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I am a 13 year old girl and not very good looking, will I ever find love?

i'm a 13 year old turning 14 this year and very unattractive. My younger sister's and my mom are so beautiful like I am not kidding. I am literally so ugly. I'm scared I'll never find love because literally all that matters for men (especially today's men) is face, body and sex. One of my biggest dream's is to get a family ( I really want kid's in the future) I am also quite good with kids since my whole life I have been taking care of my younger sibling's, I have 5 younger sibling's and the youngest just turned 2.

Literally all guy's want today is a girl with an instagram model face with big boob's and huge ass and porn star skill's. They don't give a damn about personality. I know that there is guy's out there that isn't like that but they're impossible to find. I myself have never seen or heard about a real guy who doesn't only care about look's and sex.

According to men I am overweight, I am 154 cm and 49 kg. (108 lbs). I have seen so many guy's that doesn't want a girl over 45 kg. I myself don't care about look's, height or anything like that. I just feel like it will be impossible for me to find love in the future since I don't have a beautiful face nor do I have a beautiful body. ( I am not looking for a relationship right now, I know I'm too young but I'm worrying about the future.)
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Thank you for giving me hope in the comment's and sharing your experiences. I really appreciate it !
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  • Okay time out first of all you're 13 trying to be an 18 year old in the next 5 years your body is going to change your facial features are going to change if you're have any Baby Phat that's going to disappear but here's the thing if you were totally relaxed and you were a normal 13 year old girl just having fun not trying to be an adult yet you totally grow right into your body the way you're supposed to but you trying to be an adult right now and worrying about everything that you shouldn't be your stress your hormones and everything is supposed to be just nice and pleasant and become who they want to be you're going to change him by having a chemical imbalance relax you are who you are I would guarantee that you're beautiful I hear three words that you're very beautiful person on the inside and that you care about a lot of things you have five years to relax and then you get to become an adult and you'll ask yourself what the hell was I thinking when you have to become an adult you're not going to want it because it's terrible I wish you weren't so young I would ask you for a picture so I could see it so I can look into your eyes so I can tell you everything about you but now you just need to totally relax and be a kid okay quit worrying about what people your age you're doing. Don't be a follower be a leader show your friends who you how to do by being your age

    • Thank you I really appreciate it!

    • It will all work out

Most Helpful Guy

  • I used to go to college with 17 year old girl who was sexy as hell and DROP DEAD GORGEOUS!!! EVERYBODY wanted her!!! But, SHE thought she was fat & ugly!!! I've met or heard from a number younger girls that thought they were ugly and, before long, they turned into super models!!! My "niece" was a scrawny, skinny, gawky little 8 year old the last time I saw her in person. She looked like a stick figure with a head twice as big as her neck could support! I saw pictures of her in her late teens/early 20's and she could make a Bishop kick out a stained glass window!!!
    You're only 13 or 14, chances are, if you aren't gorgeous now, you will be!! This is, basically, your "ugly duckling" stage! Nearly EVERYBODY goes through this!!
    Anyway, the main point is, MOST girls your age think they're ugly but, a few years, they'll have boys either chasing them everywhere they go or staying away from them because they figure they're too gorgeous to even BOTHER with them because, as pretty as they are, they've probably already got a DOZEN boyfriends lined up!!

    • thank you that really gave me hope, I appreciate it !

    • No problem, hun! I hope it helped! Don't be so hard on yourself. Besides, even if aren't all that pretty, there's guys out there that don't care about looks and prefer to pick their women via her personality! I guess, inn a way, I'm one, too. There's been a few girls that most guys wouldn't be thrilled to be with (based on her looks) but, I saw things in her personality that were very attractive no matter what she looked like.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Girl chill, I have friends that went through the same thing! Every teen gets a glow-up, trust me. Just learn to be more confident, be healthy and practice good hygiene It helps trust me. Right now just be more focused on being a good person, with an amazing personality. Don't worry about having a family so young. You are still so young! Focus on having fun and having a good time!

    • Thank you! <3

  • It’s okay, I also used to think that way I’m the shyest girl you’ll ever meet I struggle with looking people in the eye, I don’t have a good body I’ve never been skinny, my face is average maybe a bit masculine, and I grew up not having many friends but I somehow found the one for me. I used to think that no one would like me too but that’s just how you feel.

    • thank you I appreciate it, and I bet you're beautiful!

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  • Yes you will, just no need to find it at 13, its not like you can get married anytime soon.
    Dating is also very boring at that age. I would wait to date until you're 18!! Until then focus on your interests and working out!

    • I will wait, as I said I'm not looking to date anyone now since I'm only 13. I'm worrying about the future

    • I feel you. But for now just have fun with school. There are so many girls and guy that become prettier and prettier as they develop into adults. Try not to dwell on it.

  • You may be a lot more attractive than you think. And since your are only 13, you have many years to go and during that time your looks can change a lot. And not all guys are after gals that look like models. Take care of yourself, eat well, and be friendly. You will succeed in finding love, and maybe having to fight off the guys.

