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How to cope when your partner has a shit body?

I’m lucky my whole 20s I was with guys with great bodies, I didn’t need to fantasise or ever feel any desire to cheat because they had great bodies I was so turned on and satisfied with their looks,
anyway I decided to finally settle down and find a guy to be serious with and less shallow. I am dating a guy I really like. I can see myself marrying him. We are close to that point.
only problem. I miss all of my ex’s hot bodies, I fantasise so badly about other men,
i don’t want to cheat, but the thought of being with a guy with a normal body for the rest of my life saddens me.
How do I accept an average body when all my ex’s had hot bodies.
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  • Good for the Goose, good for the gander.
    It is said, if you want to know how your female companion will age, look to her previous familial female middle-aged generation.

    Are YOU prepared to be progressively rejected as YOUR hips and hiney pack on, ... your breasts take on the consistency of sagging jello-filled balloons and your abdominal muscles begin to lose their firmness? Can't hide your aging curves in 'shelf' support bras and spanx til the lights go off.

    You COULD seek a male with whom to commit to a MUTUAL lifetime's gym rat ethos... or,
    take up Latin ballroom dance as a mutual hobby.

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  • Well there is always just keeping in shape, running and core body stuff.

    from this I assume you have no sagging boobs, no cellulite, no bits that wobble when they used to be firm?

    obviously he would never fantasies about a woman having a perfect body….

    • I don’t have a perfect body, but he is the only guy I have dated whose body isn’t that great. So I’m not used to it.

    • @ pretty pink Anon thank you most appreciated

Most Helpful Girls


  • "How do I accept an average body when all my ex’s had hot bodies."



    Don't get married and move on. If you're going to make a commitment for life to someone then you need to accept them. That means everything. People are a package not a pick and mix. Conditional acceptance isn't acceptance.

  • You might want to reevaluate if you're looking for a partner in terms of a relationship or just someone to fuck as it sounds a lot like the latter. In which case you just move on to the next available dick that's attached to a body you're more attracted to.

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  • you find someone with a "hot body" and personality.
    "i don't want to cheat" sounds like you're just waiting for the day to do exactly that, and to then throw the excuse in.

  • U can't if its somtging u want then you need to find a partner with that as u can't just get over what you are attracted too lol

    • As it sounds more like u decided to get with someone u are just not attracted too

    • i don’t have the best body. But I have a good face, I felt insecure a lot with guys in my past, as their bodies were amazing and mine was average. So I thought I’d be with someone like me. Nice face but average body. But I don’t like it. I almost rather feel insecure again. And go back to dating better than me.

  • You answered your own question. You need to break up with this guy because he will never make you happy. I see the irony in you wanting to be with this guy because he is less shallow. Ironic indeed.

  • Why wouldn't you just go to the gym together and help your man get a nicer body?

  • why are you honestly with him lol wtf

  • I don't know why you would. A guy can be a 'really great guy' and have a hot body too. I know, I am one. And I married a real hottie. That was thirty years ago, and they said it would never last. Sex is the glue honey. Attraction and desire is CRUCIAL.
    Don't settle. And don't fuck up the sexual compatibility thing - you'll sign yourself up for a lifetime of frustration and anxiety.

  • well who's decision was it? it was yout decision. that's how you accept that. and if you regret this decision, well go through the thought process again. cause i'm assuming the reasons you decided for that aren't gone. cause usually bauty will fade, not the reason you are with someone. specially not if that someone wasn't all that hot to begin with xD

  • You don't "cope.". You fix it. You MAKE him go to the gym. Tell him he has no option. (He probably wants to anyway; he's just been procrastinating.)

  • Soon, your body will not even be remotely hot. That should help.

  • Buy a wand. Itll be worth every penny. Make sure it plugs in the wall not a rechargeable one. After he cums have him use it on you.

  • Speak to him about getting into shape

  • I think it depends on how you long you have dated. If you've been with someone for years and years, it might be a bit too late, but if you have only briefly dated you might want to consider dating someone whose body is more attractive to you. Sure, accepting a partner and his flaws is important in terms of building a sustainable relationship, and it might not be realistic to expect that he'll always be ripped/fit as he's growing older, but on the other hand, it's fairly important to be attracted to someone as a starting point.

  • Well just realize that he will be thinking the same thing about you as you get older

  • Why do you have to settle? Oh, that's right, it's because you are in your 30s now.

  • Find someone else if you can't get over it, or workout together so he develops the kind of body you like. Promise him a nice reward if he gets into shape and keeps it that way. Give him the special reward every year. That could be anything he wants sexually or a material thing.

  • My god, you're such textbook hypergamous slut it's borderline hilarious.

    So you ride the cock carousel in your 20s having your fun getting rammed by all the hot guys you can stuff inside you. Then when you're "ready to settle down" in your 30s (want some chump to take care of you), you finally trade off looks for personality. But you've been run through by so many Chad's you can't pair bond with this guy because he doesn't measure up to your past and you ultimately long for all the guys in yours 20s. Such a cliche and why guys should stay away from women who had a party phase.

    What's going to happen is you're eventually going to cheat on him and then justify it by blaming him, saying something like "he doesn't arouse you" and you "deserve to be happy". It's pretty hilarious how much of a cliche you are *facepalm*

  • Leave him, he deserves better

  • is your body hot NO bitch it's not! you're not rocking D size tits or F size tits or FF size tits and sexy thick thighs so fuck off. you're just looking for a reason to fucking cheat. so quit seeking validation for wanting to whore yourself out

  • Annnd this is why men don’t want used women

    • good point, bro. whores need ATM plus sex

    • @S3ntnl yeah the main problem is sexpectations. They will have been with so many men who will never commit to them, just fuck them, and these men are out of their league. They can never get one, but whoever they do get, they will always resent that he isn’t what they had in the past

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