Can you live a sex free lifestyle?

[Anonymous]

For me I can lead a sex free lifestyle (no sexual intercourse with a guy). I’m afraid of having sex with a guy. He might expect me to do certain sex acts that I’m not comfortable with and if I don’t do what he likes he will be upset, maybe there’s a high chance he would leave me. I’m happy to lead a single life. No worries about not pleasing your partner in bed (not everyone is good in bed), no fights/arguments. Why would I need a partner if I have Wattpad? Wattpad has stories that can satisfy my sexual and emotional needs.

The fictional male characters can satisfy me whenever I need them. When there’s a chapter where sex acts are written, I don’t have to be afraid whether he will be turn off by my body. In Wattpad the guys will make me feel desirable and wanted. They don’t expect me to shave down there, they find me super hot even though I don’t huge boobs and butt. I feel so comfortable fantasising about being in an intimate sexual relationship with them. But when I have intimate sexual relationship with my ex boyfriend I felt extreme anxiety, unloved, he doesn’t find me hot. He doesn’t care if I’m satisfied all he cares about is about me satisfying his needs it’s as though my needs are not that important.

I remembered Wattpad turns me on countless times that I find real romantic relationships a pain especially when it comes to sexual intimate relationships. Those guys always make me feel desirable something that my ex can’t give at all. Whenever I feel horny and alone I have Wattpad. I feel that real life sex gives me more anxiety about how I might not fit into a guy’s expectations about how naked women’s bodies should look like.

[Anonymous]

I couldn't no, but there are plenty of people who do. I do feel however that you have developed an unhealthy view of sex and yourself based on your experience with your ex boyfriend and that somehow you think that all men are like that and somehow you are not desirable. Using fantasy as part of your sexual routine is great but as a replacement is a concern. Fantasy isn't real just as pornography isn't real, and if at some point in the future you decide you do want a sexual relationship with someone, these things can impact your satisfaction levels and happiness in that relationship.

[Asker]

So not all men will get upset just because their partner is not into sex acts they like? Will that make them regret having them as their romantic partners? How can these fictional novels have the ability to impact satisfaction levels and happiness in the relationship?

[Opinion Owner]

There is more to a relationship than sex and yes most people have things that their partners aren't into they just suck it up it the person is right because that's what adults do. Idealising fantasy is a problem and using it as the solution to self esteem is an issue that you need to look at. Fantasy is fine as long as knowing that no relationship is ever going to be like that. Real life is a challenge and even the most compatible people will still have differences, the problem will come when you start to compare a real life relationship to that which is depicted in a fantasy or romantic novel.

[Asker]

I find that romance sexual novels always show that guys sweet talking romantic stuff and started to seduce the reader into sex. But I don’t think guys always use sweet talking every time.

[Asker]

When I was 14 I thought novels are the same as real life relationships but after doing research on relationships I find that it’s completely different from fantasy novels. The novels didn’t show compromises it’s always the guy agreeing with the girl and not the girl doing the same thing. They don’t show much struggles, they always sugarcoat everything.

[Rudon00]

I know how you are feeling. Rest my friend. Don't be rushed or hurry to get back into any relationship. Learn what makes you unique and special. A healthy sexuality start with love yourself and carrying value. Something no man or any form of sex can give up.

Be good to yourself my friend

[Asker]

So is it really possible to find a guy who isn’t really upset that my sexual kinks and his don’t match at all? I’m just afraid he won’t find me desirable when we are about to do something intimate

[Rudon00]

There are males out there who will not measure you by your sexual fantasies or how well you can performed in Bed. Because I'm one of the those males. loving the person for who they are and striving together to become each other best friends is what makes intimacy an experience like no other. Be strong myself and for now enjoy being single and discover what you like sexually about yourself

[Asker]

Hopefully I can find a guy who wouldn’t dump me just because my kinks don’t match his and I wish he will love me for who I’m. If my favourite sexual acts and his are different will he get mad?

[Rudon00]

And you will find that person who will love you for who you are and vice-versa. I won't mind if my partner sexual acts were different from mine. That is something very trivial and no healthy relationship should be base on sexual favors. Intimacy is where we both explore and discover both our likes and dislikes as we explore the erotics and passion of the unity of our minds , Soul and body

[Asker]

That’s good to know thanks 😊

[Rudon00]

Amen Sis

[Asker]

Is it also true if a woman doesn’t shave down there her lover will still have sex with her?

[Rudon00]

Of course. Many people have there preferences. Some will like a shave genital while some will favour it natural. I'm one who favours it natural. Don't let it be a deterrent for find that suitable partner. You continue to be patient and enjoy your singleness until that time comes. Hope I answer your question.

[Asker]

Yeah I agree. Single does have advantages and disadvantages too. Some people especially some women their goal is to get a partner. But when they can’t get they go around stealing husbands. That’s why I don’t focus my goal on finding the right guy, my goal is to live life to the fullest. I’m fine with both single or married life. It’s no good to be upset when you’re fated to be single that’s what people told me

[Asker]

For me I’m not really into guys eating me out, because I will have to shave plus to me, saliva is involved so yeah not for me. Thanks for the info too 😊

[Rudon00]

To be single or married is a choice not something that is left up to fate. "That’s why I don’t focus my goal on finding the right guy, my goal is to live life to the fullest. I’m fine with both single or married life" What you mentioned above means you are whole and complete in yourself and for that very reason your a healthy candidate for a potential relationship. You're not broken. But understand and appreciate the love and value for yourself.

[Rudon00]

Yeah I understand your opinion. I'm not a fan of oral sex. it does not aroused me. I'm more into the conventional type of sex. May I ask you a personal question. Do you masturbate?

[Asker]

Used to. But now I don’t

[Rudon00]

Why is that? Not that anything is wrong with your choice.

[Rudon00]

Oh thanks for the MHO!

[Asker]

I used to masturbate too much until I can’t feel pleasure

[Rudon00]

Wow that is excessive.

[Asker]

I only need to shave my underarms which is an easy thing to do. I expect my partner to shave his face too since I shave. But I don’t expect him to shave down there because he’s more likely to get infections

[Rudon00]

I 100% agree with you. I will love my partner to also be well groom

[Apple1996]

I cannot live a sex free life. Sex is very important to me and it's how I build a connection with my SO

[Almost10inch4funlol]

i would probably become a porn addict 🤦🏽‍♂️😂😂😂🍆👀💦 so probably not lol

[BobbyC65]

I'm already living a sex-free lifestyle All I need is nakedness and masturbation and incest porn. 💞

[Anonymous]

Porn is no replacement for a healthy sexual relationship. Sounds like your ex was a piece of shit and incompatible. I'd recommend talking through your problems with a therapist then trying to find a real person who appreciates you both romantically and sexually.

[Anonymous]

Sure, its called being asexual and lots of people live that lifestyle. Not sure I could do that though.