Did I offend him? Is he just having a bad week? Is he reconsidering what we have? Has he found someone new?

[fruitycutie]

Okay so I have this guy I see sometimes, like every/every other weekend or Friday eve and we fuck. We don’t ever socialize in any other way, I usually just leave after. I have some sexual kinks that I enjoy and he’s always seemed into them. I like to be dominated, have my head forced down and choked during deep throating, rough anal, being bound and slapped, pissed on, cum on degraded and insulted etc. Nothing particularly original, the usual lol. He told me he’s never done those things with a girl before but enjoys them with me. Anyway one of the things I like is being denied orgasm, so he’s never made me cum or gone anywhere near my clit, and when he fucks me he makes sure there’s enough pain to distract from pleasure. He seemed fine with this until yesterday when we met to fuck and was slightly strange with me he asked me if I wanted him to go down on me and I basically said thank-you but no. It was a strange question because he already knew the answer to it, so why would he ask me that? Then he was strange for the rest of the session like not as enthusiastic as usual, and he only had one orgasm when usually he cums several times throughout. I wanted him to piss into my mouth and he said he couldn’t go, but he’s never said that before so I think he was lying. I never spoke to him about it but after I left I felt like something was off and he hasn’t texted me since, often we sext each other throughout the week before meeting to turn each other on. I don’t know if him asking to go down on me is even relevant or if he’s just being weird because he’s not that into me anymore, or maybe he was just having a bad day. I’m not going to ask him because what we have is extremely casual and we don’t talk about feelings or overanalyse things and I don’t want to ruin it. I just want someone to tell me what they think the most likely explanation is so I know whether to find someone new or assume I still have his interest.

[Crissy_J]

Maybe he’s come to the realization that your kinks are too much for him? I think finding middle ground would be a nice change. Let him go down on you for goodness sakes! I don’t get why you don’t let him get what he wants. Some men really enjoy giving girls pleasure, and to deny him that is kind of cruel. Maybe he is craving more sensual and romantic sex and if you’re not willing to go in that direction, maybe it’s time to end things.

[charon142]

I think he was pretending and faking those so you like him or maybe when he was watching porn he suddenly thought to himself "I never made her orgasm, why?" or maybe he talked with someone about what you two are doing and they convinced him that this is wrong.
there are endless possibilities I can't name every one of them. if you're worried you should ask this either you like it or not
although maybe it was a one-time thing and he forgets it

[Anonymous]

It's hard to know what's going on in his head. The only thing that comes to mind for me is that he wants to see you cum. Giving my wife an orgasm is one of the most enjoyable parts of sex for me. She loves getting fucked in the ass too but she always cums that way, and I don't think I would enjoy it nearly as much if she never had an orgasm. Why not give him that satisfaction once in a while?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Have you considered the possibility he is only treating you that way because that is what you want?
Maybe try asking him what HE wants.

[fruitycutie]

He cums several times every session, gets plenty of oral, rough fucking, anal, I go on top too plenty. I dress up for him. What else would he possibly want?

[TommyMountainFigure]

The fact you're asking that initial question up there, tells me something isn't right. Best way to find out is by asking rather that making assumptions.

[fruitycutie]

Yeah but I don’t think it’s the sex really because he always seemed to enjoy it a lot. I assume it’s probably he’s lost interest and found someone hotter. I guess I could ask, but gotta have some self respect. Thanks though for your answer

[TommyMountainFigure]

Not all guys like mistreating their partner for sexual gratification. It's nice as a change, but all the time can be too much. Now it would be a terrible shame to lose him over something that is fixable just by talking things through. No? Notice I skipped over the bit where you made a reference to (you having some self respect?) It is mentally very difficult to have respect for AND to be able to dominate that person. Eventually one emotion will take over.. Maybe he can't handle those emotions.. It's just you'll never know unless you take my original advice.

[he-takes-a-part]

too long to read

[Anonymous]

He may have simply wanted try something new with you and eat you. He may even have caught feelings for you and wants to give you an orgasm. I suggest seeing if he asks again.