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In a fight my boyfriend said he finds my vagina disgusting, struggles to be into it looking at it all it does is feel good?

How would I know if he said that out of anger or he meant it?

He goes down on me 6/10 times. He went through a stage he wanted to do it a lot. Then stages he didn’t.

Then he goes down on me about 2-5 mins and uses his hands more than his tongue.

But makes me sit on his face.

He doesn’t get super hard going down on me until he uses his hands because he can see my orgasm. He gets semi when licking me out and has pre cum. After sex if he licks me out he doesn’t get hard. There’s times he licks me out and doesn’t get hard too.

He more often than not does go down on me but he also uses his hands a lot more no watches.

He also begs for videos of me. And wants me to pee in his mouth

If he was disgusted by my vagina would he do these things? Or should he do it a lot more and that’s why.
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  • I am a little confused, because I like to have a girl lay down, open her legs and let me look at her vagina, clitoris, urethra, and even her ass hole, as I like to see 'what they look like" My present girlfriend said: " You don't want to see it" ! I don't know why unless like some women she doesn't think it looks good. I always remember that in most sexual encounters, the man does not want to or get to look at his girls pussy, directly, he only wants to get his penis in it. Many times, on a first date, if that is the case, I want to eat the girl out first as I want to see her completely nude, and see all her parts, nipples, clitoris, her pubic hair (if god forbid she hasn't shaved it all off or lasered it off) her inner and outer labia, and the opening to her vagina, BEFORE I stick my penis in it.

    When I was younger, I was not used to seeing the inner lips protruding out through the large labia, as my one girl friend in my 20's had 'closed outer lips' and I had to use my index fingers to hold them open right at her clitoris so I could get my tongue directly on it. Not knowing you, him or what your "vagina'" ( I assume he means your entire vulva, and not your vagina - vaginal opening? ) Later on I realized that many woman have protruding inner lips, that sometimes protrude quite a ways out and even sometimes overlap the outer lips. That cannot be helped and guys have to get used to it.

    Back to my present girlfriend, she is 'BONE THIN' 5'4 and 108 pounds. The first time I tried to finger fuck her, I could not feel any outer lips and only the inner lips, that seemed to be 'dry' Never having seen her in daylight with her legs spread, I don't know what her 'vulva' looks like.

    As far as him only having a 'semi' hard-on sometimes, that is not really unusual, as sometimes guys get so involved in eating you out that the erection goes a little soft. My closed lipped girlfriend would almost orgasm when I ate her, and I had a throbbing hard penis to put in her when she was having her orgasm. Him not being fully hard should not be a problem. If you like sitting on his face, indulge him and hopefully enjoy it.

    • So you took ages to get into outies? You prefer innies? What do you mean about your girlfriend being thinner? Does she feel better?

    • So it’s because she almost had an orgasm not cos she was closed lipped?

    • Nothing wrong with her being thin, as I am thin too and she wants me to put on a 'couple of LBS" I really don't have a preference for closed lips, it was just I had not seen the larger inner lips sticking out, like many do, as I understand that is the most common, Marie, is healthy as I am and we go and do a lot, I just wish she would let me see her pussy. Marie had a 'screaming' orgasm on New Years Eve and it scared the hell out of me, not used to screaming orgasms. Thanks for writing me back. Appreciate it

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  • Well either you hurt him really bad or you told the truth about him really bad and he has to find a way to hurt you and he went straight below the belt this is fucked up when things like that happen in a lot of different ways but it's the same time don't be angry about it think about it for a minute he is showing you exactly who he really is how are you would really treat you when something happens. Instead of being mature about it and dealing with it the right way he has to hurt you back and that's just wrong no matter what you guys are going through no matter what was said or done for this evening start he just proved who he really is

    • So you think he meant it? He does find it so ugly etc?

    • I don't know I kind of think when a couple fights and one person hurts the other one by being honest or whatever then the other one has to get back by saying something mean so what was the fight about if you caught him doing something stupid and he was 100% cotton. The only way he could hear it or get out of it was to say something mean to you

    • And if that's the case that's just fucked up if he did something stupid he should just stop admitted apologize instead of taking it deeper and further wife making you feel bad

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  • It’s not unusual for people to say things they don’t mean out of anger and/or to hurt you. But with personal jabs like that I can’t help but feel like there’s not at least a little bit of truth behind it. Like maybe there’s something that’s bothering him but it took an explosive argument to drag it out. Clearly your vagina isn’t all bad, because of everything you guys do. But I do think it’s worth a level-headed discussion because I don't know about you but I find it very offensive that he took it there and you deserve an explanation.

    • So he some what meant it? If he was completely turned off by it why is he aroused going down on me and why even do it at all?

    • Well like I said — clearly your vag isn’t all bad, considering all that you guys have done and still do. But yeah, I think he somewhat meant it and it took an argument for him to say his thoughts. It’s really rude and disrespectful though, I hope you call him out and that he can be honest without a fight making him do so.

