Men, are you sexually possessive in general, regardless of the woman?

[Kazzza]

Something I've been curious about. I've heard a couple of accounts of men being possessive of even just a fuckbuddy even though they didn't really want anything else from her outside of sex.

For me, if it's a guy I'm super into, I naturally wouldn't want him seeing or having sex with anyone else. If it's something super casual and no strings and I had no feelings for him, as long as he was being safe and we were using protection, no big. I've just had a guy friend recently tell me that being sexually possessive over a girl isn't necessarily indicative of romantic feelings, it's just guys being territorial. Just wanted to know what each of you personally thought.

To put my question more succinctly - are your feelings of sexual possession borne only out of the sexual relationship itself or because you actually have feelings beyond something sexual for the woman you're having sex with?

[Anonymous]

I think humans in general are too complicated and diverse to limit possessiveness (and most other behaviours) to either A or B. It can never be that simple. It is likely to be multifactorial. There might be for example an option C where possessiveness relates directly to male promiscuity and greed. 'I'm keeping what's mine and having yours as well.' Or option D where he assumes the she is as promiscuous as he is, and he's not having anybody's seconds. There could also be a D-1 . If she's going to fuck around and gets pregnant I'm not raising the little bastard.
In general I think women are at least as possessive of their men as men are of their women. You have a 'no strings casual relationship' and think it's "natural" to not want him seeing other girls. I'm not being critical, but it is amusing that you question the roots of male possessiveness, something that for you is entirely 'natural' and therefor normal and unquestionable.
My bottom line is simple. Possession is another word for ownership, ownership is slavery, and that is just plain wrong. We all need to get over ourselves.

[HugoThe2nd]

I'm not sexually possessive in casual relationships, not even at times when I get to share a partner.
I feel that knowing they are interested in others creates distance between me and them, which is not only fine with me, but is in fact the preferred scenario for me.
No reason to feel possessive, because I never want to possess a casual partner in the first place.

It seems to be a different story when it comes to those I'm emotionally attracted to, however.
Recently I realized I'm quite jealous with someone I like, something I haven't experienced much of before.
There, any signs of distance do not feel good for me, because creating distance is not what I want in that scenario, clearly.

So I have to conclude that it is not the case for me.
It apparently takes the desire for more for me to feel jealous, and that's not a factor in casual relationships.

[Pj1981]

This is just my opinion but if I'm sleeping with someone regardless of the connection I don't want them sleeping with other people and in the past when I found out a friend with benefits was sleeping with someone else I didn't get possessive or even mad. I just refused to sleep with her anymore. When it comes to men being territorial I think it's just something that has passed on since cavemen. In fact some scientists believe the very shape of the penis was developed for territorial purposes. For example cavemen took what they wanted from cave women and if a male had sex with female the next man in line could have sex and the shape of the head of the penis would pull the semen from the last guy out with sex letting his sperm have a greater chance of reproducing. It's just one idea but shows guys are territorial and have been for a long time

[spy4in]

Yes, human sexuality is continuously monotonous, so if it's a partner you want to keep more than 10years yes, possession ii's must.

[888theGreat]

They become that way

[Bdsmaster]

Can't say about others but I am very possessive that way, if someone belongs to me then they are mine.

[BennyClark]

We shouldn't be putting labels on relationship so black and white. You can be married but love physical friendships with other. Sex is sex and we all deserve to have fun.

[Kazzza]

What.

[CubaPirate]

Not at all really. I'm not a "Bryan Ferry" ( Jealous Guy). And if you can't trust your partner you shouldn't be together

[Hulk30]

male nature generally is territorial the unicorns of our sex ain't but most are it has nothin to do with romantic interest dumb shit but that's how it is

[Kazzza]

Geez

[Anonymous]

No but if she seeing other dudes I can use it against her later if I want to. If I dont relly like her but we been fuckin and she then tryna get me to commit I be like no u been fuckin these other dudes don't talk to me.