How can I tell if he wants me for more than sex?

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I really like this guy, and I want to see where it goes both romantically and sexually. I think he’s into me, but how do I know?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Is he consistent with how he treats you and how often he contacts? Does he make plans and stick to them? Does he remember things you've told him? Does he make you a priority in his life? And if you've already had sex with him, is he still doing all of the things mentioned here?

A guy who is just in it for sex might be hot and cold. He might say how badly he wants to see you but not make plans, or he might make plans but then bail. Or his plans will mostly be "netflix and chill". He might forget things you've told him, or get you mixed up with someone else. And if you've already had sex with him, he likely won't try as hard because he already got what he wanted. Oh and if he straight up tells you he doesn't want a relationship, wants to keep things casual, etc., believe him!

It took me a long time to figure this out. Some people are just really good at misleading. Unfortunately, there are no clear cut answers I can give you, but the clues in my second paragraph above are good starting points. Trust your gut. If you feel antsy and insecure all the time with this guy, that's usually not a good sign in my experience. The guy who wants to be with you will make you feel safe.

EmoKate97 · Accepted Answer

IGNORE EVERYONE HERE AND LISTEN TO ME!

Guys who care about you, for the most part, will ask about YOU at first rather then constantly bragging / showing you their positive traits, guys only focused on fucking you are constantly just trying to impress you to show you they're worthy for casual sex, but if they actually care about you long term, they ask you personal questions and are curious about you as a person since they want to see if you're worthy of being their girlfriend status. Also i highly recommend making a guy wait at least a month or 2 until you actually have sex, while this will get the extreme fuck boys off your shit, a few will wait that long.

That said idc about being in a relationship, but this is the common pattern iv seen being with 30+ dudes, nice / boyfriend material guys actually care about me as a person and still want to just hang out after having sex for the first time, when i fuck fuckbois 80% of the time they only talk to me asking for sex or to do superficial shit that mostly involves them, or will always lead the conversation towards sex.

ARealHonestHuman · Accepted Answer

Just remember that a guy will love you. even if he doesn't tell you. He 100% does. He will keep you as his own until he puts a ring on you. He will be around you, try to know more about you. When he loves, he means it because not every guy gets a chance to show love because we rarely get complimented, and we tend to get rejected unless we look handsome enough. He will cherish you until you are smiling and in shock when he says "will you marry me?".

InventorofWarp · Accepted Answer

Men like feeling useful to women we like. Generally if I like someone I want to pretty much do everything for her. Even just something as simple as carrying something for her or offering to drive her somewhere or something. And no, sex isn't expected in return.

JuliaStyles · Answer

If he is really into you and not looking for sex he will wait for sex and not push for it. If you don't have sex with him for a month and he's still around then you know he is into you. If he drops you with the old dumb rule "Sex by the 3rd date or GTFO!" the n he is looking for sex. Problem is girls don't seem to want to wait either so you are probably using each other.

loves2learn · Answer

His actions. Very well could be. Does he seem to care about you?

summiter · Answer

How long have you known him? Give it some time and just do some fun things. Have you been on any "dates" yet? Have you fooled around with him at all?

spartan55 · Answer

How long have been seeing him? Are you in a committed relationship? How soon did you have sex?

slatyb · Answer

From his behavior outside the bedroom. Keep in mind that you can't trade sex for commitment. Have sex when you want to have sex, enjoy it, and don't regret it. If the relationship doesn't last, then maybe you at least had some enjoyable times.

Agape93 · Answer

Stop having sex for a few months and observe his reactions.

exitseven · Answer

This is why you don;t have sex on the first date. You want to get to know him better and that takes time. It will take as long as it takes.

bowenw · Answer

Make him wait for sex and see if he drops you or pressures you.

Browneye57 · Answer

He TALKS to you.

Andres77 · Answer

Does he make you a priority?

curvedandthick · Answer

He doesn't want you more than sex, guys like sex, have a lot of sex with him and then he'll probably fall in love with you then, guys love sex and emotion comes after I've fucked a girl many times

dragoblack · Answer

He actually puts in effort to get to know you as a person and shows gestures of that he is listening

Tjsmoove · Answer

if he is more intimate with ya than sexual when your gettin to know women it's better to be more sexual than intimate even though ya may seem playerish for doin so it's much better than comin off overly romantic and needy same thing for women

Zygum · Answer

Have sex him and wait few days about his reaction

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