What do you think of Bachelor Parties?

Question

Do you believe they should not be organized as it kinda of promotes infidelity and abuse from either part? Many people will say "well it is just one night, and it is for the groom or bride to be free and enjoy being single for one last time before entering the serious life of being married. How bad can it be some could say. Also some say that the bride should not be upset with her groom about it, cause it is "just one night and one time to be with his buddies" nothing will happen, really?

I will attach here an excerpt from a man who posted on some blog on the internet. It follows:

"Im a man and I dont attend night clubs or go to bachelor parties either where there are hookers and sexual explotaiton. My buddies call me "fag", gay, " your girl dont let you go... Men in bachelor parties with prostitutes (exploited women) move around like herds, they get turn on, touch, suck, abuse and pay for sex, they pay for private dances among several men. Yes, yes many of them are married, some have gf`s, many are "in love" and they pass the ladies like they were a "thing". It is like seeing a herd raping a girl. The friends pay the groom one or two private sessions so the groom "become a man", so he has to get laid before marrying, and they spend lots of money..

It is sexual exploitation, it is cheating, it is macho violence.
I dont want to see my friends behaving like rapists, I dont want to see my best friend behaving like a cheater to his wife as she is also my friend. I dont want to see the buddies I care, paying for a blowjob. Some will tell me: " They work on that beause they want to" and then I say to myself: I wish they really want that and enjoy that, but the majority of women suffer violence, women trafficking, abuse... it is exploitation!!! Im not gay or faggot, im brave, and conscious and I respect women, period."

What do you think of what this man said on this post?

Bluemax · Accepted Answer

My "bachelor party " consisted of me and 4 of my friends renting a boat and sailing to Santa Cruz island for a weekend of camping, diving, kayaking, and spear fishing. No strippers, no hookers. Just good friends, good wine, good food (including fish we speared), and good times.

Other than that, I've been to only one bachelor party, my best friend's. We ate a great meal, then he and I smoked cigars, then we went to a strip club. The strip club was my other friend's idea. Interestingly, SHE'S A WOMAN! Our woman friend coordinated all the strippers. Who got lap dances, etc. I honestly think there's a future for her as a bachelor party planner. After that we went to a restaurant we call the Polka Plaza where they serve German cuisine and there's dancing. There were three women attending this bachelor party! They participated in lap dances as much as the guys did.

Another friend of mine had a bachelor party where they rented an RV and went white water rafting on the Kern River. Men only. No strippers. No hookers. I wasn't invited. 😥

Another friend of mine had a bachelor party in Reno. Men only. They went to numerous strip clubs. And then they headed out to a legal brothel called the Cherry Patch, which would later change ownership and become the brothel featured in an HBO series called Cathouse. I wasn't invited, but I was riveted by my best friend's account of it. Three of my friends hired prostitutes, including the groom. How that's not cheating I don't know, though they have been happily married for almost 25 years.

Jake99999 · Accepted Answer

I don't like the concept of the typical bachelor party where its an excuse to get wasted and chase women. When I got married, I did not have a "bachelor party", I just went out for a few drinks with some friends. We had some laughs and enjoyed being together. Chasing women, strippers, etc were not in the picture. I was about to get married to someone I am madly in love with, why do I want to go to some strip bar or try to get laid?

I think these bachelor parties are more for the guys that are not getting married, then they are for the groom. Its an excuse to go out and act like an ass for people who like to go out and act like an ass. Just my view on it.

I feel the same way about a bachelorette party. If its male strippers and going out to get laid, etc... just as scummy in my view. I don't agree with it. I don't think its healthy.

But hey, a lot of people think its one of the best times - go figure. Everyone has their own thing.

kyleelyn199723 · Accepted Answer

I hate them. I am going to a bachelorette in a month and my boyfriend is going to a bachelor the same night and we both aren’t thrilled because people use them as a hall pass to do whatever. We both would rather spend the night together but we know it would hurt the groom and bride if we did that. We will probably be spending the night texting each other while at separate parties. Honestly love that me and my man established that kind of loyalty.

