Why did the guy in my friend group freaked out after finding out that I am transexual? Did I do something wrong?

[Anonymous]

This guy did not know that i am not a biological woman. So i am transsexual woman. He often annoyed me by pinching me or taking my phone. I live in germany and i had a phase where i slept around with mediterranean men. It was a phase where i was a mess and had drug problems. This guy in my friend group was annoyed that i was hooking up with mediterranean men.
The same guy in my friend group slut-shamed me although he was the biggest fboy in the city and ask me what would I do when a mediterranean man who slept with me rape my potential daughter in the future. So he was indirectly telling me that i am disgusting for sleeping with my potential daughter's potential rapist.
I think that he tried to make me stay away from mediterranean men. We are both germans. The funny thing is that many of his friends are immigrants or mediterranean men. So i did not understand why he was kinda racist (?). Whatever, i was a little drunk in my friend's house once and had headache and this guy came to me and talked about his sex life out of nowhere and i told him that he should stop it but he thought i was jealous. Then i decided to lie on the sofa in the room since i still had terrible headache. He stroke my hair and then he tried to lay himself on me. By the way he is very tall. So he tried to lay his 2 meters long body on me which fucked me up. After a while he
tried to spread my legs. I was very annoyed and stood up and finally went home. He talked to my friends about it and my friends also told him that i am transwoman. He freaked out, cried and insulted me via text messages after finding out that i am transsexual. . We had an argument and since then i have not been talking to him. I still dont get what his problem was. Did I do something wron? Am I the wrong one?

[Anonymous]

You didn’t do anything wrong, we just have a long way to go as a society when it comes to acceptance. People are still growing up with parents who are homophobic, extremist, racist, etc etc. There still are and probably always will be parents who tell their kids that what you’re doing is wrong, that it goes against the Bible and just so many other things. But I do feel like we are gradually inching towards a place where lgbtq+ individuals are more widely accepted, even if people don’t agree with it. Sorry about your friend, but if he can’t accept who you are then you’re better off with your him. Sounds like he wasn’t very nice to you before anyway.

[Macnelon]

You did nothing wrong i dont know where you’re getting these cues to blame yourself. This guy is a misinformed and childish asshole, and he sounds like a horrible person in general, stay away from him for your well-being and safety.

[Rob70]

You did nothing wrong. The fact he pretty much tried raping you and didn't succeed is part of the problem. He was probably embarassed in the fact you rejected him and also him not realizing you were Tran's. You owe him nothing and if he keeps harassing you tell him you will press charges for attempted rape

[EaterPeter]

He had thing for you. And you had a thing on you which you may not have now. Is he middle eastern? Most of us are home phobs. He thought you are a bio woman and liked you as a bio woman. You must be really passable or taking very good care of yourself as trans.

[Asker]

He is german with a lot of middleeastern friends

[Asker]

Yes many middleeastern men tend to be homophobic in my experience

[EaterPeter]

Oh yes you mentioned his nationality earlier.

[EaterPeter]

He may be heavily influenced by middle eastern friends

[EaterPeter]

Thank you for like!

[EaterPeter]

Homophobs

[Hotassguy85]

Not at all. I wouldn't. I would have my ass bent for you to fuck a lot of times dear

[Birdlegs]

It’s cuz you’re going to make him question his sexuality so he wants to express his inner turmoil outward. Honestly if I were you I would’ve let him find out on his own then tell him to figuratively (or literally if that’s your thing) suck it then leave.

[Almost10inch4funlol]

he was probably attracted to you that’s a hard understanding of self for young men and even some old lol

[Inexpensivefurniture]

You didn't do anything wrong, he's an asshole

[Anonymous]

some people are closed minded and are afraid of new ideas... personally i would be ok with that i dont judge anyone

[Anonymous]

You didn't do anything wrong. His anger was because he was attracted to someone who was born a biological male. But that was not your fault.

Now, if you had led him on and dated him or allowed him to kiss you or do anything romantic before telling him you are trans, then you would definitely have been in the wrong.