Do you think he will want me to be his wife soon?

[Anonymous]

so i (20f) have been with my guy (29m) for about a year an a half. I had just moved to the area after a falling out with my parents after dropping out of college an i needed to show them i could make it on my own. We met where i waitress at an we started dating from there

i been had to split a place with 3 girls but he insisted i move in with him after 2 months which i was glad for an he started dropping me off at work on his way to work which is great so i don't have to wait for a bus

sex is great he really knows what he likes an makes me feel special. He been opening up an revealing more of his desires which i appreciate cause i love him a lot. He likes to be in control in bed just like in life guess i'm like his sub? He likes to handcuff me which was new for me, an he says i'm much better at deepthroating now too cause i learned to stop throwing up when he facefucks me which was always embarassing. Plus he says he loves the way my ass feels around his dick when we do anal about once a week

about 3 weeks ago he was nervous for a interview for a big position which is rare for him so i wanted to do something to help him be at his best so i rode with him an gave him the best bj i could right in his floorboard! He said it really blew his mind to do that while driving an it helped him relax an make a great 1st impression an we've done it a few more times since then. 1 time he had just taken me out to eat an as we were leaving he said "let me get the door for you babe" an instead of opening the passenger door he just opened the driver door. I just laughed an got in an went to work on him lol. We just learned Friday that he got the job so i feel like in a way i helped him get the job!

but he's really great to me, takes me to fantastic places, an can be really romantic, just last week he had a bouquet delivered to the restaurant with a message saying he LOVED me an the other girls were totally jealous! He is my everything do you think he will ask me to marry him soon?

[Anonymous]

Do you know how he feels about marriage in general? We can't say because everyone is different and we have no idea how he feels, but for your own sake, I would try not to get too swept away in the thoughts of it. I'm not trying to rain on your parade, but if he's smart he won't. I also see "red flags" (in my personal opinion). First, your age alone is too young for marriage. Some people don't feel the same way, but "experts" say it is and I personally agree. You should wait until you're 25. You should also give the relationship a minimum of 2 years of getting to know each other. And him asking you to move in with him after 2 months is moving very fast. Plus "other girls", shouldn't even be mentioned or there period (and what other girls? From his new job, or other girls in his life?). My advice, whether he asks or not anytime soon is just give the relationship a year or two more and see how it goes, then consider marriage. At your age so much can and will change still. And, if the relationship survives, it'll make marriage even more special (you aren't missing anything in the meantime). And if this is also a way of "proving to your parents you can make it on your own", that's no reason to do something as serious as marriage. My advice is just give it a bit more time, even if he does ask you sometime soon. If he's serious about you, waiting won't be an issue for him. I also think pre-marriage counselling is a good idea if you have it available in your area, especially if you are considering marriage anytime soon at your age. It will help you guys know if you're really ready for it and if it has a good chance of lasting.

[Asker]

Thank you that was very helpful. I had not really heard of this wait to 25 rule but maybe i am trying to rush things a bit. An the other 3 girls were the girls I was living with beforehand before me and him even met

[Dragonstarterplus]

Uhm maybe. Seems like y'all have really hit your stride and are meshing well together. Hard to tell when a guy is ready to settle down and get married, but I will say if he's been exclusively with you for a year and a half then that is a good sign for you. Just be sure to keep those balls drained lol

[Asker]

I did bring up being exclusive before I moved in and he agreed and I don't really have any reason to doubt his word

[Dragonstarterplus]

Well I will say if you're the only woman on his life then that is very positive

[SnakeBoop]

A year is fuck all.
But meh, this kind of screams 50 shades of grey to me, which is not a healthy type of relationship.

[Asker]

What do you mean, I've not been abused

[Twalli]

BDSM isn't abuse

[SnakeBoop]

@Twalli nope, it sure isn't. but thats not what I wrote :)

[Twalli]

OP said that

[DonkeyDan]

We really have no way of knowing. By the sounds of it the relationship is going very well but that doesn't always equal marriage. Is he interested in marriage? Have you 2 ever spoken about marriage before?

[Asker]

Not specifically about is but I'm pretty sire he believes in marriage, his parents seem to like me when we go see them

[DonkeyDan]

Well I'll cross my fingers for you.

[boggboss]

Its possible but no way of knowing when he will

[FilmGuy93]

I don't want to speak for the guy, but I highly doubt it. Your relationship falls into the stereotypical young girl older guy age range. Men at his age don't usually date women at your age as serious long-term partners.

[Asker]

Even after a year and a half? That feels like a long time to be with one person

[FilmGuy93]

A year and half is not a very long relationship when you get to be our age. It’s not insignificant, but it’s not a super big deal either.

[Jamie05rhs]

You moved in with a guy?

Then you're not making it on your own.

[Asker]

Im making it without my parents which they didn't believe I could do though?

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol. You're not making shit. You've basically been adopted by another male adult.

[Asker]

Whatever dude you ain't helping

[Jamie05rhs]

True. My bad. I'll try to be more constructive. So here's a question: do you WANT to be his wife? And if so, why?

[Asker]

Yes he is dreamt he just feels like the total package and like everything has been fate so far. After reading a few opinions i realize i may be trying to rush things alone. But still if he proposed I'd say YES in a heartbeat 😍

[Jamie05rhs]

Hmm. Have you done a background check on him yet? Not to be a downer or anything. It's just always good to dot our "i"s and cross our "t"s.

[Wise4myage]

Maybe, but 20 is awfully young to want to get married, so don't be in a rush to say yes.

[Asker]

I might be rushing maybe but if he asks me i will say YES 😍

[Wise4myage]

Stay engaged for a few years.

[Twalli]

I would wait 3 years before considering asking a girl to marry me.

[Asker]

Why 3 years exactly?

[Twalli]

I figure I will see her when she's not at her best by then and I want to make sure I can deal with the bad before marriage.

[Anonymous]

he's only using you for sex

[Asker]

Weird i don't feel used