People in committed relationships, when did you feel comfortable enough to get rid of condoms?

Question

I am a bit nervous to fully rely on my birth control.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't think it's a set amount of time. I think it's when you trust the other person, you know you're both disease-free, and you're sexually exclusive. It takes communication to get to this point.

Assuming all of the above check out, many forms of birth control are very effective if used correctly. I'm on the pill, my boyfriend and I have been having unprotected sex on the regular for the last 1.5 years, and all good here (knock on wood lol). No, but seriously, I'm very good about taking my pill and I've never been worried. If you're on antibiotics or take other medications/supplements though, make sure you ask the pharmacist if the other drugs will impact your birth control.

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

With my ex, I waited around 2 months or so after starting birth control (so maybe 3 months into the relationship).

In my current relationship of just under two months, I'm already on birth control but we're still using condoms as he's just waiting to get clearance on STIs.

FunkyMonkee · Accepted Answer

I've never used them!
AIDS didn't exist when I was fucking girlfriend 1, it had only JJST reared it's head days before I started fucking girlfriend 2 and the only other guy she'd fucked (recently) before me was her last boyfriend, my guitarist, IF she fucked him at all!! (She recently complained to me that his dick was so tiny he could barely fuck her at all) And girlfriend 3 (8 years later) wasn't the kind to fuck around and, the last guy she fucked was her ex-hubby who'd recently had a sex change.
Only girlfriend 3 ever got regnant by me, twice, and, both times, she aborted. girlfriend 2 had an IUD and I suspect girlfriend 1 was wearing a diaphragm each time.

EssenceOfLight · Accepted Answer

Usually it takes few weeks after commitment mutual loyalty. However condoms come sometimes back because the girl thinks she gains weight, has breasts pain, has mood swings... etc because of contraception pills.

MORPHEUS_12 · Answer

When I was your age and in a committed and still with him for almost 28 years we just condoms and I was on the pill. It was not a STD concern since we were each other's first. Our biggest fear was pregnancy. Nowadays, it seems it's less about both dilemmas. The smartest thing we did was not have kids.

Comesaveme · Answer

my boyfriend (well now ex, sigh) was horrified by the idea of birth control and its side effects so just said that we would stick to condoms.

loves2learn · Answer

Well 1 year in hubs decided to try a bit without the condom and pull out. That lasted about 10 seconds. I was on birth control. No biggie.

KrisPW · Answer

Once we are invested in each other, and trusting, my concern goes more toward birth control than disease. If we were to decide to do something with others, disease becomes a concern again and condoms would be required.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I had been tested since my previous partner and she had also been tested. She is 57 years old and pregnancy is not an issue for us, so we had no reason to use condoms.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Was tested the other month as was my girlfriend. just went straight to the sex without condoms thing. we trust birth control enough.

TrueConfection · Answer

When we got married, we decided we wanted children and so we wouldn't "prevent". I got pregnant on my honeymoon. We were both happy, but surprised it happened so easily.