Not good enough for love because I’m younger?

[Diya1014]

What does it mean when you date older men but they keep “moving slow” being nonchalant with me? They go all out for older women, but purposely do bare minimum with me and have an excuses for why they don’t do more such as, “I don’t seem like a women that needs things.” They take older women on dates within the first week of knowing them, but with me they act as if they suddenly don’t know how to court a woman properly. It’s like they sit and wait to see if I’ll start begging or realize I’m supposed to be offered something. (Not trying to sound hungry or needy) I thought that was part of it. With older women they are attentive to her needs but with me they purposely don’t touch me how I need to be touched or hold me; I had to wait a year to be held with both relationships that I’ve ever been in. They protect the older woman’s feelings and sugar coat things but when it comes to me he’s downright nasty and says things to hurt me. I get the tough part but he coddles her. He pulls out during sex to save remaining stamina and cum for his ex that’s 45 saying she’s older, fat, and sick and she doesn’t have anybody to make her feel good and said that I should allow it because I’m young and pretty and can have anyone I want. I know it’s not the cooking because he says he doesn’t like her food and I didn’t need to cook to bag him. He says he’s not doing anything he didn’t have to do to bag me in the beginning so I feel the same. He lied and said that’s his babymother and she never had a baby for him; she told me! Guess he’s attached to her because that’s who he had after prison and she’s very forgiving. You can do her wrong 100 times and she’ll always wait to beg for him. She begs for sex and he allows her. He said she’s not going anywhere. Both men that I’ve ever been with gave me these EXACT problems and I watch them do better with older women. I don’t twerk or act loud/obnoxious so I don’t think it’s my behavior. I’m a college student. They are old enough to be my dad.

[Anonymous]

The age difference thing is tough. Older guys often only desire younger women because it boosts their ego that a younger woman would want them. Younger girls are usually easier for them to manipulate and, of course, they like sex with a younger, prettier woman. He treats the older woman differently because he sees her as more of an equal and grants her that respect, whereas you’re a plaything he keeps dangling on a string for when he decides he wants something from you. He will never commit to you, you’re a side piece. Sometimes relationships can work with a big age difference but usually they don’t because the older party often doesn’t take the younger party seriously and sees them as a dalliance. Just being honest here.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it is related to your age. I proceed like that when I am not really sure about the girl. Maybe I don't really like her as much as I want to or I am not as attracted to her as I want to be.

[Diya1014]

How if he keeps saying he loves me he needs me and he doesn’t want to be without me?

[Opinion Owner]

then why you tellin us that he be movin to slow?

[Diya1014]

That’s why I’m confused because he says he wants me and needs me but refuses to meet my needs he only meets the older ladies needs. For example, I ask to be held and he purposely denies me but when the older lady ask he does it and coddles her. He said it’s harder to just hold me because he keeps wanting more and it’s easier to hold a fat older woman instead. He says things to protect her feelings but is very mean to me. He said she’ll be sad because she didn’t have anyone but I can have anyone so he tries to make her happy and not me. Why men never want to meet my needs but so the exact thing for other women after claiming to love me and want me to be happy. It took a year for him to start holding me a whole year but she always gets it without asking.

[Avicenna]

Kick that sorry ass clown to the curb and don't waste any additional thoughts on him

[KennyG72]

find a new man and a better one. those problems aren't representative of the males that age that i know.

[Diya1014]

He’s in his 50s. Why do older men like seeing me beg for basic things like holding or kindness but do it for women their age sooooo easily without me if asked. I literally ask for sex and he keeps making it soft and it takes him 13 days to give me sex with a hard on and he keeps needing to be drunk around me. Why do older men always drink so much just to be around me? Older ladies get dates and I never do when they try to have me. They say I don’t need dates. They drink drink around the older ladies just me.

[Iron_Man]

I’m not that way I treat younger women like a goddess

[msc545]

You need to find a different guy.

[Sketti2021]

Well choose younger guys

[Seppel]

You should go for Younger guys

[Diya1014]

Wouldn’t younger guys treat me the same? Anytime I go around younger guys they act interested then disappear or leave me stood up then pops back up and ask why I’m not talking to them any more. Anytime I talk to a younger guy he keeps looking away and smiling. All of them young and old make the same “I’m so nervous” excuse but they claim to get a lot of girls without trying so how can they possibly be nervous?

[Seppel]

I don't know but If the older ones don't like you you should search for another group of people who like you

[demin]

U should choose the man who's of ur same age