  • even in fights, a man should be respectful, he would be if he cares for or loves you... if a man said that to me we would be done, sounds like he said it to hurt u out of anger... why would u be with someone whod do that? think more of yourself... and love yourself... that would hurt me so bad i could not be into him again... id end the relationship.

    • also he might said it so u are insecure an dont ever cheat, i say drop him.

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  • Heat of the moment I think.
    If it doesn't look good he wouldn't eat it simple.
    As for pee, next time do it while sitting on his face to see if he really wants it

    • But is that why he goes through stages of wanting to eat me out then not, then preferring to use his hands and getting more turned on by using his hands than licking me out?

    • Could be personal. Maybe he feels like hands is more pleasurable to you so he does that to see you in pleasure

    • He gets harder from watching himself use his hands because he sees it squirt out as opposed to eating me out. But he wanted to do it loads over a period of months then not over another few months

  • I'm thinking the whole purpose of your post is to give everyone a blow by blow on what he does to you. No one, except horny guys care. Why don't you go to the source and ask him what's going on.

    In a fight my boyfriend said he finds my vagina disgusting, struggles to be into it looking at it all it does is feel good?

  • Wow - you do a lot of analysis and tracking of statistics. Do you have a clipboard and take notes during sex? lol

    Just kidding. I am sure he didn't mean it. But it's not great for your relationship for hurtful insults like that to be tossed your way.

    Don't let him pee in your mouth. You have to draw the line somewhere.

  • Then don't have sex with him until he feels differently about it.

  • From what you share it Sounds like he has his own issues he needs to work out. I doubt it has anything to do with you.

  • Probably did it out of anger if he does all those things.
    If he says it again, then cut him off and tell him what he said.
    And if you two keep fighting, maybe time to find another boyfriend, just sayin'

  • I think he's said that just to be hurtful and that's a really horrible thing to say to a woman.
    I've yet to see an ugly vigina and I've seen quite a lot.

  • Time For you to start Seriously Sucking His Dick.
    I think he was just angry and said something he didn't Mean.

  • your boyfriend has coombrain disorder it's often associated by high porn consumption, that explains why he wants you to pee in his mind, next thing will be u peeing in his ass or worse.

  • Don't know why he would say that. Vagina is attractive; it is penis that is unattractive.

  • Tell him if he doesn't like it he won't have to look at it again, then shut him off.

  • Yuck... you might want to get away from that guy. It seems like he's working through some weird confusion about his sexuality. His comment was probably pretty hurtful and the way you described how he treats you makes it sound like he doesn't want to want your vagina.

    • Then why does he ask for videos and lick me out etc?

    • You'd have to ask him. It seems like there is some odd feelings happening there though.

  • People always say truth in anger...

    • But he tells me when I annoy him he says anything to piss me off

    • But babygirl he use this tricks to give u hint that your vagina is dirty...

    • He didn’t mean dirty he meant it’s unattractive

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  • Out of anger or not I'd be taking my vagina to someone who respects it enough to appreciate it. Or be sure to let him know that he's got a tiny penis that never pleases you. Even if it's not true it will make him think

  • You need to stop taking notes like it's a scientific study of his dicks behaviour, while he is eating you out.

    There is some truth to it yes.

    Drunk and angry people often say out what they mean, but what they normay wouldn't.

    • What truth do you think there is

  • Oh boy... He has a love/hate relationship with your vagina. Not You... Important distinction. He might be scared to be a Dad, have guilt from watching tranny porn, or have a woman he can't forgive.
    Bottom line... Those kind of insults have no place in a relationship! Sometimes they happen in the heat of the moment, sure. But, If he is not able to go into why that was his go too thing to hurt you and why he wanted to hurt you to begin with... He is unwilling to grow. That is my only dealbreaker. People must be willing to trend toward positive growth.
    Another thing. He needs to have all his shit worked out Before you guys talk. No point arguing over something the other person still needs to collect their thoughts around. This is something women could really help themselves out with: a heated argument is not the time to analyze internal dramas. The man and woman should do that separately and then reconvene to discuss using their best thought out meditations Only!

  • Wow! now that's a low blow. (No pun intended)

    I have a temper myself and I have said some nasty stuff to people that I absolutely did not mean but never ever this bad. I mean there are things you do NOT say even when you're a hot-headed maniac like me.
    I can't say he meant it or not, but I think it doesn't matter. If my girlfriend said something like that to me I'd seriously consider leaving her.

  • I think he was mad and he didn't mean that

  • I’d tell him that he wouldn’t see it ever again

    • Did he mean it?

    • Why does he go down on me

    • I don’t know if he meant it and I don’t know why. Personal attacks like this are very immature. Dump this loser. You can do much better

  • Does it matter why he said it? How do you stay with a guy that would say that regardless of his reason?

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