    • Okay thank you i hope so

  • work on your self esteem, studies, better yourself.

    you sound like a traditional family values person and some guys will go for that. it's important how you project yourself, your confidence, values. Chubby girls get married, some guys don't like skinny, etc... don't assume all guys are the same.

    look up self fulfilling prophecy... you need to change to a positive mind set to get out of this. Don't compare yourself to your siblings.

    • okay thank you

  • Does a bear shit in the woods?

    • what is this question?

  • You may grow up to be a swan! Just because you don’t think you’re attractive doesn’t mean there isn’t a guy who will love you. Looks aren’t everything.

    • Okay, thank you. <33

  • You probably will! Also you'll grow into your features.

    • okay thank you!

  • Body image in your teens is all wrong, most teens boys and girls will see themselves differently to how the rest of the world sees them. Body changes rapidly during puberty, and this isn't anything you should be worrying about at your age, enjoy being a kid for as long as you can because your a long time being an adult. Even if you are as you say you are, which I doubt, most people are not shallow asshats, most people look for personality so focus on being a good person.

    • Okay thank you

  • 1) You don't know what guys want. You are projecting your insecurities.
    2) Attractiveness = Health + Style + Vibe (or Energy or "Personality", your internal state). Right now, your vibe is insecure.
    3) You are not even through puberty and you may not be for three more years.

    So what you can do in the mean time:
    *For health: Eat healthy, drink water. Keep junk food and sodas for special occasions. Don't skip that PE class. See if you're interested in picking up any sport.
    *For style: Look up outfits and hairstyles.
    *For vibe: You need to make yourself feel good. Find a hobby that is interesting to you. Bonus points if it's a class. You will meet like minded people and make friends.

    Good luck!

    • Thank you I appreciate it:)

  • Where do you live?

    • I live in Europe, why?

    • I haven't heard guys talk about weight requirements for a height in my entire life. Never happened.

    • The only place I've heard that from is asia.

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  • Why do you believe that you are unattractive? My wife felt the same but she was quite wrong. Cloth g and hairstyle can , are a huge difference. Don’t despair. Likely you just need an attitude adjustment or a better haircut.

    • okay, I will consider getting a new hair cut

    • "According to men I am overweight. I am 154 cm and 49 kg. (108 lbs)." You are not close to overweight. (https://www. nhlbi. nih. gov/health/educational/lose_wt/BMI/bmi-m. htm) Ignore those men. You are fine as you are and you will get plenty of attention if you can just say hello.

  • Large boob & butt sizes are overrated. They grow during pregnancy anyway. By far the most important thing is having a healthy athletic body. Working out, being fit, eating healthy and being a good weight will help make you very attractive. Your skin will look nicer & even your face will look better. Don't worry about the things you can't control. Get yourself into having great exercise habits & you will definitely be attractive in the future.

    • Think of it as a multiplier: looks * personality = attractiveness (looks x personality = attractiveness) You need some of both to have a good result & athleticism is the biggest factor for good looks. Don't worry about make up, 15 min cardio exercises a day will add so much value over time.

    • okay thank you!

  • You are probably fine so stop worrying. But you need to learn the difference between plural and possessive. OK? You are using apostrophes all over the place when they are not needed.

    • I'm sorry, English isn't my first language

  • Beauty is in the eye of the beholder! Yes you will!

    • thank you

  • Girls chill. You're only 13. If he really love you he will accept who you are. Everyone is pretty, so do you. Don't insecure pls don't compare yourself with others. You're pretty with your own way. You have long journey to go trust me you will find the right person at the right time okay.

    • okay thank you I appreciate it<3

  • Be patient and work on your personality, knowledge and character.

  • 154cm and 49 kg that sound good but it still will change
    You are young and probably will grow some still
    Your body still will change
    Remember you can mostly take care of some things around it
    And believe me big boobs and ass isn't what all guys want
    Many care about your personality and what you have in head
    And that you want family and are good with kids is really good too
    And you probably talk bad about yourself but there is nothing wrong with you
    I'm sure when you grow up you will look just better and you can find good guy
    Choose him carefully there are good but you have to see and want them

    • My face is the main problem tho, you cab always change your body but not your face

  • Yes, you will find one baby girl. Just love yourself and take care of yourself first, okay? Please don’t ever put your happiness in someone else’s. There’s a lot of uncertainties. People sometimes are disappointing. It’s a harsh reality. I’m pretty sure not all men are a. holes too.


    Yes, sometimes life sucks the shit out of you that you don’t wanna move and don’t wanna get outta bed and deal with people. But hey! You got a life! It’s yours! You own it! You’re beautiful just the way you are. You gotta keep on working on yourself, for urself. Be healthy.


    All the love, arata

    • Thank you Arata, I really needed that. Thank you so much <3

  • you'll be find, just let life do what its gotta do

    • okay thank you

  • Just graduate school!
    If you can't do that basic life skill then you won't be able to contribute to a meaningful relationship.
    Focus!
    Then relationship.

    • I was talking about the future, I am not looking for anything right now

  • Beauty first comes from within and it sounds like you are already well on yr way too being gorgeous young lady. KEEP your chin up u still have hormones working hard in yr favor.🤗

    • thankyou!

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