Guys, do you feel submissive when your partner is on top?

[Jemini_Crocket]

This is a thing I spent my yesterday's evening talking about with a friend and he told me he dislikes having his girlfriend on top that it makes him feel very submissive (which he hates).

That really suprised me, I've never heard it before. I know guys are usually the more dominant ones but I personally am a so called "switch", I do enjoy to be both sub/dom, top and bottom and would love to have a guy who likes to give up the control from time to time.

I also think just being bottom doesn't automatically mean you're submissive.

[NamerOfStars]

Not really. Maybe it's because I've never really gotten into the whole BDSM-type mindset, or an artifact of how I've kept sex to within a relationship, but I've always seen it as a more mutual, continuous thing; liking a given activity isn't really reflective of deeper personality traits. Sure, I suppose having her climb on top and take charge is kind of submissive, but I mostly see it as a sign of her desire. Wanting to feel wanted is probably more common (and frequent) among women, but it's not unique to them.

And you can't beat the view with a stick, so what's not to like?

[TremorJay]

If a girl takes initiative and gets on top of me (i. e. I don't have to ask her to do so) I would typically feel wanted, not dominated.

I think it's more about attitude. Something like "lay down", can be said with a dominant tone, but it can also be said with a nurturing tone. I think we're talking about intentions, which is a bit deeper than actions like simply being on top.

[ChrisMaster69]

Nope not at all, sexual positions have nothing really to do with sexual dominance.

A Dom is quite capable of telling his sub to ride him.

[Mofunfour20]

No because she'd never be able to physically subdue me. Not attracted to women that weigh more than I do

[exitseven]

nope, sometimes I like a different point of view

[Kilapan]

The first time I hear that, it is very strange. I think the opposite happens to most of us, having our partner on top makes you feel dominant because you force your partner to jump like a bitch in heat while you grab her tightly by the ass or waist.

[kellytheman]

I like being the submissive one most of the time just love her enjoying herself hopping up and down on me getting and taking what she wants from me. I like her telling me what to do to please her and call her a good girl or some other dirty talk.

[IncognitoBandito]

It does feel like she's a little more in control in a good way.

[TallAnon]

Not at all, lol

[Hanrej]

Bottom as in physically being below the woman? Nah, doesn't make me feel submissive.
I do like submitting though.

[SamFromFL]

Don’t feel submissive.

[OnTheLevel]

Not at all