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Only having sex when boyfriend is drunk. Is that normal?

Hi guys & girls,

sorry for oversharing.. but I’m starting to get really concerned!
When I started dating my boyfriend we had sex all the time. Multiple times a day, disregarding how much we worked, where we were, during long distance when we had a long drive to see the other person. And the sex was great (I would say that it got much better now).

Recently we hit a couple of the big milestones: we got married, moved in together and recently I also got pregnant (I’m 7+ months pregnant aka have a massive belly).

I don’t think I’m a supermodel but I think I’m ok look wise (or at least before it seemed to be ok with my boyfriend).

Now in the couple last months I notice that we hardly have sex at all (and I do want it all the time). Again coming from multiple times a day to once every 6 weeks is freaking me out. I also noticed my boyfriend is totally not interested when he is sober. The only times we are hitting it on is when he had a lot to drink. Not blackout drunk but very tipsy.

At this point I don’t know what to think. Is he not into me anymore because of the pregnancy (baby bump & gained weight), is he having an affair is he gay (as you can see I’m going down a rabbit hole).

I know that the best thing would be to speak to him and ask him but I’m too afraid of the answer. Yesterday night we had an anniversary I had some gifts for him (was not angry that he completely forgot about it) I tried to initiate sex, offered him a blow job so that he could just relax but nothing he declined everything said he is tired from work and just wants to relax & went upstairs to play video games with friends.

Does anybody have any suggestions or ideas - please help & thank you in advance!
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  • Some guys, for whatever reason, get weirded out about pregnancy. Some are afraid to hurt the baby, and some are just weirded out by a pregnant body. And some pregnant women are disgusted by the idea of sex, while others have never been hornier and would fuck 12 hours a day if they could. There's no way to predict how people react to pregnancy - most are fairly normal about it, but not everyone is.

    Anyway, it seem quite clear that that's the problem here.

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  • It seems he has became less and less interested since you're pregnant and 7months in is not long to go before birth. That's quite odd to still be calling him boyfriend when you're married, husband. How would you describe your general relationship with him?

    • At the beginning of the pregnancy (which we both and especially he were very excited about) we had still a lot of sex. It changed recently and then I also noticed the having sex only when tipsy thing. I don’t call him my boyfriend In front of other or at all to be honest, obviously he is my husband.. just wasn’t sure about here. He is very sweet and caring and we do cuddle. He says he loves me but we just don’t have as much free time together it feels like (that we purposefully spend together and laugh and talk). I just feel like he works, when he is home he eats/ sleeps or plays video games with his friends and I’m not getting any time. Gifts are great but I’m not too obsessed with them but for my birthday we just had a dinner and that was it (no card, no small gift, no sex) at the same time he buys himself very expensive things all the time. I know this is silly and wrong but I feel like the last thing how we connect deeply is over sex and now we are not having that anymore. Obviously I know I need to speak to him and only he can tell me the real reason. It’s just that not knowing and not being able to prepare to it is my worst fear. So any suggestions or experience is welcome and helpful.

    • i can't begin to imagine how you feel in all of this. You need that connection at an emotional level and its not there. I dont think anyone can prepare you for a talk, you just need to stay calm and listen to what he says, i think you two do need to talk to each other. Lots of pregnant women have sex, it's not unhealthy. The issue aswell after pregnancy is that you may not feel ready to have sex for a while, perhaps bring this up as then the time period will be longer. If he says he doesn't feel attraction when there's a baby inbetween and a large tummy, he can't help the way he feels. It may not be this, it may actually have been his mates typically telling him his dick will touch the babies head. Until you talk to him you won't know.

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  • It sounds like the pregnancy is the issue for him, it might be that he doesn't want to do it because he feels weird about it either because he thinks it might hurt the baby or just weird because he's banging his dick into his unborn child, I know this isn't how it works, but for some people the visualisation of a baby inside is too much. Hopefully things will return to normal after the baby but I do think it's something to speak to him about and maybe together you can find a solution.

  • The best thing to do is talk to him all gag can give u is speculation and guess work which could be from him cheating to being depressed to not being attracted to you or his sex drive changing talk to him

  • He might be afraid of hurting the baby or it just freaks him out about doing anything sexual while his baby is swimming around in your belly this is pretty common. If it’s worrying you this much you need to talk to him about it maybe take him to your next appointment and have the doctor explain the goings on about sex while pregnant

  • Fuck no that's not normal

  • It’s irrational, but maybe, like other guys who knock their women up, he is worried about damaging the fragile fetus?

    • I’m super attracted to pregnant women!

  • Hey. I think I've gone through this just as u said it and well not the part about being drunk or tipsy. But it relates a lot to me and well i dont think he is gay or not cheatting for sure. Just a phase that happens, so dont lose it be calm and maybe sit and talk or relax before thinking all this crazy stuff.

    • If u wana message me. Feel free

  • weird

  • I don't know how other guys are doing thaty but I never had Sex more than once a day and I could and would never have more

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