Does receiving pain give you pleasure?

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I once wanted to know if it would work for me as they show in erotica. I was very curious to know so I experimented it by getting slapped, groped, and getting whacked and spanked extremely hard on my butt with my hands tied. It almost made me cry. All I received was pain on my cheeks, some painful red marks on my bottoms, and not pleasure. I realized it wasn't my thing. I still do like getting spanked but not in an aggressive manner, and I would never try it again.

Although it's not my thing, I've seen people talk about how they like it. I don't understand though. Do acts like being slapped, groped and getting aggressively spanked give you pleasure?

Mia-Wallace · Accepted Answer

Yeah, it does. But that begs the question: What is pleasure to you? Is it an instant of high reached impatiently, or is it long and gradual gratification miixed with and reached through an altered state of mind?

Even subspace (it is a state of euphoria) does not always need aggressive spanking and whipping. Little sub activities and surrendering can also lead to subspace when emotions are strong and your consciousness is completely focused on your master.

Also you have to be a sub in need of discipline, and also (at least) a little masochistic to have "funishment" (fun punishment), let alone subspace.

Psychological need always comes first in BDSM. Physical pleasure doesn't magically happen after being spanked and most of the time the pleasure is not purely sexual. Also even subs need preperation to fully enjoy aggressive spanking. It's foreplay, just not vanilla foreplay. You start slow, gradually increase the tension, and end up somewhere in space.

About pleasure, there are different "paths" to it (to release the same hormones), and because of her or his needs, a sub needs and enjoys one of those paths to pleasure. Pleasure is usually prolonged in BDSM and rewards are slow but very intense. You have to be into delayed gratification.

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

I'm a painslut for sure. Recently discovered I enjoy being slapped (firmly, not hard), in the face and I've been working on choking with my partner.

I have an extremely high pain tolerance and need quite a lot of stimulation to break through the barriers I've grown up holding around me.

Fortunately, with my partner, I know I can trust him to look after me and genuinely cares for me. So I can trust him to "hurt" me without injuring me.

That relinquishing of control and the stimulation of pain are both super enjoyable for me. But it isn't for everyone and that's more than okay.

If you ever need some experiencial anecdotes for your erotica, shoot me a DM. Happy to chat if it helps you tell your story. 😉

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

The brain loves getting a buzz from the likes of Endorphins.

these are candy chemicals for the brain.

the normal way the brain gets a buzz is through pleasure, then they are released and end up in receptors feeding the brain candy.

The other method of getting ‘candy’ is from Pain and from fear.

Within BDSM it’s fairly well understood how the psychology of it all works and how pleasure , pain set up is.

Here is a good article.

https://medium.com/spnkd/altered-states-of-consciousness-in-bdsm-dc1399631fa

This is why a lot of Dom’s and Dommes understand mental health or have worked within the mental health sector.

it’s also why a lot of the stuff in porn is so wrong lol.

Mofunfour20 · Accepted Answer

People take the path of least resistance to diminish the probability of pain and suffering. Its the one constant in life, everyone will experience suffering. How you handle it is your coping mechanism. Its not normal to conflate pain with pleasure. Wheres the wellness in that?

Cassie_94 · Answer

I don't get any pleasure from recieving pain myself, but I have kicked many guys in the balls before (bullies, exes and in sparring sessions etc) and that has always given me great pleasure, joy and a sense of power, yes :)

loves2learn · Answer

Nope. Receiving pain does not give me pleasure. Sex should not hurt.

MTC29 · Answer

No pain, and no humiliation, ever. That includes me and my partner.

Starrisunset · Answer

Light hair pulling or being held down by my wrists is pretty nice, it gives me that submissive feel without actually being in physical pain. Physical pain doesn't work for me.

nolabels · Answer

I like a good firm nipple clamp and stretch. It hurts so good!

RedFever · Answer

Yes! Spank me! :) Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease! I like the image, by the way. Handcuffs. I should get some.

summiter · Answer

Not really

Ms_Vanderquack · Answer

No, inflicting it does.

MotorcycleMan · Answer

Not my thing, although just a little bit at just the right moment can heighten the sensation.
Maybe you could try doing a lighter version, like the light spanking. Enough for the stimulation, but not causing pain. For some it's about the sensation, but for many it's all about control or loss of it.

TheLawAroundHere · Answer

No, thank you. It has to feel good to feel good.

I dont like inflicting pain, either. In the 1st summer of our relationship, my wife and I went to Lake Erie to camp on the beach. At the first nightfall, we head to our tent. We had been drinking with her aunt most of the afternoon. So its safe to say that neither one of us were paying that close of attenton.

I reached in there and hooked the end of her IUD. She yelped and jumped a foot in the air.

After a few minutes, we start back up. Thats when i noticed that "Big Ed" was having no parts of it.

That was the first and last time i ever got that aggressive with her.

Dannymadness · Answer

I don’t get it at all. Pain is by definition not pleasurable (for me)

Luminair3 · Answer

Being slapped and choked surely wouldn't be my thing either. I also like getting spanked as far as it's not aggressive. However I like the pain I receive when my butt is grabbed and my breasts are groped.

Somegirl408 · Answer

yeah im a masochist

elizamichale1 · Answer

well i like it only a little not much though i like being spanked n my hair pulled a little in doggy n in blowjobs but not the bondage though

JennBITx · Answer

It does for me, but then again I am a Dom

Nik1hil · Answer

You did it all wrong!..

"I'm talking about getting slapped, choked, whacked etc"

It's not physical pleasure in these things...
They will always be painful...

There is psychological pleasure..
Make a man you are +95% in love with do these things to you... Or a man on who you are crushing...

These things shouldn't be brutal.. And they will give you psychological pleasure..

rcljr · Answer

Yes, love it when she squeezes my balls hard enough for it to really hurt but not hard enough to do damage.

chriscdi · Answer

Nah that shit looks like a hurts but whatever floats their boat i guess

Subarugirl · Answer

Yes but not sexual pleasure

es20490446e · Answer

It's sexy because of the submission, although there other means of showing that without the pain or self deprecation.

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