Girls, Religious girls/good girls: do you like sexually experienced men?

[Originalusername5000]

This question is for the Good Girls, the virgins, the ones waiting until marriage (or already married) -the religious ones especially:

If a guy you like is hot, has great personality, is confident and dominant, but has slept with multiple women, or simply isn't a virgin, but has reformed his ways and is waiting until marriage from now on- is that a turn off or turn on? Does it make a difference how high his body count is?

If his confidence and skill in bed really showed on your wedding night, would it make you feel jealous or sad because you knew how he got so good? Or does just seem like it would make it better?

To be clear, Im not so much asking if you morally approve of or condemn him for his past behavior. Just how you really feel about it physically/emotionally.

(I dont mean this in an inappropriate way, just objectively wanting to know because it's relevant to my own life. you're helping a guy trying to live right, so dont be afraid if its too spicy of a subject for you! Lol)

[btbc92]

Buddy. You are a man of the world, stay in the world if that's how you are. Guys like you get rejected for a good reason because that's all you care about. It's like you have no respect not only for yourself but for others. The answer is obviously NO. unless they themselves is of the world. We don't care how hot you are, we don't care how much money you've got in a bank, we don't care what you think you have on it outside come and we care about who you aren't on the inside. And your past and your choices reflects who you became. Why are you looking for good girls when you chose to be a bad boy and fool around? Are you get yourself a non Virgin, or you get other bad girls. Please leave innocent and chastised women alone and this is coming from somebody who is also a Virgin. We Deserve to be with people who equally share our values.

You need to be born again. All of that very much reflects and affects a person. And anybody who says it doesn't, or not being honest. My suggestion to you is that you change the way how you think, concerning about all that because you still need to get yourself clean out. If your not whole, born again, in mind, body, and spirit. You're just gonna add on more problems. Waiting for marriage is not gonna change anything if you yourself is not change and made whole as a person. Jesus must be present in your life, you must be And from what you're telling me you have to change. Even if you say you didn't do whatever for years, you still have not changed because everything about your still the same.

If any girl is saying that she less experienced then, she's only caring about the sex. She's only caring about benefits comment and she's caring about getting a sexual experience out of you. That's all. It doesn't mean she loves you, it just means that she wants things out of you. No different than the world. So it is no personal offense to you, I'm not trying to judge you or cause more damage, but please think wisely about this period someone like myself is who I am for reason. And if you're just thinking that is fun in games it's not fun in games. Any girl that comes out to you with that way of thinking like you, is only going to be somebody who obviously mess around with other boys similarly. I mean I'm a really think about what you're saying, you're completely asking for your opposite and you're not equally yoked. This spirit filled woman is not gonna be interested in someone like that.

[btbc92]

You are very much Asking us that period you know what the answer is. It's not about your physical or emotional you're basically saying and asking how can you manipulate us so that's what you could secure a good woman after you fool around and played hoe. It's not right, does not fair, God is watching, and he does not like ugly.

[Originalusername5000]

What? Yo, you got wrong idea, lady. I never said I wasn't born again.

[btbc92]

If you got that kind of mindset no.

[btbc92]

This is why you downvoted me because you know I'm telling you the truth. If this is how you think of us then no you don't need us. You very much still have the mind of the world. Your mind needs to be on Jesus, not women or any of that stuff. She wants somebody who is just like her. A virgin. Somebody who is completely sold out for Jesus all the way. Why do you need a Virgin woman? Why can you not get with somebody who's equally as experienced as you, and if you 2 are meant to be on that journey together, you grow together. Why do you need a Virgin? It's not fair to her comment that's not fair to her sexual rights, and it's not fair to whom she wants to be with. If you gotta rely on your looks and personality for somebody to be interested in you that says a lot. So now I understand the very idea of it all which is why I told you what I told you in which why I avoid it guys that done what you done. Because you're not as serious as you make it out to be ear and then you're seeking virgins area you're not the only guy that I've encountered not only on this site, but even in real life with this. The huge difference between being religious and being spiritual. Either your religious, or your spiritually set for God. Cause if you're not looking for God you need to be specify honest. Don't say you are when you aren't because you would not be asking this question. The answer is obviously a No. Because if they did they would not be Virgin themselves they would've done what a lot of people have done and even those that I know have done. There would have been in the world, even with those that also went to church having sex. Many virgins want like minded men. And who are also virgins not sexually experienced.

