What am I doing wrong? Is it me or he is just too nervous? Help?

[xxGamegirlxx]

Im a 19yo and just started dating a guy 1 year younger then me (he's 18).
The problem is, well it happend two weeks ago at his place. (I am a horny ass girl) We were watching a movie and we both knew we were going to have sex later that night. He is still a virgin and i was of course a bit nervous because all the guys i have previously been with/had sex with, were at least 4 years older then me, all had sex before so they knew what they were doing. But this is new for me, just as it is for him.
So... the problem occured when we were having pre-game and i noticed he was hard so i was even more excited, cuz i haven't had sex in a long time, and when we got naked, his boner was gone. I tried to help him and it didn't work.
The next evening we did the same, and it happend again. Am I doing sth wrong, is he too nervous? please help me. I really want to satisfy him and of course have sex with him, but i dont know what is that i am doing wrong. Help:(

[ohshee]

Okay so relax first of all I don't think it's you in order for him to get a boner I don't care what anybody else does it has to come from him he has to want it you can suck his dick you could jack them off you can do anything you want the naked in front of him if he doesn't want to get a boner he's not going to get one it's that simple so it's not on you it's on him that's the first thing okay so next time you're horny and you're with him and you get naked start making out with is inside your body on top of years sit on his hips actually sit on his cock slide your hips forward slide your hits back slide your hips forward and back and just gently massage them with your pussy in that moment his brains going to have to make a choice he's either going to say no which there's no way he's going to do that you just have to be patient it keeps sliding forward and back getting wet even let them feel that they don't feel what it feels like it just keep going until he gets hard what you gets hard push down hard so his cop goes in between your pussy lips and your pussy straddles each side of his cock do it in slow motion see Deuce him reach down and give him a little kisses Whispering this year how much you want him the moment you feel him put his hands on your hips that's when you know you got him turned on I mean there's all kinds of things like this you can do

[Anonymous]

Yep, nervous.

Dont make any issue of it at all, just proceed as best you can as if it hadn't happened at all; you can still kiss and touch etc and be intimate etc.

Try not to be aggressive / demanding as this just puts more pressure on him and emphasises the problem.

Its not a choice that he is making, he wants to be with you; it is his unconscious mind which is preventing him so he might not know himself what it is that is triggering this but you should still have a conversation about it because if you dont then it is just an elephant in the room. I would guess that your experiences with others are intimidating to him, concerned that he won't be as good as some other guy and then as life likes to do to us this became a self forfilling prophecy which then compounded the problem.

The past doesn't matter, you aren't with those guys now you are with him, he is the one you want.

[Bricealan]

Relax, guys that age lose their hard-on easily, because they are nervous. It is common, nothing wrong with you or him.

[magiusX26]

you are both putting too much psycholigical pressure on yourselves. likely part of the problem is trying to plsn it out causing expectations in (at least his mind) to be too much to lice up to making him worry he will mess up something, somehow. instead of going through all the ritual undressing etc, next time your watching a movie or what have you and assuming its an appropriate setting (you two completely alone with full privacy of no one walking in on you) reach into his pants and start stroking him gentley and a little bit nonchalantly, then work sonewhat slowly from there. much better chance that he will stay hard (once the initial shock stops for him) and get more into it the longer he stats up for you.

[MysticDevice]

I'm pretty sure he's just nervous. First-time jitters can really suck sometimes so just ease him into it until he calms down enough to keep it up. Maybe start with and over the pants handjob and slowly work up from that as he settles down.

[Yourfriend2021]

He's just nervous, so try cuddling and let him do oral on you first.

[dudeinohio]

He's nervous.

[Huldusonur]

He's nervous. Just take it slow, or get him a little tipsy, and it might work

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

A girl going for younger has major control issues/is out to invalidate (which is what happened)

[xxGamegirlxx]

it honestly just happend. we went on a vacation and i met him there and i didn't know he was younger then me. its not about control for me. i just want to have a normal relationship with him.

[FamilyGuy2020]

I don't think that you're doing anything wrong I just think that he's nervous is all just take things slowly.

[Anonymous]

I'd bet a bundle that he's nervous. You're not doing anything wrong, but I would advice going really slow and tender. You have more experience, so you should take the lead. Go real slow, Really tender, No rush whatsoever. No frantic making out. All smooth and under control. Mutual massage might be useful. Show him how you like to be kissed, intimately touched - where and how and when. Patience rules. Good luck.