VIVANT · Accepted Answer

I don’t think going out for the night with friends is bad but the renting a person and passing them around for sex it’s disgusting. I feel terrible for Women and Men stuck in that position of like he was saying hard rape.

but a simple party, I have no problem with. 😊

Rob70 · Answer

Not all bachelor parties are wild and out of control. I have never been to one where Hookers were hired. I have been to a few where we ended up at a strip club. Most clubs have rules about touching the girls in the first place. I have never had a friend that went out on his bachelor party looking to have sex with a stranger one last time. It's usually just a night for close friends to go out and celebrate our friend for finding the right girl for him

MTC29 · Answer

Based on personal experience, that description sounds like what guys fantasize bachelor parties will be like. Most of the good bachelor parties take place in Vegas, usually when a sporting event such as a prize fight is taking place.

Usually a central hotel room is booked where the actual party takes place. There may be strippers and there may be hookers- the two groups of women are very different from each other. As far as the group calling guys fags or gay because they don't want to go off with hookers, that is total bull shit. It's a fabrication.

Violence? never. Exploitation? never. Rapists? never happens. Someone is making this up as they go along. Don't buy into it.

ZackBan · Answer

The whole idea of a bachelor party is for the groom/bride to "resist" the temptation of cheating.
It's not supposed to be a place where a spouse brings back all kinds of diseases to the honeymoon.
And other than that it's just a party there's nothing wrong with partying

DonkeyDan · Answer

No stag do (bachelor party) I've ever been to including my own ever had prostitutes at! A couple had a stripper but that's it, she did her routine and left, bi funny business. Who are these people who hire hoes for these events?

HighValue · Answer

Bachelor and bachelorette parties usually lead to people doing things that they KNOW are unacceptable and damage the relationship.

Two of the dumbest things people do when getting married is having bachelor/bachelorette parties, and having an expensive wedding that they really can't afford and have to put it on credit cards. It damages the relationship right from the beginning and increases the chances it will fail.

billmunch · Answer

I have zero problem if my wife fucks a stripper at a party

Ricky1966 · Answer

I'm fine with them. my wife gang banged four strippers.

exitseven · Answer

I am not a fan of bachelor parties either. My best friend had been married 4 times and I had 3 bachelor parties for him. The last one was the best. Myself and 4 other guys went out deep sea fishing. The first one was the usual drunken debacle. We were al lucky we did not end up in jail.
I did not really have one. Myself and a few friends went to my favorite restaurant for steaks and beers.
Today from what I her, bachelor parties usually go for a whole weekend and kids want ot go to Vegas or DisneyWorld. Give me a friggin break.

crazysassypaws21 · Answer

to tell you the truth I don't know but what best for a kid should all was be what come first i think

Tunasub · Answer

Thinking back about mine now. I would not survive it at 50 I'm certain of it... That was one hell of a night and a half...

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Don't care for it.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Some get to out of control

FreeOhSeven · Answer

Well the thing i think bachelor parties are dope! I like strippers and cigars and movies with young Tom Hanks in them! If there is an infidelity issue it does t matter if they have a bachelor party or not because even under the best circumstances marriages have at beat a 50% chance of failure. So if you throw someone who is susceptible to infidelity into the mix their chances are shot!

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Ok the guy who wrote that is a fag.

Kelly6 · Answer

these parties are fine

Clarke498 · Answer

I have a hot take about this. Because the way i see the point of a bachelor night, it should be everyone's strongest attempt to cancel the wedding. Have one night, where the bride and groom lose the rings and the commitment to them, and everyone around them has a mission to make it so when the next morning hits, they want to stay single. If they did, they haven't ruined a happy marriage, because that shouldn't be possible. True love could stand up to the hardest scrutiny.