Girls, What do women/girls think of men/boys who don't masturbate or watch porn?

[FullAfterburner]

I haven't done either of them for roughly 6 weeks now. I hate the idea of it now. I'm not necessarily desperate for women as I get some looks but no one talks to me. I'm a very intelligent young man, and I'm quite humble at least I think I am. I've done my best to be so. I'm still quite lonely. I don't believe in flings and stuff although I've never experienced such things. I am a virgin. I have a lot to offer, but I feel like it doesn't really matter. I've never really mattered to anyone outside of my family apart from a few. I'm pretty sexually repressed. I can be quite angry at myself, although it has motivated me to improve on myself quite a lot with much tenacity. I don't have social media anymore, and I tend to live life a bit differently. I have been through some intense depression, but throughout the summer I've spent my time coming out of it. I have a long ways to go. I just feel like since no one really cared about me when I was down, they don't deserve me now. I don't like feeling this way, but it's like my body is telling me society is sour and to just be careful because of my trauma. I can handle it though. I know that only I can make myself happy. My problems are not for others to deal with and likewise applies for others. Being a virgin doesn't bother me that much anymore. I honestly will probably make my partner wait alittle while until I am comfortable with having sex. My religious stance is complicated/complex. I was an atheist for most of my life, but things have changed to make me believe in a higher power. I just don't believe in religious zealous dogma. I try to be a good person. I just want to be happy and live a peaceful life away from all the noise of the world. I'm trying my best to practice self control. I live quite a lonely life. I do take good care of myself. Any advice or questions or anything? Also if you read this far, please don't forget about the original question.

[abbyanswers]

Not watching porn is ideal! Porn objectifies women (and men) and is not a healthy depiction of sex. It frequently shows women being slapped till they're red, choked, and sworn at (instead of being loved and cherished) and I personally don't want to deal with that ideaology when I get a man. However, I have struggled with porn myself, so I understand if guys struggle too. Studies have shown that men who watch porn are less satisfied with their girlfriends (see the organization Fight The New Drug for stats) and if a guy is constantly on porn with no restraint, that would be a deal breaker for me. As far as masturbating? I really don't mind. I get it. You get the urge. So do I. Sometimes you just gotta take care of it. But, I can only speak for myself. Masturbating might be a big deal to other people, I don't know. I'll leave with this. Don't let anyone tell you you're 'less of a man' or 'weird' for being virgin, not watching porn or masturbating! It's your body, and no one has the right to tell you whether you should be a virgin or not. And, many people want their "first time" to be special, with that "special someone". That's totally cool, totally normal, and you are not alone in that desire either. So peace! And good luck!

[FullAfterburner]

I appreciate it Abby. It's not easy fighting urges and stuff. I think it's made me more of a masculine figure and I'm happy for this.

[iseekpinetrees]

Honestly you sound like my cousin who's around ur age though he's not a virgin anymore since I last talked to him.

I personally prefer guys who jack off. I feel it helps with many things such a sleep, keeps your mind open, keeps your labido up, plus its actually good for you. Guys should jack off 21 times a month to help clean out their tubes to prevent prostate cancer. I dated 2 guys in the past who never jacked off and they rarely wanted sex it was so boring.

You sound like a good guy I don't know what trauma you went through but work through it. Talk to a lot of people about it. Talking helps u get different perspective and clearer view on problems you face.

[Anonymous]

I think that is great.

[FullAfterburner]

Thanks. It has a lot of benefits. I think it is the answer to a lot of what is wrong with modern men. I'm not sure how much it affects women, but it does beg the question.