I’m planning to get plastic surgery and will lie to my partner that I naturally had those curves?

[Anonymous]

I’m planning to get tummy tuck, breast augmentation, rhinoplasty and Brazilian butt lift. And I will never tell my partner that I got work done. To me it’s something that should be kept a secret. If he asks I will just tell him that I gained 10kg when I was 20 years old and due to me having high estrogen all the fats I gained all went to my butt and boobs naturally without working out. If my partner prefers to masturbate rather than having sex, I would find a guy to hook up often finding a guy at my work place for hook ups is stupidity. My partner will never suspect me going to the pub anyways so it’s a good place for me to go. I will save his number and chat with him when he’s not around then I will meet him at his house every 3 times a week.

I will just give an excuse that I went window shopping if I do come home later than usual. And I don’t think I will regret what I have done. To me it’s completely normal to do that. If my partner avoids sex and preferred to masturbate then I don’t think it’s wrong to have sex outside of marriage. I need to have my needs satisfied if I can’t get it I might as well get it elsewhere where he won’t suspect where I will go. I want to get married and hopefully I will find the one guy who won’t avoid sex. I’m not against cheating I think it’s alright. Of course I won’t tell him that I’m fine with cheating. Sometimes things are meant to be kept secret it would stupid of me to tell everything to a partner

[MrMilti]

I would not recommend to start a relation with a lie, because its nearly impossible to get trust back, once it is gone.

And breast augmentation is the most obvious plastic surgery, it is impossible to not identify.

How? Lie on your back. If the breast still stand upwards, they are not natural, because natural breasts will lie lower to the sides.

[Asker]

How do I find out if he hates sex before getting married

[MrMilti]

Firstly: very unlikely. Men line sex. Secondly: if he would be asexual, would you not want a relationship with him?

[Asker]

I can’t I do need sex in a marriage.

[Anonymous]

Hiding work done is not as easy as you think. From scars to the plastic feel of silicone. Out of the procedures listed rhinoplasty is the one that ends up looking the most natural and can go unnoticed.

I have nothing against plastic surgery but be transparent with reality.
Not sharing everything with a partner =/= lying. It's one thing to not tell him outright "oh yes by the way I have many procedures done to my body" it's a completely different case to lie to him. I don't think that plastic surgery is something that you need to feel shame for if you're going to go out of your way to do it.
This relationship won't go well if you're building it on a lie.

[SnakeBoop]

so you're going to be a liar... yeah great start to any relationship in being fake everywhere.

[OlderAndWiser]

Planning to tell lies to a partner indicates that you don't have a good understanding of what makes relationships work. You should rethink this strategy.

[Asker]

Do you think the sex outside of marriage is a good idea?

[OlderAndWiser]

I believe that people should be committed to each other before they enter a sexual relationship.

[Asker]

If he hates sex how?

[Asker]

And worse he didn’t say he hate sex before getting married

[AustinMan]

Like he won't see the surgical scars?

[DonkeyDan]

That really isn't going to work with the breast implants, have you ever felt breast implants, they don't feel natural and you can tell the difference.

[boggboss]

So was u looking for validation or just showing off that u want to be a shitty partner

[Miristheiss]

You have problems.

[Anonymous]

Is there a QUESTION in there somewhere?