Guys, if your wife or girlfriend slept with a lot of guys before you, how would you feel?

[succubus_girl]

Would it be a turn off? Would it be a turn on? Would you want to hear about it?

[rjroy3]

I baseline assume a girl actively has 5 pseudo boyfriends in her life when I meet her lol. Makes life easier and is true enough in many cases.

I've had girlfriends that months into us dating "Confessed" to talking to another guy when she met me and her asking if I knew about it. I said of course I knew, I'm not an idiot. I just didn't care lol

More than one girlfriend had that short convo with me. It's pretty common. I also was talking to other girls by the time they met me in most cases so why would I judge.

But even if I wasn't I wouldn't judge because why should I care if she ultimately chooses me? Being upset about number of sex partners is petty in my opinion. Suggests you're either a massive prude or you had a severe lack of options and you're really upset about that.

That's like a guy that gets insanely angry about a Tiger Woods type cheating on his wife with multiple women who were throwing themselves at him. Then going on to say, "if I were him I would NEVER do that"

Like shut the fuck up lol. Multiple 10s all year long actively getting themselves in your presence, decked out and putting the moves on you everywhere you go and you're not the least bit tempted? The lack of empathy is astounding.

I apply that thought process to girls and sex partners. I get it. You're young. Hot. Horny. Options ever present. Guys you like are hitting on you. Guys you don't like but you're attracted to hitting on you. Guys you don't like and aren't attracted are hitting on you.

Pretty easy to see she probably slept primarily with guys she liked and was "choosy" in that sense. Not that she didn't sleep with a lot of guys but primarily guys she was into.

Pretty easy to see she probably slept with guys there wasn't really a deep connection but she was attracted and horny just like guys are and had sex.

Pretty easy to see she probably dealt with some butthurt guys she just declined entirely. It all makes sense.

Also makes sense a lot of girls would lie about it or hide it because she doesn't want to be perceived as a slut. Because having a slut reputation makes it harder to get a serious committed relationship in the future.

So girls strongly care about managing that perception and will lie, change facts, or bend stories to make situations not their fault so as to avoid the slut perception.

She didn't "try" to have sex just as much as the dude, she was "seduced" into it. She was drunk. She was upset after something big and she did sometimes she normally wouldn't...

a lot of girls look for excuses to do what they really want, to have sex. If more guys accepted that and didn't judge girls so strongly on it then more girls would be open about it. But oh well.

[blank_expression]

I understand the modern woman doesn’t like possession, doesn’t belong to me, and that I am the one that just happens to be with her now. From that perspective, I never form any bonds that might be misconstrued by my girlfriend as being possessive and in that light I don’t care. At the same time I know that we are on a hormone high and this shacking up won’t last long anyways, so in that case idgaf about body count. The way it really works is if a guy is into a girl, he will become possessive and be concerned about her past flings, relationships, or what have you. Everything has a price and once you get a taste of a lot of it, we all know it just keeps going and that is ok as long as no one is expecting a ltr.

[Lliam]

I have no interest in knowing. I never asked a partner about her body count and no partner ever asked about mine. I think to do so would display an immature attitude.

If I've already assessed her enough to be partners with her, then her past is of little concern.

[God_of_Thunder]

N/A - I wouldn't date/marry someone that sleeps around like that, so it wouldn't happen. 🤷‍♂️

[JBlade]

Exactly, would never get to that point.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Turn off. It means sex is meaningless to her and has no value and no intimicy, it means that I'm not special to her and in fact depending on how everything went down, it would mean she has contempt for me. If she was sleeping around with guys she barely knew and then expects me to treat her special (when she didn't treat herself like she was special) and expects me to pay for dates and provide for her to get what she gave away for free to others, that is a huge insult and shows that I'm just a tool for her.

So no, not a turn on, its a massive turn off and I don't think I would want to date her.

[Khanqueror]

Completely agree! A smart person here 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[TruthBringer]

NAILED IT!

[hellionthesagereborn]

@Khanqueror @truthbringer Thank you

[TheorionMage]

As long as she's free of STD's whom she''s BEEN with is no more MY business, than whom I've enjoyed (past tense) is Her's. Us being BOTH divorcees, the day we mutually committed... we granted one another blanket amnesty / no secrets. NO ONE can approach EITHER of us claiming 'privileged' invasive knowledge to extort and alienate the other~

[ChrisMaster69]

Nope not really.

would be hypocritical tbh

[Red_Arrow]

It would be best to know the gal better BEFORE marrying her. If you are okay with it, then everything should be fine.

[Chriscunning]

My wife had a few, and I have a feeling there are some shameless one nighters she hasn't told me about. But it doesn't bother me. Lots of guys do the same thing and they not judged as badly. If you like sex and you a girl, well lucky you. Besides I prefer girls who aren't worried about it, they enjoy it and they more confident when it comes to the bed room.

[ohshee]

The same way that I do today with my hands my tongue my lips my body no that's her past I mean is she wants to tell me about it that's cool but what you did in the past as what she did in her past it's her business

[summiter]

No big deal... our past is our past... I have no regrets.

[spartan55]

It means she will likely be a hurricane in the sack.