There should be an other button, every child is an individual with some ready to learn and face factual in formation.
Also you can be restrictive in the actual detail and language used, it’s not about providing warts and all information, it’s about proving a level of facts they can understand.
My daughter when she was 5 saw my sister kissing her girlfriend, this led to a chat about sexuality. We gave her factual information in bite size chunks suitable for her age.
We then regularly updated her as she grew older, slowly increasing her level of factual knowledge.
Based on the questions and opinions I’ve seen on GaG she knows more factual information than some adults on here (especially sexual health).
Also in the real world, school is a place of learn in the playground, kids are sponges, they pick up anything connected with sex from older siblings, friends, internet, tv etc, they then talk about it.
We have questions on here, if you can pregnant from dry humping with clothes on. That’s not the asker at fault, that’s a parent.
Also everyone says a suitable age but never gives one.
it’s up to parents for each child, however by 11-12 every child should know factual information about sex, sexuality, about sexual health and critically about the real risks, about unprotected sex, about STD’s, about peer pressure, about guys pressurising girls. The big one though is consent, repeatedly go over consent.
also kickboxing and Taekwondo etc should also be taught as a back up to that consent thing…
Idiotic. Anybody can become a parent, unfortunately. Maybe she'll show him how to masturbate for his 5th birthday.
Was it me? I did that. My husband did not disapprove.
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I bought the age appropriate book “it’s not the stork” (ages 4+) that truthfully and in age appropriate terms explains bodies and pregnancy and briefly touches on sexual intercourse.
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I think failure to explain or being untruthful does way more damage.
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That said, baby brother is now almost 6 and he is not there yet at all. Know your own kids. That is the best way to determine what is or is not appropriate to share with them in terms of sex and body parts and such.
Yeah, this honestly makes so much sense especially with older kids having to deal with a new sibling. They end up having so many questions, how can you not tell them? I don't buy into the whole idea of lying to them about it either. That just shows them a trend of you being ok not telling them the truth.
I totally agree. In fact I think lying about sex can be incredibly damaging to them later in life. Not to mention the parents credibility. Honesty (but not verbose) is always the best policy. 😊
@loves2learn No not you, I saw the post in some other platform.
It's not about age itself, it's about how we'll the child understands the concept.
At 4 I doubt they're really going to get it.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!My mom was a nurse on a labor and delivery unit. How a baby was made was definitely shared as well as weird baby names, STD's, menstruation, medical conditions such as a prolapsed uterus, and all kinds of other things was normal dinner talk growing up. It's fine.
The way I see it is like this. Kids are going to be curious about more and more things in this world as they get older. My brother was already playing doctor with a neighborhood girl by like 6 or 7. I'd rather they know the closest to the truth that I can give them rather than them hearing something from a friend and taking that as the the gospel truth instead. I also want them to feel like they can come to me for anything and feel comfortable I am not going to make it weird for them.
You can approach the problem of 'where babies come from' biologically, without giving away too much details on the mechanics (intercourse) or endorphins (hormones and lust) which could be misinterpreted as instructions or encouragement.
I'd say something like "Every cell in our bodies contains DNA which is what makes every person unique and special. One half of your DNA comes from your Dad, and the other half comes from your Mom. Both your Dad and your Mom have special cells that can join together to make a baby. Making a baby is something that only adults should do, so there's time to learn about that when you're older."
An "appropriate age" is usually the age they are when they ask. A child often has questions about how things happen, including sexual questions. You can answer by giving them the small amount of info they need to satisfy the question, you can lie, or you can refuse to answer. Lying gives them bad information and leads them to mistrust you. Refusing to answer gives them the impression that you consider the answer to be a bad thing. A small amount of explanation usually satisfies their curiosity at that time. As they get older, the questions will become deeper and can be answered with more depth.
I don't see a issue with it. I have a 7 and 4 year old and I'm currently pregnant. They both understand how the baby got in there and how it's gonna a come out. I'm not trying to raise sheltered kids that don't know where babies come from.
Hell yes, @apple1996 good parenting!
@loves2learn thank you! My youngest is super into the baby and even has the pregnancy + app on his iPad to watch the baby grow and learn about what happens each week. So he is really gaining knowledge for the future 😆
@apple1996 that is really fantastic. It is a big deal! He is about to be a big brother! This is a big moment in his life.
I wholeheartedly believe the better approach when it comes sensitive topics like this boils down to one thing; honesty.