[Originalusername5000]

Surely you're not saying that if a man turns his life around, he's not allowed to get a wife who's waiting til marriage? I can't change my past. Im just trying to understand if my past will be unattractive. I personally find a high bodycount unattractive, as most guys tend to do, and if a woman found that unattractive about me I wouldn't hold it against her at all. People like what they like and Im just trying to understand.

[btbc92]

God is in control. That is his decision what he decides what is best for your life as you have given your life up to Jesus. That means your will have to be God. And if it's not his will for you to be in that area then you're not going to be in that area. Know what you have to understand is that once you make those decisions those are decisions again that you made. You are talkin about what it's like in a better and everything else, that is not fair on virgin women. That's not fair on anybody. And I made those decisions as many of my friends and family have done, I would not be looking for a virgin. I would have respect. You did not ask about getting away from waiting for marriage to you had asked about good girls and virgins. You did not say women who are like yourself which is a very different story because you yourself is not a virgin. Non-virgins have no choice but to accept that fact. Brothers like myself do not have to lower those standards. Especially when God tells us no. You say you fine high body count unattractive but you did those things already. It mostly I tend to do many of them would be virgins. You would be a virgin, everybody who said that would be a virgin. A lot of you who say these are not virgins there for a lot of you cannot judge. It's not about liking what you like is about being equally yoked. Sex is not a game and is not a toy and you should know this by now. And if you don't understand the spiritual significance and the consequences that come with that, there's going to be a problem and you're trying to force that on another human being who may not understand what it is I highly suggest you look up videos that talks about opening up doors and the spiritual implications when you are in sexual sin. Very deep. And scary.

[btbc92]

https://youtu.be/SP0wYgOZv7g

[btbc92]

You will have to be God's will*

[btbc92]

Do you not know that you're opening doors to spirits, and demons, and generational curses when you participate in all the? If you're not healed in those areas and haven't been delivered completely from it, you can take that same thing that you thinking that you are where you from, and that can transfer over into your marriage damn it and next thing you know you got all kinds of lesbians and everything else going on in the bedroom and in your household and that passes on down to your children and your children's children and next thing you know you figure out why I haven't done it in years, then you want to know why they're now getting sexually active at 13 and 12 years old, God forbid touching themself at 7 or 8. That's how it starts and then you're repeating the same cycle and now it's on the children. This is not a game. You can't just stop start and stop again and think there's no consequence. I'm telling you now who's seeing the whole reason why I'm looking for my Deliverance of what I saw Within Myself that I too need deliverance from. And trust me it's like not living are horror movie, with those demons and everything tormenting you. Repentance and everything needs to come to a point you a little early crying out for God and you're asking God for help!

[btbc92]

Everybody got sin, everybody is struggling with something, but when it comes down to needing Deliverance Deliverance is the most important thing you can ever ask for as well as your salvation. Your salvation is far more important than to be worried about how you sexually going to be good or bad in the bedroom. Before that same thing is going to call that person in yourself to be in bondage. The same bondage you claiming that you want to try to get away from oh, but you don't realize if you're not careful you may put that same virgin woman in the same Bondage as you were in. That kind of stuff don't just go away on its own it just escalates. That is how serious it is. And those are strongholds that is hard to break. Only Jesus can help you with that man. That's why I said you mind need to be ye transformed into the things of the Lord most high God and of his Christ. Yes, you need to believe that your sins are forgiven oh, and what's past is past. But you got to wake up to reality too. Because if you got demons, if you got things still in operation in your life, it may hinder you from operating fully the way you need to. That's why you can't be focusing like that as if your mind is still that of the world. You can be in church building all day all night, but if your mind and transform into the things of God, then your mind is still in the world.

[SamA_nold]

So... Girls who have already had sex are bad girls?

[Originalusername5000]

Not sure what you're asking. I say Good Girl to refer to girls being "good." Its a figure of speech. Does that answer your question? Its like saying bad boy, nice guy- not literal.

[SamA_nold]

If you are going to make a statement, it is recommended to stand by what you said

[Originalusername5000]

What statement are you talking about exactly?