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Can someone please help me understand this and calm down, he left me for another girl?

Was dating a guy for 3 months, we had sex within 2. We got along so well he was so nice and so caring and all of a sudden he switched, he started treated me unkindly yelling at me, ignoring my texts every time, being horrible. He’d only message me late saying to go to his or for him to come to mine,

I confronted him few days ago he said he’s seeing someone else and he doesn’t wanna talk to me anymore after this whole time of calling me crazy for asking if he’s talking to someone else and getting mad at me for comforting him and punishing me by ignoring me,
He said oh well my friends all fancy you so I will set you up with them, he said I don’t wanna see you I’m with her. Then he said he’d come see me afterwards he stated we can talk about it after I’ve left her house I said no.

Yesterdya I messaged him he was being nice then all of a sudden was being horrible saying he never wants to see me again since he was right next to her and deleted me because of her, I’m so upset for 3 months he was yelling calling me crazy for asking these questions. How do I deal with this. I saw him 4 days ago not knowing he was seeing someone else and we had sex. I know he will try and message me At some point again but I’m so heartbroken.
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Superb Opinion

  • It is so hard to let go and move on when you have such strong feelings, feeling so strong they blind you from reality. You stated for three months you agonized over what happened between the two of you, then just four days ago you meet up and had sex. Your never inquired if he was still with the other girl or not, just assumed or maybe didn't even think to ask about her, you decided to jump in bed with him.

    You are young, a real relationship will come your way. This guy is not interested in developing a loving honest relationship with you. He has had several chances and blew them all. Invest yourself in a relationship where your partner cares about you as much as you care about them.

    Letting go is the hardest thing you can do when your feeling are so intense, but he will never be there for you when you need him.

Most Helpful Guy

  • How old are you and what is your prior dating experience?

    • I’m 20 and I usually find it very hard to speak to people as I have a bit of daddy issues when it comes to stuff, so this was the first time letting my guard down fully with someone and this has happened now. I’ve dated others but no ones ever left me fir someone else before

    • And he also would call me crazy for getting upset and mad about how he left me for another girl and how he was speaking to me horrible and when he’d swear at me he’d say I’m acting crazy for being mad

    • Some people would let an event like this send them into a retreat and they would never venture out into the dating world again. I hope that is not the course you take. You probably trusted him too soon and gave your heart too freely. He screwed up and that is not your fault but, in retrospect, you chose the wrong guy, so. . . think about what you did and how you can avoid repeating this mistake. If you learn lessons from your mistakes, you will slowly become older and wiser.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Honestly I would leave him alone. I know you really liked him, but he couldn’t even commit for 3 months and that should say enough about him. 3 months is not a long time at all on top of the fact that he is being awfully disrespectful. There benefit of talking to this guy.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • He is an ass, time to move on

  • Help you understand? He was just using you for sex until he found someone he deemed better than you. End of the story.

    • @fakename123. True dat. This is the normal result of "Chasing Chad" Thundercock.

    • Yep has happened to me before.

  • Block him, spend a few months focusing on you, then go searching again and this time try and figure out how to determine if he’s a fuckboi or not before you give it up

  • Move on to one of his friends.

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