Bisexual people: if you are in a heterosexual relationship, how often do you crave sex with your same sex?

[Anonymous]

I crave sex with my girlfriend most of the time but I do have a “friend” who comes over every once in a while to have sex with me. Luckily I have a girlfriend who knows about him and is fine with it as long as I let her know in advance when we meet up. When I first told her about him, she said she wanted to watch us together so we met and I bottomed for him in front of her. We’re all tested so we don’t use condoms. When he and I started to have sex, she looked really uncomfortable but we kept on going. When it’s just him and I, I don’t usually think how it looks for an audience and I’m just focused on the pleasure I’m getting from him and how much I’m giving him but once he was about to cum, I told him to cum inside me and I saw her look away. He was stroking me (we were in doggystyle) and so I came seconds after he did while she was still looking away. I went and got cleaned up and came back and once he left, I asked if it was awkward for her and she nicely said that we could still meet up but she wasn’t interested in watching anymore. We still have our arrangement to meet up about once a week while she’s out. I just text her when we’re done.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

It's really not any different than straight people still finding others attractive when they are in a relationship. If your happy and committed you aren't going to sleep with other women, right?
No, you can't turn it off, but it's not like I'm gonna date a girl for a year and then be like "welp, I miss dick, see ya!" I don't need a steady stream of both, being bi just means either a man or a woman could end up being my partner

[ChrisMaster69]

I’ve had 3 long term relationships with bisexual girls and none of them cheated.

we did discuss it during relationships and basically it’s like a straight person wondering about sex with someone of the opposite gender.

my last Ex, who I split with in December 2019 (she move to Australia) is now with a guy, she had a brief thing with a couple of girls but not much.

My sister is bi and she came out at 14, she’s pretty much same, if in a relationship, then loyal and does not cheat.

which is basically what we are talking about, personally how much is used as an excuse to cheat ‘sorry you don’t understand me, I need sex with other girls / men”

cheating is cheating to me

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I think maybe bisexuals are a little more sexually liberal than people in pure hetero or gay relationships are. By default we (bi people) have to accept that if we are embracing both sides of the field, that monogamy isn't really possible.

Anyone getting into a relationship with a bi person should expect third parties to enter into the equation sometimes.

[Anonymous]

I am Bi-sexual but I do not feel the attraction to the same sex in a way that I would want to have sex with them, I would want to kiss, cuddle, date and want to marry and even adopt a child together, but if I got in a relationship with someone of the same sex, it would mean sex was off the table and I understand that would be a big thing to ask of them.

It would be a big thing to ask of us both because my sexual desire resides towards females, so I could only have a sexual based relationship with someone who was of the opposite gender and that is a big thing to contemplate for the future.

I don't know how my relationship will work in the future or who I will meet, will it be a guy or girl? Will they be accepting of those types of feelings I have? Who knows, it is such a faraway thing, I cannot even guess because I never even had a lover so I can't even work based on previous relationships.

[spookiebxch]

I’m bisexual in a relationship with a guy and I crave intimacy with same sex, which is why we are open/have multiple partners. I also have a girlfriend so it’s not really an issue for me.

[snackthatsmilesback]

Wouldn't it be pretty much the same tho? You have a partner but that doesn't mean you can shut off attraction to other women, but you still control it/don't cheat n shit. They have a partner it doesn't mean they can shut off their attraction to other women or men, but they still control it.

[NathanDavis]

my last girlfriend was bisexual, and we were together for years... so I could answer "for her" on many of the questions that have been raised in this post but... not sure if you would want to take my word for it, these are things we lived and of coursed talked about it often, and her thoughts and answers were always consistent with her actions so... let me know

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Voted A- here for the comments.. Great question by the way!! I've also wondered the same thing and why wouldn't want to date a bit sexual man, because I feel he'd have needs/desires I couldn't fulfill

[Neko911]

Never. I only wanna be intimate with the person im dating. If I wanted to sleep with s girl I'd date her not a man

[Anonymous]

Same way as you (hopefully) don’t feel the need to sleep with other women when you’re in a relationship.

[Agape93]

Eh it depends. I more crave a person than a gender or organ.

[Juxtapose]

As often as I wanna fuck other women. Us guys like to spread our DNA & for gay stuff it isn't different in my experience.

Monogamous relationships are easy though, just have self disciple & don't be stupid.

[FoghornLeghorn99]

Wouldn't the urge be the same as in a straight or gay relationship.

Meaning all people's eyes wander.

[Annekoko]

I dont have a preferred gender so I dont miss one when i am with the other. But i can stil find other people of both genders atrative

[dudeinohio]

I was where you were... in a long-term relationship with a bisexual woman... she cheated on me with another woman, too. Fortunately I didn't marry her.

[JaneJina]

You should add another option about heterosexual women who date men and have sex with women.

[Loneranger1987]

Pretty often... sex with a man is usually more kinky and dirty

[Massageman]

The situation does seem although it would be lopsided.

[Dennisjf12]

Why? Because that's who I am, and I have no need to prove it.

[Anonymous]

I am bi and watching porn would be enough for me

[lightbulb27]

no idea, thankful for my girlfriend and that I don't have to think about this.