Girls, is casual sex with guys always slightly scary?
For some context, I quickly learned I'm more of a bottom and mostly met guys who identified as straight and mostly fucked women or until they met me, only fucked women. So for this reason, I experienced sex in a way that women do with the very same guys that women have sex with primarily.
What really surprised me was believe it of not, fear! Low level, ever present fear that I had never associated with sex before. Now, I am 6'4, 210 and have always been in decent shape. I have traveled and have no problem walking around any strange city with no worries. I was quickly surprised at how even skinny, smaller men could be very strong. However when I was with stronger, really built guys, I felt like a rag doll and felt almost fragile for the first time since I was a child! It is a hell of a vulnerable, helpless feeling when a guy who can overpower you, sometimes very easily, is on top of you, inside you and in the heat of the moment, looking possessed! You don't know if he will stop if you need him to, even if you discussed it earlier. I never had anything bad really happen but was always aware it could.
So, before, when I was single. If I was horny, I had sex. No thought whatsoever, except, "I got lucky!" Now? I have to make a judgement call, have a backup plan and deal with constant, low level apprehension that things could go wrong... and I don't have to worry about getting pregnant! And I'm a guy! I can only imagine what a 5'2 110 pound woman must feel like!
So, I guess I wonder if this is just something women learn to live with all the time or if it gets easier and you get more confident and less wary over time?
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