Kissing open-mouth?

[mrnoon]

I have not kissed before as part of a relationship due to suffering from OCD issues related to contamination and saliva.

If I had a relationship, what I want to know is whether open-mouth kissing (not tongue kissing) is something I could be comfortable with, given my circumstances.

I also want to know whether or not it is realistically possible for each kisser to take a very quick break after every few seconds of open-mouth kissing (I wonder how many seconds?) to swallow their own saliva so as to not transfer saliva to the other. Or does it not work this way?

While writing this, I thought of how saliva be exchanged between partners for the following situations

a) kissing where one person is on top of the other, on a bed or sofa.

b) kissing where the two people are standing, and one of them is leaning in downwards (as opposed to leaning sideways) towards the other person.

I think a situation of a person leaning sideways to the other person in a standing position

would mean no saliva exchange, unless I am mistaken. Please correct me if so.

If you could restrict your answers just to answering my specific questions rather than wanting to give possible advice about me requiring professional help for my situation, I would appreciate it. I want to see if I can work with the psychological handicap I have rather than aiming for a full cure to my problem (at least for now).

I have no issues with kissing on lips with the mouths being closed, a situation involving a dry kiss.

I had thought of anti-bacterial mouth wash as a possible solution to my kissing issue but I am slowly moving away from this idea as I do not feel comfortable with it at present.

I hope I get sympathetic and informed responses and not sarcastic responses to a problem which is no fun at all.

Thanks in advance.

[MotorcycleMan]

This sounds more like CDO, which is like OCD but with the letters in alphabetical order like they should be ;)
At the risk of creeping you our, I suspect that with any kiss there will be some kind of transfer. That's just the way we work. Yes, certain diseases can be transferred this way, but for the most part it's not an issue. It can also be beneficial. Not only do you get all the good chemicals going from human contact, but on top of that sharing some of the flora from mouth to mouth may create more diverse flora would could help with a more robust immune system. Keep in mind that our bodies do a pretty good job of sorting these kind of things out.
I'm not knowledgeable enough to speak about gut flora, but a couple of things that I have learned is that not only can gut flora effect your mood and health, there is also so much of it that the majority of the cells in your body are not human. It probably pays to treat it well with decent pro-biotics, good diet and maybe even kissing :)
I would think if you have a sympathetic partner, you should be able to work out whatever is comfortable for you. With some experience, you may be able to expand your comfort zone. While on a molecular level, I don't think you can prevent exchange completely, but you can certainly minimize it if that makes you more comfortable. Kissed don't need to be sloppy :)

[mrnoon]

I have certainly heard about the benefits related to the immune system, but I have also heard very intimate kissing be linked to disease transfer, which puts me off, and something you referred to at the start of your comments. Year last paragraph is reassuring, that I can control what is comfortable for me, and that kisses don’t need to be sloppy. Nice reassuring way to end. Thanks.

[MotorcycleMan]

I know a lot of that may have put you off, but just trying to be clear and honest, but yes, in the end, it's up to you. :)

[Avicenna]

That's something you and your partner need to figure out. She might be amenable to what you suggested, and using anti-bacterial mouthwash after kissing may be a solution.

[mrnoon]

Thanks. Or even anti-bacterial mouthwash before kissing.

[humanearth]

You would never be comfortable with open mouth kissing

[Iron_Man]

Why can’t you still kiss a girl

[mrnoon]

I have never been interested until now because of my disgust of saliva. Now aged 50, and with plenty of time on my hands with lockdown to think about my future, my view about kissing has changed. I am interested in kissing with restrictions, not uninhibited passionate kissing with a huge volume of saliva being exchanged.

[In_Trance]

Tldr