

    • No women in her right mind would go around touching men and give them lustful looks all the time unless she is a ……………… you know

    • Well plenty of women do do that. And it is fine. I just wish men were allowed to do that to without being branded as a rapist.

    • Wow! I can’t imagine how would a human being is okay with harassing other people sexually in different ways. People are becoming fucked up day after another

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