Guys, Why would a guy avoid cumming around a girl?

[Anonymous]

I recently started seeing this guy and we have had sex once and fooled around in other ways but he seems to be avoiding finishing with me? He always makes sure I’m pleased and he doesn’t have an issue with getting hard it’s just that he seems to stop things just before he cums. When I’m giving him head I know he’s getting close and then he will say something or have me stop before he finishes and I don’t know why? The first time we had sex he explained that it wasn’t a big deal that he didn’t cum and that I shouldn’t worry about it but then a week or so later he told me that the first time we had sex he actually did cum even though there wasn’t much evidence for it which leads me to believe he could be lying. So I’m thinking he wants me to think that he did for some reason? I’m just confused because we really like eachother and I want to please him but he just seems to be avoiding cumming altogether and will only let himself get close. Is this something wrong with me or does he have some other reason as to why he has been doing this you think?

[Mofunfour20]

I've done this to test a womans interest level in me. Men should have dick discipline so that women dont take advantage of them. Id rather she chase me than for her to expect me to chase her always wanting sex. That puts the burden of performance on her because sex is a reward for a womans good behavior, and peaceful feminine nature

[Weston_PhD]

He's likely embarrassed from it for whatever reason. Communicate to him that 1, it's safe, and 2) You want to see him cum. As if, by him cumming it's pleasuring you in some way. But communicate it in a way that it would make him think he's doing it for you and your pleasure. Then affirm it when it happens as if it turns you on. As if he did the right thing by cumming for you. (Not to mention this is good advice for any female when your man cums)

[SunnyFlorida]

Reminds me of President Bill Clinton with Monica Lewinsky. The guy probably has fears that you may use his semen to somehow blackmail him or get yourself pregnant.

[RasberrySlushPuppy]

Maybe he doesn't actually explode semen out, just air.

[Iron_Man]

Perhaps he is really shy and nervous

[Asker]

I just don’t know why someone would not want to cum

[Wise4myage]

That's really weird. He needs to know how much that bothers you and how much it affects your self esteem when it comes to pleasing him. He's being selfish in my opinion.

[Asker]

Thank you. I am just confused because I dont know what he would be getting out of not cumming. He still initiates everything regularly like he wants to it just seems like he’s worried about it for some reason

[Wise4myage]

Shyness could be an issue as well, but yeah, 99.9999% of guys are always gonna cum.

[Asker]

It’s also weird because I know he could easily cum if he just LET HIMSELF. He’s like restricting himself from doing it

[Wise4myage]

Yeah, maybe he suffered sexual abuse trauma as a child?

[Caliguy88]

Prob nothing with you. That’s weird though. Once I start there is no way I’m not finishing.

[Twalli]

It's possible he thinks that cumming in your mouth us demeaning and he's afraid he won't like you as nu h if he cums during sex

[In_Trance]

No idea. He'd have to answer this

[MasterKS]

such a weird dick!

[Abdulwahh]

Maybe his afraid his load is too little or too much

[Hardme69]

He could be gay and figuring it out, or his fetish is to finish himself. He could also be embarrassed if he cums a small amount