I wouldn't normally expect a 4 year old to ask such questions, but if they are asking, it's time for them to know. Be open and honest, demonstrate that it's natural. If I had a child, which I do not, I'd rather they ask me, rather than possibly engage in risky behavior out of curiosity. I imagine most parents would agree with that.
I think it’s fine. I wasn’t graphic when my first was young when I was pregnant with my 2nd. But, I didn’t tell my toddler fairy tales either. Both my kids have grown up in a well educated and stable house.
Lovely. 🥰
It's the truth. Children can handle the truth.
People don't realise teaching kids about this stuff early actually prevents them getting tricked by pedo's and rapists. So yes i do think it's correct, plus i wouldn't lie to a kid so if they ask i tell them the truth it's the basic need of learning and trust.
100% yes. This. They need to know proper terminology and ok touch/not ok touch.
They really do, thankfully people from my classes we knew pretty much all knew this stuff very early thanks to shows we shouldn't be watching and just general talk in schools. But i still think even then there was probably kids not fully in the know. And we did talk about safety stuff in assembles. But i've know people abused from 4 in such way's who just were never told that was wrong, mostly people who are from before my time. Which now, it's more we would know this would be wrong. While other factors like been scared may still keep us quite or something. We aren't getting tricked to just think that's the way it's supposed to be. Which is only a good thing to know. Watching and learning about how it worked in 60s etc to years in the past and stuff with Catholics just never teaching there kids about this stuff never crossed there mind and how back then lot's of people got abused without knowing it was wrong, just confused, all sorts stuff. Today it would be mad in the place i live that some 13 year old didn't know that was a wrong thing for a teacher to impose a sexual act them, but back then they didn't even know what sexual acts were. It makes them look dumb and at fault but it's the way it was taught to them or should i say not taught. Just really scary stuff.
Yes. I absolutely agree. And often the children don’t know they are being abused because it feels good and they think it is consensual. That is a really confusing thing for an abused child.
This so needed an "other" button...
My son is nearly 3. We had a lovely girl working for us last year until end of May because I was in hospital then in a wheelchair. She's left us now I'm able to use a prosthetic, and because she gave birth in late June. My son was totally enamored by the pregnancy and the thought of a baby growing in her belly.
He asked questions about it and we only answered what he asked. No details.
As long as you talk to a child at the same level they are at they'll ask what they're interested in. Don't force more information than they ask for and it's fine
No, what she did was wrong to talk about sex to that 4-year-old
I heard of a woman who loss her son and daughter all in one day well
the little boy said to his mother why did he have a penis and his sister
didn't have one and was different well she came out and told him that
Jesus cut her penis off to make her different well the little boy found
scissors he cut his penis off and as the father was holding the boy to
rush him to the car to go to the hospital the little girl walked out in front
of a car and got killed by a car.. So see people got to watch what they tell
their kids and the little boy hemorrhaged to death and died and the little
girl died from trauma due to a car hitting her.
On one hand, I'd prefer not to lie to them but, on the other, it may rob them of their childhood and innocence. There's also a good chance that,, at that age, they won't remember it, anyway. How many things can you remember from when you were 4?
Well actually the kid would come out pretty smart young, my little bro learned shit earlier th
An normal kids cause of his big brothers and now he's more mature at his age and knows more than the usual 16 year old
Yes, 4yo is too young. What's the matter with people these days? I know... they're fukkin dumb.
Introducing children to the concept of sex at a young age can be detrimental to their development. That's how porn addiction can start ladies and gentlemen
No, porn addiction comes from exposure to porn. If you answer a child's questions they are less likely to look for answers elsewhere.
@EnglishEuropean you seriously think children won't research what you just told them about? Lmao naive
I mean, do you seriously think children won't find porn without adult supervision?
I don't think children should be mentioned when they grow up. sounds like such a disgusting term to me hey son/daughter i fucked your mom so many times she finally got pregnant with you. bad 🤢. he will learn this when he gets married or before he gets married anyway, I think it should be like this @crispycookie u?
Keep it at 5 bcz at 4 s/he can't remember it #child amanicia
There isn't a clear answer. It's important, I think, to have age-appropriate answers to such questions. You don't answer it the same way for a child that's 4 and one that's 14.
That's way too young. Why are you putting that information in a 4-year-old's head?
I wonder what the parents of the little girls in his preschool would think about her doing that.
4 years old the child barely knows about him/herself. 2 mins after that conversation it was forgotten by the child I'm sure of it
Not my kid :)
Not your kid? Will for get the Convo you mean?
It was 5 years ago. He still remembers it and the boon I read to him that explained it.
I agree with you and her husband. I think its pointless.
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