Do you ever feel like your partners not into you?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone
My partners been distant lately he's not interested in me our sex life is nearly there anymore even when we have a drink together he's no interest we only give eachother a peck before bed and that's because I do it if he goes to bed before me he dosnt do it
he's also just always on his phone he went downstairs at 5.30am to get his phone then sat un be while I was trying sleep on his phone
I really think he's interested in someone else
When we actually do have sex he takes ages to get hard and it's like he's having force himself into doing it I give him lots of foreplay and all stuff he likes still no better
I just feel hurt and alone I want feel like were in a relationship not a friendship

I ask him all time if anything wrong he always says no its just like he has more of a relationship with his phone than me

What would you do or thinks going on

[cryscrys1]

You have many signs that things are wrong
Also your intuition never lies
Read what you wrote.. your answers are there.
I know you don’t want to get hurt you probably like the guy a lot.. but you also don’t want to spend your life with a guy who doesn’t deserve you. You deserve the best.
You are saying sex is dead - that’s a very very red flag
You are saying he spends much time with his phone and falls to sleep with it - red flag again
He is telling you nothing is wrong etc - he is taking you lightly. A true man a good man wouldn’t leave it at that.. saying nothing is wrong like he should tell you more that he loves you that he is going to pay more attention to you etc.


I’m sorry but I think he is cheating
I hope I’m wrong but you have to step out of your zone and ask more qs be more demanding. If he acts the same no love , no nothing going on please RUN

[DonkeyDan]

I wouldn't naturally jump to the conclusion that he is seeing someone else although that is of course possible. It is likely that something else is going on and by the sounds of it he likely has some ED issues, either because of a physical or mental issue. The only way it's going to get delt with is if you speak to him directly about the problem and offer to support him through it. Lost of men don't even want to acknowledge the problem and use other things as distractions, like the constant use of the phone for example.

[Jake99999]

Your instincts are correct there is something seriously wrong. Talk to him very directly and ask him. Tell him how you feel. Have a heart to heart talk with him. If he won't open up or admit anything, and acts like everything is fine... are you really going to believe that? Clearly he has gone cold on the relationship for some reason. So you can be miserable and try to guess and send questions online to GAG, or you can talk to the person right next to you directly and find out where you stand.

[MrCommodore]

He may not be cheating, personally I don't think he is cheating based on what you shared do far.

in my opinion he either lost interest in you sexually (weight gain or familiarity etc) or is having erectile dysfunction issues which he is deeply embarrassed about and is avoiding sex now.

[moviedude714]

Do you think he might have settled for you?

[MrSwisher]

He's definitely up to something, if he can't get it up that means either he has ED or a related issue or he's empty because he's cheating