this sounds like a great deal of miscommunication and simply two people not built for sex together.
its very extreme for her to have made a comment like that "when you're going "too slow" its like you're raping me".
You're clearly uncomfortable with what she considers normal sex (choking etc, the things that get her off). PLEASE stop all sex and have a sit down together seriously to discuss how you both feel.
I would personally advise this situation sounds toxic for both of you to continue sexually, but you both may reach a compromise from speaking.0 1 0 0Thanks for reply. Relationship is over now, she never want to talk about sex. All the time she refuse me.
Yeah, definitely not a relationship that sounded healthy for you! In the nicest way, I'm glad its ended for you.
But still, I can ask more about premission to have sex. I just want to turn her on and dont know im pushing boundaries. I think something is really bad with me But maybe its because im healing from abuse from this relationship now. Because I just now in my 23 years old im discovering something like connection between two people in sex. Like can feel the second and feel together. I definetly hurt her in some way. She didn't say no but it doesn't mean yes. How I said, im so confused our of this relationship.
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She's looking for excuses to leave. She wanted you to be more Evil. She enjoyed it the whole time. She's playing with you
0 0 0 0Thabns for reply. Ok I will tell more about our relationship here. She was very abusive on me whole time. I think she was narc. I know its popular to say now but she was yelling at me for little things. She cut me off from friends, looked into my messages all these things. But truth is I didn't respect her boundaries in our sex life on start. All I was thinking was she need it like that so I will do that. It wasn't about I have control I just trying to be best in her eyes. But just because she was abusive on me doesn't mean I didn't do something wrong. And I was forcing her into that, thats the point. Forcing her because I think thats the way. But still forcing, I wasn't ask her enough maybe. I dont know im very confused about that. But again, thanks for reply.
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You haven't done anything wrong.
You didn't rape your first girl friend and that can take a lot of time to get past, maybe some never do.
Your second girlfriend just wasn't sexually compatible with you and thats fine.
Hopefully girl number 3 will not have been raped and will not get off on being raped and all will be well.0 0 1 0Thanks for reply. But I know and feel I didn't ask her enough. Like I just do that. I need sex and just think how to get it and think this is the way - be agressive and pushy. But how I said before in comments, im healing from this relationship more than just sexualy.
Maybe i misunderstood. She is saying that you raped her? No means no. You should be talking about what sort of sex you like and what you want to do in order to gain informed consent and understand your partner.
She just say we maybe did something bad to each other. I mean, we was together for two years. This issues happend during maybe first year of our relationship. When I realize im hurting you, I was very aware of what im doing. She was very on/off with me In bed. Sometimes she tells me im awful, or yunk. Sometimes she want sex. And I can't answer you, because I dont know. She never want to talk about sex.
Bro, I'm sorry. Please don't feel bad; I don't think it was your fault. But this is why they say "don't stick your dick in crazy.". If a girl says she wants to be raped, you RUN.
0 1 0 0Thank you a lot for that. Another reason why I was act like this was - she tells me before she liked when one guy choked her (not sexualy) and she almost collapse. She tells me she LIKED THE FEAR OF THAT. Next time she tells me she met a guy on street, he pull her hairs and she get wet because of it. In some way this crazy things was atractive. It was new. And because she tells me things like this, I was act like idiot and think this is the way. Now how Im telling it all here I realizing these things. I complete forgot she tells me these things before. It was reason why I was trying. Thank you again.
Yeah, she crazy a f.
No problem. Just remember for the future to stay away from women like that.
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