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Why do people, particularly men get hung up on their sexuality?

It seems that some people take their sexuality too seriously, do you agree or disagree?
Like straight men that can't even talk about their sexuality or become very uncomfortable when anything out of the normal range of straight sexuality is discussed. Or women who insist they are straight yet have sexual desires or experiences with other women.
Why do you think that is? It is because they are affraid of what others might think of them? Or they don't want to admit that they have a curiosity or desire?
Do you believe that if you are completely comfortable with your sexuality that you should be able to discuss any sexual topic, or should you only discuss topics within your sexual orientation?
How honest you are with yourself about your sexual orientation and curiosities, even if you are not honest with others?
This is a question about personal feelings and not religious beliefs.
Anon answers are welcome, so please be honest.
Why do people, particularly men get hung up on their sexuality?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • When I was a teen I stopped being open about my special interests because at that age we tend to care too much about being a part of a social group, even "outcast" groups form around their own communities. As I matured I realized that I'm still very "different" and that distancing myself from things that make me "odd" is leading me nowhere, in fact I was unhappy when I wasn't just embracing what I truly love and ignoring the world around me.
    I simply never considered that I might be Autistic, bisexual or enby until I stopped thinking of LGBT+ and neurodivergent people as a part of the "other".
    Thankfully I was born into an accepting environment and never taught to hate those people or see the things they do as a sin, for a lot of people it's a lot harder to get out of this mindset and be more honest with themselves or just not care if something they do doesn't perfectly fit within their strict definition of masculinity.

  • How honest am I? I'm always honest with myself and with others, especially my partners... and I don't have a problem with it, being open about ir or talking about it...

    I also do not have problems with everyone else and their own preferences, whoever they're into, what their preferences are... it really really does not bother me, whatever your orientation or sexual preference is I am okay with that, I grew up among diversity... so to me is just normal, and I do not have bad connotations about it because people in my life have been "normal" good, kind people... and yes, sure, there's also bad ones but it was not about their sexuality.

    I do care more for something else... if you're a bad person that's hurting others, then I might have a problem with you but I won't have a problem with your sexuality, it will be with that little rot inside your hear and mind that's making you being shitty to others.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I completely agree. People get really defensive about their sexuality and hung up on labels. Just be your authentic self, let others do what is right for them and live your best life!

    • Yes!

    • Couldn't agree more, I don't like labels and don't label myself, I just enjoy life and the things it has to offer. I also do care what others think of me, but it fascinates me as to why other care so much what people thing if them.

    • I agree with you

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  • I believe people always think what others think in terms of social norms etc.

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  • Dan,
    I agree with you 100%. We should not be afraid to talk about sex. It is just sex after all. I have found that some of my European friends and Aussie friends are far more open about it. I think we are way too conservative in the USA.

  • You’re not wrong. Sexuality is a continuum.

  • They are insecure.

  • You sound like a porn addict. Jerking off to porn tends to give this outlook. Like, all that depravity and soon you start believing it. Next it's 'all people are bi', everyone does group sex, all women like anal, your dick is too small cuz they don't cast normal ones.

    I think YOU'RE the one that's hung up on your sexuality.

    • It's absolutely nothing to do with porn, it's about people inability to discuss a sexual issue that isn't in line with their own orientation and why that makes them feel awkward. I guess you're not so good at reading, probably too much porn from all these years of jerking off has made you blind. But thank you for providing my point exactly!

    • There ya go... you just tipped your hand.

    • Ok thanks 👍

  • because humans are a slave to their hormones. fun fact: if you give women testosterone to match that of a man, their sexual behavior becomes much like that of a man.

  • yeah people feel obligated to say that they're gay/bi/pan/literally a potato like cmon thats not the only thing that makes you, you or special

  • Because culturally it is taboo. Especially when it reaches into weird kinks.

  • You see a straight man disgusted by gay mens affection in public towards each other and assume he's homophobic when that's not the case and he's disgusted by all types of too much pda

    • Why do you think someone would be bothered by pda by anyone?

    • Me personally I just dont care for it, im more private with my affection i guess

    • I am a bit bothered cuz sometimes it doesn't look aesthetics.

  • The hangups might have to do with the influence of conservative religions. Where I live, Ireland, the catholic church is still hugely influential - prolife for example. It's enough to prevent open discussion (thank god for the LGBTQ+ movement) of sex in any way shape or form.

  • I'm completely comfortable with my sexuality, I know what I like and want. Straight man who likes women. Everyone has their preferences.

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